My MIL and FIL are staying with us for two weeks (started on Monday night) to watch DD while DH and I are at work for two weeks (DC doesn't have an opening until 9/2). While I am incredibly grateful that they flew down and can watch DD, I want my house back.
DH and I were fighting last night....about breast milk and bottles. We haven't had a legit fight since DD was born. This is what my life has come to - he didn't understand that since he pulled 3 bags out of the freezer stash, they needed to be used first instead of the pumped milk from yesterday for today's bottles. Of course, this just escalates to how I've been bitchy all week (again, this is my first week back at work). Words were exchanged which I regret - being new parents, going back to work and having your in-laws at your home just breeds marital strife. Needless to say, DD was sleeping so I poured myself a big glass of vino and went upstairs and ignored DH for the remainder of the night.
Now that DD is older, I really wish we would have ponied up the money for NB pictures back in May.
M14 January Siggy Challenge: Resolution I have no intention of keeping...SHOPPING LESS!
Yesterday I was doing baby sit ups with DS and he slipped through my hands. It was only a few inches but his little head bounced of the foam rubber mats. He's fine, cried for about 10mins then went back to smiles and giggles. After he went down for his next nap I cried and felt like a total failure
@Jcrewgirl85 I feel you on the IL. My MIL stayed with us for 5 weeks after DS was born
I just put a baby genius music show on for DD she is loving it, I really tried not to use TV at all but it is raining so we can't go out right now and I am tired. Also due to @Jcrewgirl85 post I now want a glass of wine, it is 9am :-S
@Jcrewgirl85, i can commiserate and @Lissiehoya, totally agree. I only BF 2x a day and for several nights in a row DS wouldn't nurse at night. I was frustrated and complained to DH about my dwindling supply. He suggested I pump, which I hate because it takes 20 min to get half an ounce. And so the fight began...
I also can't wait to sleep train after our good sleeper decided this week to get up at 4:30. I decided it may be a good time to transition him out of his swing and swaddle since he's getting up anyway...
When my SIL had her baby she tried to breastfeed for like a week and gave up. She said it was hard and painful and took a lot of time. I was supportive because her in laws are very old school and made her feel like crap. Well fast forward to my pregnancy she was talking crap to MIL about how I think it's going to be so easy to bf and how she just knows I won't do it. She said she couldn't wait to see me even try. My FFFC is I've been going bf strong for 17 weeks and I am so proud of myself. I obviously bf for baby and her well-being but it is icing that I proved her wrong.
My other FFFC is that I tell my DH that I enjoy working and having the break from baby. I'd honestly really love to stay home but we can't afford it and I don't want him feeling guilty. It's a small lie for his own good.
I started back to work this week and I'm the happiest I've been since DS was born. I'm convinced I made the right decision to come back to my job. I'm a better mom for it.
I started back to work this week and I'm the happiest I've been since DS was born. I'm convinced I made the right decision to come back to my job. I'm a better mom for it.
Ditto. I'm so much happier now that I have some of my old self back.
I started back to work this week and I'm the happiest I've been since DS was born. I'm convinced I made the right decision to come back to my job. I'm a better mom for it.
Ditto. I'm so much happier now that I have some of my old self back.
Yep, this is how I feel too. DH has been super nice to me about being at work but I am not sad at all. I love my kids with all my heart but I cannot be around them all day every day.
I totally use the TV to entertain baby girl while I'm busy with whatever. I also nurse her to sleep in my bed for naps. I know that one needs to end, like now. I want to start putting her down in her crib for quiet time/nap time, so maybe next nap we can do that.
I also really want to over spend my monthly allowance to buy some new jeans that actually fit. But I feel bad about that because I think my husband is being good about his allowance and we just blew our budget for the month with my parents visiting.
And lastly, there is a long list of things that really annoy me or make me mad. I feel that most of it is justified, but I want to learn how to not teach that to my daughter. I wish I could bitch slap everyone who doesn't have critical thinking skills or doesn't use common sense...but I also wish I could be more understanding. My daughter doesn't count because I expect her to not know things. But seriously, I will side eye her (and myself) if she is 16 and doesn't understand the value of having a job and working for the things she wants. My brother is this and I'm mad at my parents for letting him be like that.
I cut my baby's finger while cutting her nails. Twice.
I did this once our second day home, now it is DH s job to trim her nails
I did this the last time I cut DS's nails and for the rest of the day anytime he cried, DH said it's probably because his finger hurt. I wanted to smack him. like I didn't feel bad enough already... DS really needs his nails trimmed and I've been putting it off because of this.
Just wondering if I'm alone here (because I've done it multiple times)....
Has anyone ever gone grocery shopping alone, bought something they a) knew was bad for them or b) just didn't want to share with DH or LOs so you eat it in the car on the way home?
Because I've done this with cookies and candy more times that I'd like to admit.
M14 January Siggy Challenge: Resolution I have no intention of keeping...SHOPPING LESS!
Just wondering if I'm alone here (because I've done it multiple times)....
Has anyone ever gone grocery shopping alone, bought something they a) knew was bad for them or b) just didn't want to share with DH or LOs so you eat it in the car on the way home?
Because I've done this with cookies and candy more times that I'd like to admit.
A whole bag of salt & vinegar kettle chips? No. Never.
Yup, I'm ALL about the buying of a treat (usually Starbuck's) and then hiding the evidence. DH just doesn't understand the deliciousness that is an iced caramel machiatto.
Just wondering if I'm alone here (because I've done it multiple times)....
Has anyone ever gone grocery shopping alone, bought something they a) knew was bad for them or b) just didn't want to share with DH or LOs so you eat it in the car on the way home?
Because I've done this with cookies and candy more times that I'd like to admit.
You mean like with Tostitos or candy?? No, never, I have no idea what you're talking about...
@Jcrewgirl85 , @Lissiehoya , @anniemore I'm right with you on the BFing related conflicts. DH and I almost never fight, but feeding has been such a tense issue. DH wanted to feed her on a schedule, and I insisted on feeding on demand. Then LO was struggling to gain weight, add my mom's opinions (criticizing DH and me in different ways) into the mix while she was here helping take care of LO while I had to work.... Wretched.
I hate having low supply, I hate how long it takes to BF, then FF, them pump. I hate SNS and how expensive formula is. Most of all I hate condescending relatives telling me LO must just be "comfort sucking, because she's clearly not getting much." I'm sorry, are you my lactation consultant? No? Then keep your uninformed commentary to yourself.
I've only been on The Bump twice since LO was born--I used to be pretty active--I don't know what happened...I guess a new baby and moving consumed my life. I think it also showed how much I bumped at work, ha! Anyways, I missed you ladies and will try to be more active now that we are settled and LO has somewhat of a schedule.
I changed my screen name. I've always wanted to but didn't want to email the bump gods, and just came across a way to do it.
I did the ice bucket challenge. Didn't really want to but felt I needed to because of who nominated me.
I semi-dropped the baby once. It was a confusing sequence of events, but her head touched my plate on the dining room table, it was in front of the inlaws and I cried more than she did.
Eta: I'm usually mobile but logged on on my comp for a minute. Good grief some of your siggy pics are GIGANTIC!
Guilty of giant pic. Still learning siggys. Sorry!
I have a chest cold. I figured it was nothing more but DS1 was being difficult going to bed and I was tired of listening to him scream so I told my H that I was going to the urgent care just to be safe. It's just a chest cold.
Congrats to my GP Sister from another mister Bruinsbabe!!
As far as the BFing thing goes, I quit BFing DS1 at 5 weeks because of MSPI. My H still thinks it was just that I wasn't eating healthy enough and not that he had an actual problem. I just don't think men quite understand the emotions that go with BFing for those who really want to do it. He was also insanely embarrassed any time I tried to NIP, even with a blanket thrown over us. This time around, without me doing anything, he has been so much more supportive and doesn't seem to mind (other than at the zoo??
Congrats to my GP Sister from another mister Bruinsbabe!!
Dh had an interview all prepped and ready for me at his work. Then I decided going back to work wasn't for me. I was all talk until it came down to it. I just can't leave her with anyone I don't know (and family are at least 1 1/2 hr away). Also, I just don't want to leave her, period. However, now i'm back to working nights a few times a week because we just got a new car and can't afford the payments on just one income. I'm excited because I know DD is in good hands and I will still get her all day long. I started last night though and coming home at 5 a.m and then having to tend to a baby just a few hours later is tough shit
I stopped being friends with someone I've known for about 6 years when she recently decided to start going around saying Sandy Hook was a hoax staged by Obama. Homie don't play that shit.
Good for you! I will never understand ppl who believe shit like that.
Not Friday anymore but I just started back to work with 12 hours notice on Wednesday and my life is a giant clusterf$&k right now so IDGAF.
I search the tri boards for drama when I'm bored. Then when I miss something juicy I get annoyed that no one on here posted a bat signal for me. Then I feel bad for thinking that because I must be the biggest drama llama. I don't actually want to make drama, only read it for my own trashy entertainment.
Re: FFFC
@Jcrewgirl85 I feel you on the IL. My MIL stayed with us for 5 weeks after DS was born
I also can't wait to sleep train after our good sleeper decided this week to get up at 4:30. I decided it may be a good time to transition him out of his swing and swaddle since he's getting up anyway...
My other FFFC is that I tell my DH that I enjoy working and having the break from baby. I'd honestly really love to stay home but we can't afford it and I don't want him feeling guilty. It's a small lie for his own good.
I blamed it on the dog.
It didn't work.
Happy Endings
Yep, this is how I feel too. DH has been super nice to me about being at work but I am not sad at all. I love my kids with all my heart but I cannot be around them all day every day.
BFP # 1 - 12/19/09 EDD 08/27/10 - D&C 1/26/10 @ 9w5d
BFP # 2 - 06/05/10 EDD 02/17/11, DS1 born on 2/14/11
BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d
BFP # 4 - 07/27/13 EDD 04/08/14 - CP 07/29/13
BFP # 5 - 09/14/13 EDD 05/28/14, DS2 born on 5/22/14
I also really want to over spend my monthly allowance to buy some new jeans that actually fit. But I feel bad about that because I think my husband is being good about his allowance and we just blew our budget for the month with my parents visiting.
And lastly, there is a long list of things that really annoy me or make me mad. I feel that most of it is justified, but I want to learn how to not teach that to my daughter. I wish I could bitch slap everyone who doesn't have critical thinking skills or doesn't use common sense...but I also wish I could be more understanding. My daughter doesn't count because I expect her to not know things. But seriously, I will side eye her (and myself) if she is 16 and doesn't understand the value of having a job and working for the things she wants. My brother is this and I'm mad at my parents for letting him be like that.
Happy Endings
I hate having low supply, I hate how long it takes to BF, then FF, them pump. I hate SNS and how expensive formula is. Most of all I hate condescending relatives telling me LO must just be "comfort sucking, because she's clearly not getting much." I'm sorry, are you my lactation consultant? No? Then keep your uninformed commentary to yourself.
I search the tri boards for drama when I'm bored. Then when I miss something juicy I get annoyed that no one on here posted a bat signal for me. Then I feel bad for thinking that because I must be the biggest drama llama. I don't actually want to make drama, only read it for my own trashy entertainment.
Happy Endings