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Who do you confide in?

AmberLiz99AmberLiz99 member
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Those who have PP anxiety or depression (or just during times when you are overwhelmed) who do you talk to? When it's really personal stuff, does that make a difference? Just your SO, a parent, sibbling, good friend, councilor?

I feel the need to talk to someone other than dh because he's so stressed out, but I don't have money for a councilor and my closest friend is about to move to the Ukrain and has enough to worry about. I'm curious who others feel comfortable confiding in. Why did you choose the person you did to trust?
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  • ambarnett1ambarnett1 member
    I used to have a therapist, but now that I don't I can usually talk to my best friend. I need to find a therapist again because I can't talk about personal things with anyone in my real life.

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  • MissWhisMissWhis member
    You could call your OBs office and ask if they know of any free counseling services or PPD/A groups in your area. I know there were flyers up for those sorts of things at mine.

    Also - I am not sure if this is standard or just done at our clinic, but our pediatrician screens moms for PPD/A during the first few visits. They might be able to point you in the direction of help.

    I am lucky to have a mom I can confide in in just about anything, but sometimes a mom or friend isn't enough. I encourage you to find a professional in your area if you are struggling.

    Hang in there, lady!
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  • LaNorteLaNorte member
    For me, it was a family friend who I wasn't super close to. After I had my unplanned csection, she reached out to me via email and said Hey, I know what it's like to feel all these terrible feelings, here is what I did to cope, I'm here if you need me. So I took her up on that, and we talk or e-mail regularly about anything & everything. Lots of people say things like "I'm here if you need me" or "let me know what I can do to help" but she was the only person who explicitly said "I felt like a complete failure as a woman and mother at first, and it's normal if you feel that way too." So maybe it's not someone super close to you that you need, but someone a bit more removed or someone who can relate to you a little better? I also feel like my husband is stressed out a lot, but that he's still willing & eager to listen and help me. So maybe talk to your husband and find out how he feels being the person you unload on.
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  • CalinAZCalinAZ member
    Just wanted to put it out there that one of our nearby hospitals has a support group for PPD/A. You could see if any have something like that in your area. It could be nice to be with other moms going through the same struggles.
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