Parents Vent
ambmama
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Sorry ladies, I need to vent and don't know where else to go!
So for my new job I have to travel occasionally, which isn't a huge deal except that my H works some long hours and our daycare is only open until 6. Some days, depending on what's going on, he just can't make it there by 6. We have no friends or family in our area and haven't found a sitter, so we don't have a lot of options. We end up asking my parents to watch DS, so far it's only EVER been twice overnight. We asked them to watch him Sun-Tues of this coming week but they said they couldn't. I asked my SIL if they could, and she said yes - so problem solved, right? No. My dad said instead of that, he will get DS from them on Monday and drive the 2 hours to my house and wait for DH to get home (he has an event until 7 or 8) and then drive back home. First - how in the world is that easier than them just keeping him the night? Second - I've never had anyone alone in my home before, and really it adds stress and makes me feel like I need to clean my whole house now before I leave. And third - I fully expected that H will probably grab a few drinks with his boss and colleagues after, so this would obviously just put him on a timeline. My parents have also backed out of watching DS overnight very last minute 2x, so this makes me nervous.
My SIL called me last night and said my dad was making a somewhat big deal of this and really wanted to do this - almost trying to talk her out of watching him the 2nd night. I have no idea why he's so insistent, but it's frustrating to have to try to change schedules around when we had a plan in place. My SIL said not to worry, they'd watch him if needed, but now the whole situation just feels stressful. I really wish I could just take him with me and that would be the end of they story.
Am I being crazy or is this ridiculous? They are supposed to watch him in October for a few days and now I'm feeling really unsure about that, too. I'm racking my brain trying to think of a different solution for both this weekend and the future. Even if I hired a sitter I don't think I would be comfortable with them staying with him overnight. Ahh, so frustrating!
BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12
BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks
BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14
Re: Parents Vent
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BFP #3: EDD 1/10/13 **DS born 12/30/12!!!**
BFP #2: MC 7/2/11 @ 12 weeks
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BFP #1: MMC discovered on 12/6/10
@jobiann that's my fear, we will somehow end up losing our sitter for October. It's just frustrating because I'm not sure why he cares so much. I did exactly what you said - just worked it out with my SIL and told him that it's done. If he wants to hold a grudge then so be it, I suppose, and we will just work harder to find a back-up nanny for this type of stuff.
Also, I guess H going out for drinks might sound silly, but it's really more for networking and getting face time with his bosses. He's at a company where people knowing who you are and the work you've done is super important.
BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12
BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks
BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14
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BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12
BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks
BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14