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advice... new SAHM

foreverapartofmeforeverapartofme member
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Hey girls!  I'm new to the SAHM thing and figured I would ask for some advice!  I've always worked full time and of course was a mom full time with my DD.  When I was 9 months pregnant with my second child, I was laid off due to restructuring in my department.  I'm loving being at home with my DD who is 2 and my one month old DS.  However, I do miss interacting with other adults!  Once my DS gets a little older, I figure I can go to a library story hour with the kids and get back down to the playground. (DD and I used to go every night to the playground up the street but recently broke her collar bone so I'm supposed to restrict her activities until the doctor says otherwise).  Is it normal to feel a little lonely?  My DD is a chatterbox and loves arts/crafts/reading so she is good company!  I guess I'm just missing seeing other adults?!  What do you do during the day and what activities do you do with your children?  Thank you all for your advice and I look forward to being on this board more!  :D
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  • sschwegesschwege member
    Totally normal.  I am fortunate that my SIL works PT and we are really close, so I talk to her on the phone frequently.  I've found that getting out of the house helps a lot, even if I'm not actively having a conversation with another adult, just smiling at people while out for a walk, ordering a drink at Starbucks, talking to our neighbors when we are out in the front yard helps a lot.  Are there any mom's groups you can join?  
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  • orangegogglesorangegoggles member
    Normal for sure. I would join a moms group, gym with child care, or enroll LO in some kind of activity so you can meet other parents.
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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member

    I wholeheartedly second the idea of the gym with childcare!!! There were Moms that had the membership, checked the kiddos in, then went and read a book in silence... or took an undisturbed shower. But it's also a lot of socialization for you without kids in tow. 

    The loneliness is part of the drawback of being a AHM for many so it's important for you to develop new channels of relationships with other adults so you aren't so isolated.  Also, consider this - not every Mom is cut out to be at home full-time.  Consider dusting your resume' off now because it's A LOT harder in say five years to look for and find a job even in your previous career field.

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  • bumpuser8448316bumpuser8448316 member
    Loneliness is normal in the beginning. Get out and join a moms group, do story time etc. my best sahm friend and I met when she approached me at the park because our kids were similar ages

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  • foreverapartofmeforeverapartofme member
    Thank you!  Those are all good ideas and I will definitely look into a mom group  and more activities.  I am trying to treasure my time at home with the kids and I do feel lucky to be able to do this.  It is definitely an adjustment for me and I feel much better to know this is normal.  Thank you everyone!
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