Hello ladies sorry I have all of these questions today

chloeicarter · August 2014

But how do you all feel about having a baby shower after the baby comes

erynpdx · August 2014

My SO's mom wants to throw one of these, I said that's fine with me but not before April.

She was actually quite understanding.

QueenOfSpades622 · August 2014

Not sure I'd call it a shower more of a meet the baby

JaymeeLH · August 2014

I know the Italian culture doesn't believe in having showers before the baby is born, I believe it's based on a superstition. If someone else is offering to throw a shower post baby then I see no problem accepting the offer. If you're looking to host something I would say nothing more than a meet the baby get together, not a gift giving event.

smack427 · August 2014

I personally have never heard of a baby shower after the baby comes. I live in the south and people love to go to showers to celebrate the "mommy to be" before the baby comes. Is there any reason why it would be after the baby comes?

ZAP12 · August 2014

I had one just because my hosts and I were never free on the same weekend. I invited less people since I knew I would be passing her around. We still did food, onesie decorating, gifts, and all the normal stuff.

mlee116 · August 2014

gradschoolmom1234 said:

I'm not really sure of the etiquette. I'd look up what miss manners has to say about it. But off the top of my head u don't see anything wrong with it. Just keep in mind ppl will want you to bring your new born and play pass the baby.

This. Personally, since the baby is due in December (right in the middle of cold/flu/crud season), I'd want to wait a few months before I let my baby be passed around. If the DD was in Spring/Summer, I'd feel differently.

Another thing, it might be kind of a pain to go through everything, do returns and write thank you notes with a newborn.

AnonnAni · August 2014

I think its great in most respects other than the whole passing the baby around thing.

mc0113 · August 2014

My family doesn't do baby showers before the baby (superstition) so we usually just have a luncheon, cake and coffee for the baptism a month or two after the baby is born. This way, everyone can come and actually meet the baby. We plan on buying all of the necessities ourselves to make sure we have what we need for those first few weeks.

chloeicarter · August 2014

To all the peopel who commented on this post I wasn't planning on having my baby passed around it was just a question :-S

lionyloo32 · August 2014

I plan on having a "meet the baby" luncheon/brunch after LO is born. @clooeicarter I fully understand that while it is not the intention to "pass the baby", there will not be much of a way to avoid people wanting to touch and hold your baby. I plan on waiting two months and my MIL has already said that she would be standing by with a super size bottle of hand sanitizer.

I also don't plan on having 80 people there. More like close friends and family only.

twoandthrough · August 2014

chloeicarter said:
To all the peopel who commented on this post I wasn't planning on having my baby passed around it was just a question :-S

I believe these ladies were just trying to let you (anyone) know what to expect when you (anyone) throw a party like this.

JRod13 · August 2014

chloeicarter said:
To all the peopel who commented on this post I wasn't planning on having my baby passed around it was just a question :-S

Well if you have a shower after your baby is born, you can expect that people will want to hold it. What are you going to do? Have the shower and not bring the baby? Tell people "thanks for the gifts- oh no wait, you can't hold him/her" ? Come on now.

chloeicarter · August 2014

Umm I do not know you that was very rude like "come on now "

JRod13 · August 2014

How was that rude? Like at all? I'm just telling you your expectations of a shower after you have the baby and not letting people hold the baby are ridiculous.

MaineMama · August 2014

chloeicarter said:

Umm I do not know you that was very rude like "come on now "

@JRod13 speaks the truth, as do all other PPs- you'll get a serious side-eye from people if you have a shower/meet the baby and DONT let people touch said baby.

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