TTC After a Loss

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Hi ladies

I m just here now after a missed miscarriage and d&c this was my first pregnacy so I m feeling quite disappointed. Also my husband has a son to his ex so I m feeling like I failed him even though I know it's not my fault.

So here I am now just waiting for that first period to come post d&c so I can start again

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  • Sorry for your loss.  Welcome to the board.  I hope that you find comfort and support from the board.

    A loss is never easy.  Take time to yourself to heal.
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  • Sorry for your loss

    4 Losses (2003, 2008, Apr 2012, & Oct 2012)
    All RPL and IF testing with multiple REs = normal

    5 IUIs = BFN

    All AL are welcome
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  • Sorry for your loss and welcome to the board! Take time to heal, and I know how you feel. Every time I don't get that BFP I cry not only because I'm sad, but because on of the reasons hubs first liked me was because I wanted kids and so does he. I feel like I'm failing. But it's important to remember that you are not failing him! :) All the ladies here are wonderful, and I hope that you find the support you need.
    Me: 24 
    DH: 25
    BFP: 1/12/14       EDD: 9/18/14     MC: 1/15/14
    BFP: 5/6/14         EDD: 1/5/15       MC: 5/10/14
    BFP: 12/29/14      EDD: 9/12/15      MC: 1/5/15
    Dx: PCOS - 8/20/14, Hashimoto's - 10/10/14, Gluten Allergy 10/10/14


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  • Welcome. I'm sorry for your loss.

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  • I'm sorry for your loss and welcome to the board. I have dealt with many of the same feelings as I also have a stepson from my husband's previous marriage. If you ever want to talk about it feel free to PM me. Like you, I have struggled with blaming myself as it's such an easy assumption to make even though I know it isn't true.

    Life is a balance of holding on and letting go.

    BFP #1 05/19/14, EDD 01/19/15, MMC 06/12/14 

     BFP #2 10/10/14, EDD 06/19/15

  • I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.

    BFP #1 7/6/2012, EDD 3/13/2013, Delivered 3/14/2013

    BFP #2 1/7/2014: EDD:9/14 MC: 1/9/2014 (confirmed via blood work)

    BFP #3 7/5/2014: EDD 3/11/2015 MC: 7/15/2014

    BFP #4 11/7/2014: EDD 7/17/2015~~Please be my RAINBOW!

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  • So sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need to heal. We're all here for support!!!
  • So sorry for your loss. Be sure you give yourself time to back emotionally and physically. ((Hugs)) welcome
  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board

    Started TTC Nov. 2011 

    1st clomid cycle June 2012- No response :: HSG August 2012- Left tube blocked, right tube clear :: 2nd clomid cycle Aug. 2012 BFN :: 3rd clomid cycle Sept. 2012 :: BFP Sept 30th :: DS born 6/15/13 :: BFP #2 7/29/14 M/C 8/5/14 :: BFP#3 10/20/14 DD born 7/1/2015 :: Applied to be surrogate April '17 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for IFs Dec. '17 :: Surro Babe born 9/11/18 :: Started 2nd Journey May '19 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for new IFs 9/24/19 :: HB 138 at 6w6d


  • So sorry for your loss. Welcome.
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    AMA 35 :  DH 33
    BFP#1 1/26/14 (EDD: 10/7/14).  MMC 3/10/14 D&C 3/14/14
    RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
    Myomectomy 12/17/14.  Benched until March.

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  • So sorry for your loss :( and you are definitely not failing him!! Take care of yourself.  Welcome to the board, I hope you find comfort here 

    Ashleigh (26) and Darren (26)
    Married 8-10-13
    TTC since February 2014
    BFP #1 4-22-14  EDD 1-1-15
    8w u/s 5-22-14 Baby measuring 6w1d. Heartbeat detected
    Went to Dr. 5-30-14 due to bleeding. Prescribed progesterone
    Went to ER 6-1-14 2:30 AM - diagnosed with incomplete m/c
    6-6-14 natural m/c completed
    10-24-14 BFP #2 EDD 7-6-15 **Please** be our Rainbo

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  • I'm sorry for your loss, welcome to the board

    DD 15.07.2012

    BFP #2 01.18.2014, MMC 04.10.2014 15w5d

    BFP #3 07.18.2014, MC 07.31.2014 5w6d

    DX: RPL due to submucosal uterine fibroid. Hysteroscopy 12/16. All clear!

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  • Sorry for your loss.
  • So sorry for your loss
    Married 07/2006, TTC since 2010
    08/2011: Clomid 50mg, IUI --> BFN  ,
    10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN

    04/13: Clomid, IUI BFP --> MC at 6w1d
    05/13: Femara 2.5mg, IUI --> BFN  , 08/13: Femara 2.5mg --> BFN
    03/14: Femara 5mg, IUI --> 1 follicle @ 27d --> BFP! EDD 12/02/14--> blighted ovum, missed MC 6w6d --> D&C
    4/23: D&C...starting over again, with a little part of my heart broken off
    5/31: Femara 7.5mg --> cancelled cycle, no follies
    7/14: Femara 5mg + brevelle + menopur + IUI --> converted to IVF, ER 7/28 --> ET cancelled due to severe OHSS.
    9/20/14:  Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP--> EDD 6/6/15 --> MC at 5w3d 
     
    10/16/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFN
    2/6/15: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP --> MC at 5w4d
    3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15
    6/6/17: Fresh IVF Cycle --> Severe OHSS, 5 PGS-tested embryos frozen
    2/23/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
    3/30/18: Cancelled cycle due to lining 4.2mm
    6/21/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.
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    Hubs & I -29 • Met 5/18/04 • Married 5/8/10
    BFP #1 DS 2/7/11 (Born @ 34 wks via ECS due to Pre-e) TTC #2 since Aug '13
    DX Low AMH (.58) March '14 • FSH-7.5 • E2-35.5 (Nov '14)
    SA- Great numbers • SIS- Clear (Nov '14)
     Cycle 1- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-BFP • EDD 1/12/15 
    Ectopic @ 5w6d • Methotrexate Shot 5/18/14
    Cycle 2,3,4- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-- BFN
    Cycle 5- Letrozole CD3-7 & Trigger BFFN
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  • Welcome to the board. It's so hard when you see how many people out there have children so easily that it's easy to feel like we've failed or our bodies have failed us.  Someone told me the other day that it's easy to forget how really miraculous getting pregnant is and how many different things have to match up just right for it to happen and then also to be successful.  Unfortunately, the loss side of pregnancy is just not as easily talked about and shared so you don't realize until you come to some of these boards how often it happens. Big hugs to you and I hope you'll find some great support on this board and give some to others as well.

    BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011

    BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident

    BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown

    To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.

     

  • So very sorry. Welcome- I hope your stay is short
    PCOS & ute crew member
    BFP #1: 10/24/2012  EDD 7/3/13, missed m/c @ 9 weeks, D&E 
    DX: Septate Uterus. Septum resection 6/4/13
    BFP #2: 12/20/2013  EDD 9/1/14, missed m/c @ 7weeks, D&E
    BFP #3: 5/26/2014 EDD 2/7/15, missed m/c @ 9 weeks, D&E- DX Trisomy22
    RPL, Karyotyping, and SHG: All Normal
    BFP #4: 9/6/14 EDD 5/16/15 Praying for our RAINBOW!
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    **All AL Welcome**

  • I'm so sorry for your loss but welcome to the board.

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    TTC #1: February 1, 2014
    BFP #1: 2/21/14 EDD: 10/31/14 MMC: discovered 3/31/14 (blighted ovum) D&C: 4/3/14 at 9w6d

    BFP #2:12/18/14 EDD: 8/27/14 Beta #1 (16 DPO): 50 Beta #2 (18 DPO): 54 CP: 12/25/14 at 5w0d

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    Formally LisaG09

    "Everybody wants to be happy. Nobody wants to feel pain but you can't have a rainbow without the rain."

  • Welcome. I am sorry for your loss. I often feel similar as you as letting down those around us. Take some time for yourself. Please reach out if you need to talk. This board is a great support.

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    Married-1/2012
    TTC-8/2013   BFP-4/18/14  EDD: 12/29/12 MC-5/17/14 @ 7w4d
    BFP #2-11/13/14  EDD: 7/26/14  Beta #1: 11/14/13 (135 progesterone: 19.5)   Beta #2" 11/17/14 (733 ) 
    Hoping for good news!

    Everyone Welcome

  • Welcome, and sorry for your loss. I am in the same boat...7dpo and AF cant come fast enough. All i want to do is try for another one
  • I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. I hope you find this a great source of support and comfort - there are so many wonderful women here.
    BFP 3/30/13, MMC and D&C 4/19/13
    BFP 4/8/14, MMC 5/5/14, D&C 5/9/14
    BFP 8/26/14 Due date 5/8/15

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  • Thank you ladies xxx I really appreciate your kind words. I really just want to get the first period and go back to the TTC game :)
  • Very sorry for your recent loss.  Welcome to the board.
  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.

    Dx: PCOS/Unexplained
    July '13 - Mar '14 - Letrozole and TI - BFN
    April '14 - HSG - All clear - Letrozole, Trigger and IUI - BFP
    May '14 - Miscarriage 5w 3d
    July '14 - Letrozole, Trigger and IUI - BFN

    Aug '14 - Letrozole, Trigger and IUI - BFN

    Sept '14 - Letrozole, Trigger and IUI - BFP

    Beta 1 - 87  Beta 2 - 193  Beta 3 - 441
    SA - All good
    ALL Welcome



  • Hi @MandyJH1989 Welcome to the board. I'm so very sorry for your loss. I went through the exact same thing with my first pregnancy about a month ago and I have found an endless amount of comfort and support in this forum..I hope you do too.
    Sending you lots of **hugs** <3
    TTC since March 2011

    1st BFP - June 5th, 2014 
    (EDD - Feb 8th, 2015)
    MMC/D&C - July 17th, 2014

  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.
  • So sorry for your loss - hugs to you. Take care of yourself.

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    ME: 32   DH: 38

    BFP#1 - 7/18/14; EDD 3/23/14; MMC 8/11/14 (passed naturally on 8/17/14)

    BFP#2 - 12/29/14; EDD 9/10/15 *PLEASE BE OUR RAINBOW!*

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  • I know it's easy to feel like you're failing your husband or that you've failed as a woman, but the truth is that you didn't, and it's not your fault. I've struggled with those feelings myself, and it's hard sometimes to not put blame there. I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this. Let yourself grieve and heal. There's no right or wrong way to do it. And know that it's OK to cry. It doesn't make you weak, ever. Sending love your way.

    Me: 33  DH: 32
    Married: 5/19/2006
    Hashimoto's Disease dx 9/2013
    BFP#1: 5/23/14 EDD: 1/16/15 pPROM: 7/31/14 (15w6d) D&C: 8/10/14 (17w2d - possible IC)
    BFP#2: 11/8/14 EDD: 7/17/15


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  • Welcome to the board- so sorry to hear about your loss.
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    DS1 born 4/17/11
    DS2 born 2/22/13
    MMC 5/16/14@8w2d
    DD due 5/9/15 Please be our
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  • Welcome to the board and I'm so very sorry for your loss.
    Married: 4/28/12
    BFP: 7/2/14 ;  1st US 7/21/14 Baby measuring 7w5d, HB of 138;  Discovered MMC 8/18/14 at 11w2d, baby measuring 8w5d, no hb ; 8/19/14 D&C
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