Turning 30...

greysweatshirt · August 2014

and baby freakin fever!!! Has anyone else have this happen to them? I thought I didn't want kids...like a serious aversion to all things baby and then BOOM... I turned thirty and it has begun!!!!

I went off BC at the beginning of August and am patiently (ish) awaiting to get things "regular" but that hasn't stopped me and DH from talking about baby names and reading anything and everything about TTC and getting ourselves prepped.

Its an exciting time for us!

Just wanted to officially say hi to everyone!

Helenahhandbasket · August 2014

Hi there-- yes, I think that's probably when I first heard my "clock ticking" as well. I wound up conceiving DD shortly after my 31st birthday.

Good luck!

LizzyRB · August 2014

Same as me. Just turned 30 this week and suddenly feel the "clock".

FakeFinn · August 2014

I just turned 29 and it seems as if everyone (well a lot of people) around me are either pregnant or have babies. I think I'll be posting on this board more often due to baby fever

greysweatshirt · August 2014

i think my facebook should just be called "babypicturesbook" from now on...

housewifehobbyist · August 2014

This is me. I had little to no interest in children for the longest time and this past spring I started wanting to pinch every cheek. I NEVER thought it would happen to me! My husband is really looking forward to kids, so I'm glad to be eager now was well!

TRP85 · August 2014

I just turned 29 and I am in the same boat! I knew I wanted children at some point but it's like someone turned on a switch because now I can't wait.

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lizard85 · August 2014

Pretty much same story here! I will be 30 in April, will be graduating in May. We have been married about 2 weeks but together 5 and a half yrs. I never wanted kids until I was with him. About 6 months ago and especially recently baby fever has hit big time, our neighbors are expecting in oct, other neighbors have a yr and a half old and trying for number 2 and other neighbors are trying as well lol babies everywhere!!!

I have been on birth control for about 12 yrs(to regulate periods, then BC reasons with him lol). Part of me wants to go off of them and give my body time to adjust and get on its own rhythms but I don't really want to be preggo while in school. Our pastor had wanted us to be celibate 9 months before our wedding, so we did, and now we are just enjoying 'practicing' lol

greysweatshirt · August 2014

thats so awesome ladies!!! DH and I are also super giddy about TTC...it's our little secret for now! Congrats and good luck to everyone!!

allthecheese · August 2014

I'm a stranger just popping in to ask is 30 the magic age for your guys too? My DH is in no hurry lol

leowife143 · August 2014

My DH will be 29 this year and I am 25.. but I HAVE THE FEEEEVERRR..I never imagained I would have baby fever like this.. it just happened in the last 6 months.. i have always wanted kids. but not this bad. we have been talking about it alot and he wants to wait until he is 30 - 31 to have our first, but I just dont know how I cant make it 2 more years... thats a long time. he said he wants to make sure I have enough time to take off work, and still get paid, etc. etc.. it does not take 2 years to build up 4-6 weeks worth of paid time off.. I start full time in may and I think that a good year would be just fine to build up some time. So if we got pregnant in the fall of 2015, we would have baby around june 2016.. plenty of time. but I am SO hapoy for you guys. GOOD LUCK !!! I will be praying for baby dust to follow you every where

DrD30 · August 2014

Yup, 30 is when it struck. Then I was too chicken to actually go for it so I'm 30.5 and this was our first cycle trying. It's been fun, we're doing the laid back "not try to not try" approach. My obs/gyn told me that all that charting, temp and using OPKs will actually stress you out and can have negative effects on fertility. I'm a doctor so I know he was telling me to suppress my inner Type-A.

Hopefully it's worked out for us and on Tuesday when I test I'll get a nice surprise

We've been together 11 amazing years. I'm 30 and he's 34.

mariehannah · September 2014

Yup, this has happened a couple different ways for me. 1) I was adamant I would never get married until I was 25 and met my now husband, 2) I was adamant I'd never have kids until I was 26, and then I was like well H would make a good Dad and maybe I'll want them one day...and then I got an IUD b/c I'm finishing Dr school and we thought we wanted to wait until 30/31. And then BAM shortly before my 28th birthday I went baby crazy and at first it was timed with my cycles (I'd get really crazy around days 10-15) but now it's crazy all the time....it's almost annoying how much I want to be a mom now and think about babies and planning for them ect....it's almost like I'm getting another degree in babies! 0-o

PollyACK · September 2014

I'm 30 myself and trying for my second so I guess it's a little different for me. My DS wasn't a planned pregnancy, but DH and I had been married for 3 years and were comfortable financially. Even though at the time we weren't thinking about kids yet we were so happy to be pregnant. Now that I'm 30 I definitely feel the pressure to have another baby before my DS gets much older (or I do) so I can definitely relate.

DebateThis · September 2014

DrD30 said:

Yup, 30 is when it struck. Then I was too chicken to actually go for it so I'm 30.5 and this was our first cycle trying. It's been fun, we're doing the laid back "not try to not try" approach. My obs/gyn told me that all that charting, temp and using OPKs will actually stress you out and can have negative effects on fertility. I'm a doctor so I know he was telling me to suppress my inner Type-A.

Hopefully it's worked out for us and on Tuesday when I test I'll get a nice surprise

We've been together 11 amazing years. I'm 30 and he's 34.

Fire your ob/gyn. That's moronic.

DrD30 · September 2014

I think that's pretty reasonable advice for our first months of TTC. I should've followed that up with him also saying that if I'm not pregnant in 5 months he would start a basic workup and meet with me again.

Also, BBT monitoring would be impossible with my work schedule.

Thanks for your opinion though DebateThis

DebateThis · September 2014

14whitney said:

I think that's pretty reasonable advice for our first months of TTC. I should've followed that up with him also saying that if I'm not pregnant in 5 months he would start a basic workup and meet with me again.

Also, BBT monitoring would be impossible with my work schedule.

Thanks for your opinion though DebateThis
Let me tag that for you- @DebateThis‌ Unless you don't get 3 hours of sleep then BBT monitoring isn't impossible. It's not essential to getting pregnant, but it is if you want to pinpoint ovulation. Why are you meeting with him on your 6 month mark? That seems silly unless there is an underlying medical reason.

Agreed, unless she's over 35.

And no, it's not "reasonable" when it's so factually inaccurate he is giving you total lies passed off as medical advice regardless of how many months you've been TTC. Stress can delay ovulation, that's a fact. But if charting your BBT or peeing on some OPKs stresses you out so much that it's delaying ovulation then you have bigger issues than TTC.

DebateThis · September 2014

Joy2611 said:

DebateThis said:

DrD30 said:

Yup, 30 is when it struck. Then I was too chicken to actually go for it so I'm 30.5 and this was our first cycle trying. It's been fun, we're doing the laid back "not try to not try" approach. My obs/gyn told me that all that charting, temp and using OPKs will actually stress you out and can have negative effects on fertility. I'm a doctor so I know he was telling me to suppress my inner Type-A.

Hopefully it's worked out for us and on Tuesday when I test I'll get a nice surprise

We've been together 11 amazing years. I'm 30 and he's 34.

Fire your ob/gyn. That's moronic.

I temp. It takes less than two minutes every morning. From that info, I know exactly when I ovulate each cycle and know exactly when my period will show up. No guessing, no wondering, no stress.

I don't understand why any doctor would willingly tell his patients to be ignorant about their bodies, especially with crap reasons like "stress over OPKs will hurt your fertility." I guess that's why there are no babies in war-torn countries or areas stricken with disease and real stressors ...OH WAIT.

...And women who run marathons, Iron Mans, Ultramarathons...women going through surgery or other major health issues... yeah.

DrD30 · September 2014

You guys are sure aggressive towards newbies.

You have no idea what the situation is or that my obs/gyne is absolutely one of the best out there. He is a professor with the Dept. of Surgery at a major university and is the one that looks after all the female physicians during their pregnancies. I am unable to do BBT monitoring as I often work in the hospital for 36 hours straight and have a very disrupted sleep schedule. His advice comes based on understanding this and I think telling my to try au natural for the first few months is reasonable and appropriate in my situation. If I were to do OPK and had a 12-24 hour window I couldn't just leave work. His close follow up is also reasonable, I've recently had my Mirena removed and periods aren't back to 100%. I don't even know if I ovulate normally since I have been on birth control of some form since the age of 16 so starting a work up is also reasonable.

I think jumping to judgement based on one small comment is silly. I was simply trying to introduce myself to a community of women who are supposed to help and support each other.

DebateThis · September 2014

All of what @Joy2611 said is accurate, plus one more thing. It is absolutely not "reasonable" (yet again) to suggest a full fertility workup at six months TTC just because you "don't even know if you ovulate regularly". By and large, most women who are beginning to TTC have been on some form of birth control for a large portion of their teens and 20s. Suggesting that every single woman run straight for fertility testing at the 6month mark is not only alarmist but an unnecessary drain on financial resources. The average mid-20's to mid-30's woman will conceive in under a year of well timed sex. Six months to trot off for invasive and sometimes painful fertility testing is ridiculous.

Unless you are 35+, infertility workups are only "reasonable" at six mos TTC if you have health concerns regarding fertility. Those would include things like history of endometriosis or PCOS, extensive breakthrough bleeding, amenorrhea, cycles under 3 weeks or something similar.

Also? Your OB is an ob/gyn. Their specialty is pregnant women and labor and delivery, NOT getting people pregnant. If you told an RE that your OPKs were making you infertile they'd laugh you out of the office.

DebateThis · September 2014

Also here are some fun charts for actual reference. Shocker, I know, but 90% of women who've previously used contraceptives will conceive in under a year.

DrD30 · September 2014

You're right... I have been trying for only two months. So why are you giving me the gears for not temping or using OPKs? My Obs/gyne was simply telling me when to follow up. In Canada access to RE is pretty limited so the Obs/gyne starts a BASIC works up (CD 3 bloodwork and SA). I have included a SCIENTIFIC article for your reference. As it turns out if you chart your BBT 70% of the time you think you are ovulating you are in fact incorrect.

I am honestly not trying to start anything with you grouchy ones just trying to show you that your unfriendly and unwelcoming attitude completely ruins this forum for newbies. How about you relax a little bit and let people try things their own way?

Efficacy of methods for determining ovulation in a natural family planning program.

Guida M¹, Tommaselli GA, Palomba S, Pellicano M, Moccia G, Di Carlo C, Nappi C.

Abstract

OBJECTIVE:

To evaluate the efficacy in ovulation detection of methods used in natural family planning in comparison with pelvic ultrasonography.

DESIGN:

Prospective analysis of ovulation detection by natural family planning methods and ultrasonography.

PATIENT(S):

Forty healthy women who were highly motivated to use natural family planning.

MAIN OUTCOME MEASURE(S):

Transvaginal ultrasonographic findings, urinary LH levels, salivary beta-glucuronidase activity, salivary ferning levels and characteristics of cervical mucus, and BBT.

RESULT(S):

Urinary LH level determination yielded a 100% correlation with the simultaneous ultrasonographic diagnosis of ovulation. Mucus sensations and characteristics yielded a 48.3% correlation when simultaneously evaluated with ovulation. Beta-glucuronidase levels yielded a 27.7% correlation. Body temperature measurements yielded a 30.4% correlation with the simultaneous ultrasonographic diagnosis of ovulation.

CONCLUSION(S):

Although variations in mucus characteristics and basal body temperature correlate somewhat with ovulation, the length of the fertile period is overestimated with these methods. The salivary ferning test and measurement of beta-glucuronidase levels are not good methods for home ovulation testing.

DebateThis · September 2014

For a doctor you sure aren't real smart. IDGAF if the truth is "unwelcoming". Please see other posts where newbies are welcomed with open arms because they aren't idiots.

People are telling you that your commentary is WRONG. Flat out WRONG on "OPKs will cause stress that will impair fertility" and "you need to have fertility testing after six months". But, you know, rock on citing studies from 1999. Have fun with that painful-and-unnecessary HSG at the six month mark. If you don't want to or can't chart and you don't want to use OPKs, fine. But don't make fallacious claims about how they will make you so stressed out that they impair fertility or that you "need" to see a fertility specialist for testing at six months TTC at 30 years old.

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