Ordering alcohal at a restaurant

sbevann26 · August 2014

DH and myself are going on our babymoon next week to a very nice hotel in downtown Vancouver. We have stayed there before and there is a 5 star restaurant we love, and are planning to have our first dinner there.

The food there is AMAZING, especially when paired with wine, and I would really like to have a glass (or half) with my meal.

I haven't drank yet this pregnancy, because I have been saving my wine drinking for special occasions only. I am unsure of how this will be taken.

I know a lot of the mamas on here drink wine on occasion, so I just wanted your opinion on what to do here.

Would you order a glass? Or wait until the hotel room?

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kirstey728 · August 2014

For the majority most people know that a small glass of wine every once in a while is fine so if you want, go for it.

I went to red lobster a few weeks ago and ordered a virgin strawberry daiquiri and it was not virgin when I took the first sip. That was a little embarrassing to me to tell my waiter that I needed it virgin because of my pregnancy. Lol

RayRay007 · August 2014

Are you afraid of looks or comments? I've never gotten any. Just order and don't make a big deal of it.

JRod13 · August 2014

Screw what anyone thinks. Do you and order your wine.

sbevann26 · August 2014

I was just not 100% sure if they would serve me alcohal. I could care less about looks and what not... I would just like to avoid the embarrassment of being denied alcohal.

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JunkieBrewster · August 2014

OH MY GOD DONT YOU EVEN LOVE YOUR BABY? ARE YOU SUCH A LUSH THAT YOU CAN'T GO 9 MONTHS WITHOUT DRINKING TO SAVE YOUR CHILDS LIFE?

Now that I have saved someone else the trouble, I cant imagine they will refuse to serve you.

sbevann26 · August 2014

I'm in Canada so it is 19. Which I am.. I googled this prior to posting , and read stories from women who were refused. Not sure how reliable the stories are... I just didn't want to go through that.

Probably just over reacting.

MaineMama · August 2014

sbevann26 said:

I was just not 100% sure if they would serve me alcohal. I could care less about looks and what not... I would just like to avoid the embarrassment of being denied alcohal.

As long as you are of age, they can not refuse to serve you something you've ordered. They can side eye you, and act like an ass, but they can not refuse.

That being said, have the drink, and enjoy your evening out!

PacoCat33 · August 2014

Go for the wine! A couple weeks ago at a nice restaurant for my bday, the waitress offered me champagne and I said I couldn't and patted my belly she said, most pregnant women still have a glass, but how about a little taste?

I had a third of a glass, sipped it and it was delicious and I wasn't charged. Have a glass and enjoy!

drpayne · August 2014

I've never had anyone say anything about it.

CandEChicago · August 2014

sbevann26 said:

I was just not 100% sure if they would serve me alcohal. I could care less about looks and what not... I would just like to avoid the embarrassment of being denied alcohal.

sbevann26 said:

I'm in Canada so it is 19. Which I am.. I googled this prior to posting , and read stories from women who were refused. Not sure how reliable the stories are... I just didn't want to go through that. Probably just over reacting.

You mean alcohol right?

sbevann26 · August 2014

@CandEChicago‌ are you referring to me spelling "alcohol" wrong? Is that REALLY something that needs to be pointed out?

SoxFan777 · August 2014

NERD ALERT: This has been decided in court, I believe... Since prenatal status is a protected group in many areas (in the US at least, along with veteran status, sexual orientation, gender, age, etc.) they cannot discriminate against you by not serving you. They CAN refuse to serve anyone they want, but the EXCEPTION to this is if they are refusing to serve you and it falls under the definition of discrimination as outlined by the law.

nopegoat · August 2014

I'm like @danisgossipgirl‌ I personally would just skip it, but rarely drink even when not pregnant. Do whatever you are comfortable with.

It's funny how much has changed on TB over the past 4yrs. When I was pregnant with my first the very mention of a drink while pregnant would get you flamed lol.

ebilbao · August 2014

I was given the stinkeye at the liquor store when I bought a bottle of wine a couple weeks ago. The cashier kept eyeing my belly and then looking at me and then the wine. I kept thinking to myself, "It's none of his business what I am doing with this wine. You do not have to explain that it is a gift and not for you." And then I caved and made a joke, saying "Hahaha, it's a gift! Don't worry! It's not for me!".

He continued with the stinkeye.

CandEChicago · August 2014

SoxFan777 said:

NERD ALERT: This has been decided in court, I believe... Since prenatal status is a protected group in many areas (in the US at least, along with veteran status, sexual orientation, gender, age, etc.) they cannot discriminate against you by not serving you. They CAN refuse to serve anyone they want, but the EXCEPTION to this is if they are refusing to serve you and it falls under the definition of discrimination as outlined by the law.

But her trip is in Canada. Looking back at her prior posts she is born & raised in Vancouver area. So I don't think the US standard would 100% apply over there.

brookey79 · August 2014

I want to know where you are going too! I don't think it will be a problem to get a glass of wine if you order it, especially in a nice restaurant. I ordered a 3 oz. glass of wine at a winery a couple of weeks ago (in Canada) and they served me no questions asked.

CandEChicago · August 2014

ashtonkitty1 said:

I was at a nice place tonight, would have loved a fabulous glass of wine but afraid of the stares. I'd rather just drink it at home than risk a stupid confrontation that messes up the evening for my family. I sipped my mom's drink.

Similiar to the response above. Sure order the glass of wine at dinner but if you think that someone giving you a side eye or attempting to talk to you and it would mess up your nice evening out then perhaps you wait until you are back in your room.

You can plan to quickly survey the room to see how comfortable you feel with the other restaurant guests. Ultimately your call based on your comfort level.

Edit: Based on your comfort level of a random internet stranger pointing out a repeated spelling error (or auto correct that needs to be adjusted)...I am going to guess that someone giving you the stink eye or trying to "talk" to you probably would make you feel a little more self conscious than you would like and might impact your enjoyment of the meal and your company.

For the record...I am going to a wedding this weekend and will probably order a half glass of wine or champagne.

(Don't know why mobile is refusing to format my paragraphs. Will fix later if I can get back to a computer today. )

sbevann26 · August 2014

@brookey79‌ @RaeChay‌ I am going to be staying at Hotel Georgia, and going to Hawksworth for dinner. I am actually from Vancouver Island, so I know how laid back everyone from BC is. I am not concerned about whether people in the restaurant will be looking at me strange, because I doubt anyone will. Just concerned as to whether or not the restaurant itself would serve me. All of the stories I read were from the states, so I guess I shouldn't be too worried. I just wanted to avoid any embarrassment of my server being like "sorry I can't serve you because you are pregnant."

blessdtxas · August 2014

CandEChicago said:

ashtonkitty1 said:

I was at a nice place tonight, would have loved a fabulous glass of wine but afraid of the stares. I'd rather just drink it at home than risk a stupid confrontation that messes up the evening for my family. I sipped my mom's drink.

Similiar to the response above. Sure order the glass of wine at dinner but if you think that someone giving you a side eye or attempting to talk to you and it would mess up your nice evening out then perhaps you wait until you are back in your room.

You can plan to quickly survey the room to see how comfortable you feel with the other restaurant guests. Ultimately your call based on your comfort level.

Edit: Based on your comfort level of a random internet stranger pointing out a repeated spelling error (or auto correct that needs to be adjusted)...I am going to guess that someone giving you the stink eye or trying to "talk" to you probably would make you feel a little more self conscious than you would like and might impact your enjoyment of the meal and your company.

For the record...I am going to a wedding this weekend and will probably order a half glass of wine or champagne.

(Don't know why mobile is refusing to format my paragraphs. Will fix later if I can get back to a computer today. )

^^This. Before being pregnant myself, I went to dinner with a friend when she was about 8 months along. We both ordered a glass of wine. The waiter didn't question her at all, but the other patrons gave her all kinds of nasty looks. I would say, if that would bother you at all, I'd just wait until the hotel room. I haven't really wanted to drink too much being pregnant, so don't have any first hand advise to share. Hope your trip is fun though!

leoandethansmom · August 2014

Drink the wine!

RayRay007 · August 2014

CandEChicago said:

SoxFan777 said:

NERD ALERT: This has been decided in court, I believe... Since prenatal status is a protected group in many areas (in the US at least, along with veteran status, sexual orientation, gender, age, etc.) they cannot discriminate against you by not serving you. They CAN refuse to serve anyone they want, but the EXCEPTION to this is if they are refusing to serve you and it falls under the definition of discrimination as outlined by the law.

But her trip is in Canada. Looking back at her prior posts she is born & raised in Vancouver area. So I don't think the US standard would 100% apply over there.

Canada is generally far ahead of the US in terms of human rights, so if anything the US standard probably falls below the standard in Canada.

In Canada you cannot discriminate against a person for being pregnant.

ColoradoBoat · August 2014

I have sips of my husband's drink all the time and even had my own (half) glass of champagne at a friend's wedding a couple weeks ago. It was very yummy.

That said, no one has the right to give us dirty looks. it's something about being pregnant, people feel like they can say/do anything, when normally you cannot. Imagine if men got pregnant..do you think they'd think twice about having a drink occasionally and would anyone give a guy a dirty look? I doubt it cuz they could punched in the face. Who cares what others think and drink up?

brookey79 · August 2014

Hawksworth! Jealous! Haven't been there yet, but it's on my list of places to go soon!

colliebabe · August 2014

When we went out for our anniversary a few weeks ago we ordered a bottle of wine and I had my own glass. I guess I didn't look very pregnant, or maybe the waiter didn't care because he kept trying to refill my glass every time he came back to the table. No one else at the restaurant even looked twice at me.

I would have the glass and if anyone is going to judge you/give you looks then they can suck it.

rebekahapratim · August 2014

I'm glad this question was asked because I was wondering the same thing! We are going on vacation next week to a resort in Sedona AZ.

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