...into trying to prepare for a natural childbirth. I searched the forums for some good recs, but couldn't find any consistent info. What worked for you STMs who have had natural births? Bradley? Ina May? Hypnobabies? Good old Lamaze? Biting down on a piece of bark?
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I did Bradley with my first (section was due to cord prolapse, no classes can change that outcome, lol!)
My sister also did Bradley method, and was successful with a non-medicated birth. And Bradley allows for F-bombs
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I was in some serious pain to start with and then had non-stop overlapping pitocin mega-contractions. The epi didn't do a darn thing accept make me lose muscle control in my legs (pretty sure the anesthesiologist placed it wrong).
The Hypnobabies techniques kept me from panicking and helped me feel a little more in control. It didn't take the pain away but it helped me feel less overwhelmed by it.
My mom had a natural birth with my sister and myself (I was breach as well), so I pretty much consider her a rockstar. Her advice has been to stay home as long as possible, take baths, and remind yourself the whole time that your body was made to do this. Another friend told me no matter what, just remember the pain is temporary.
I tried to not make this a novel but I am passionate about helping others that want an unmedicated birth so this post is kind of lengthy. It will not hurt my feelings at all if anyone skips over this because they do not want to read it all.
I have given birth 4 times unmedicated and these are the things I found to be most helpful. I read the Bradley method book. I did not follow all the prep, so I cannot say that I fully followed the method, but I found the ideas to be helpful. I read the Ina May book... she is a little out there for my taste, but I did find the information helpful. Here is what I did that helped the most:
1. The thing I find gives me the most relief and helps the pain be dramatically less is relaxing completely during a contraction. I know that sounds crazy but if you tense up and fight against the contraction it makes the pain so much more. I found that I needed to "practice" relaxing my entire body up until time of birth and I still "practice" while pregnant up until birth. Relaxing during a contraction is the exact opposite of what you will want to do, so it really takes concentration to fully relax. When I fully relax through a contraction, it takes the pre-transition contractions down to little or no pain. It make the transition contractions very tolerable for me.
2. For me music was essential! I listened to calming music (Christian worship music for me) and focused on the music during contractions. This was especially helpful during the worst part of contractions (transition).
3. Remember it is temporary pain. There will be an end to the pain. Even the most painful contraction WILL go away. If the contraction got crazy intense then I would focus on the clock and watched the seconds tick away knowing that every movement of the clock would bring me closer to relief.
4. This last thing might not be for everyone... but my faith is very important to me. Prayer and scripture were also very instrumental in the success of my unmedicated births.
I am not sure what tips to give you for the pushing part of it. My pushing stage has always been really short so I always focus on knowing that if I am pushing it means that I am about to hold my baby in my arms. For me, the moment the baby is born is this rush of complete relief, extreme excitement, complete exhaustion, and an indescribable amount of joy. I still get emotional any time I think about that exact moment my babies were born. I can say that I did not experience the same type of emotions when I had epidurals with my first two. Although I was still elated they were here, it was not such an intense moment.
If you have your heart set on an unmedicated birth, I feel it is also important to have support from the people around you. The last thing you need is for someone to start talking to you about an epidural while you are in the midst of a powerful contraction. Because even after having several unmedicated births, I still find myself thinking about an epidural towards the end. I would be a complete liar if I told you that unmedicated birth is not painful. It is painful but it is pain with a purpose. I have a very low pain tolerance (I have cried just because my hubby pinched me) but even I made it through...so I am convinced that anyone that has their heart set on it can do it.
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I'm hoping to go natural. I've been watching every birth documentary that I can get my hands on. The Business of Being Born has a secondary series that is worth watching (More Business of Being Born).
Start reading Ina May Gaskin's books. I just finished Guide to Childbirth which I found to be very helpful and I feel like I took away some really great information. I'm planning to read Spiritual Midwifery and her Guide to Breastfeeding too.
I'm in the process of researching local doulas. I'm not convinced that I need one, but I'm worried because I'm a FTM. My area also has a natural birth group that meets on the First Friday of every month. I'm going to my first meeting next month.
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Pick a good, safe, and trusted team of people to be around you when you labor. This is a primal and intense experience you need to be focused and centered not worried about those around you.
Have them read the book The Birthing Partner.
Go into labor with confidence that your body can and will do this and that you might just come out on the otherside stronger.
Lastly, look forward to natural delivery and feeling the slither of your baby being born and getting your body back after 10 months of it being hijacked. I LOVE the slither!
This is my birth story I wrote after DS was born. I plan on going med free with this one too! You CAN do it! Good luck!!
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12291005/our-story#latest
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There are no clear classifications of what is urgent nor any evidence that this standard is achievable in routine practice"
Delay in delivery made no difference to the rate of admission to special care for babies over 36 weeks' gestation."
I read about hospitals not being natural birth friendly and wanting to speed things up but my experience was nothing like that. I was prepared to put up a fight but didn't need to. The hospital was busy too, they actually "closed" and stopped admitting new patients because all the L&D rooms were full. I was never pressured into anything. My L&D nurse was great though, I'm sure that makes a big difference.
There are no clear classifications of what is urgent nor any evidence that this standard is achievable in routine practice"
Delay in delivery made no difference to the rate of admission to special care for babies over 36 weeks' gestation."
You appear to have done quite a bit if research. May I ask where you are getting these statistics and research from?