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Embarrassing Question #2

JoDocJoDoc member
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Ok, here's my second one and this one is a bit more graphic so please forgive me.

I have always gotten sore and tender in my genital area.  To be specific and graphic, if you were a gynecologist and looking at my lady parts, at the 6 o'clock position, that tissue at the bottom, that gets very sore.  It will at times cut or tear with something as simple as inserting a tampon, or wiping with rough toilet paper.  Sex can be excruciating if I'm sore at the moment.  It's hard to explain, and harder to explain to my husband as to why I don't want to have sex, but when I'm faced with excruciating pain, I'm just not into it.  Any thoughts?  Any suggestions?  I'm sure you may not have a home remedy, but if anyone else has had this problem, what did you do?  Was your doctor able to give you something to "toughen up the tissue" so to speak?  TIA

 

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  • AandStilltryingAandStilltrying member
    I also have this issue. Certain positions when having sex cause more pain than others too. Haven't found anything to help much besides vagisil just because I feel like it needs SOMETHING and it helps w the sting. I just try to communicate with my partner so she understands what's going on and that I'm not avoiding her.



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  • chismosa2007chismosa2007 member
    Talk to your OB. Believe it or not there are physical therapists who can help with strengthening this area. My sister is a PT in the DFW area and specializes in this kind of stuff. Talk to your OB and see if they can refer you to a PT. Even if they don't know of someone to refer you to, search the physical therapists in your area. Look for someone board certified in women's health and/or pelvic health.
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  • LegallyBlonde217LegallyBlonde217 member
    I had something similar with the tearing postpartum.  My OB had me try using an OTC jock itch cream, and that fixed it in a few days.  It was just very mild yeast around the area.  It can also be caused by low estrogen, though.  So if you try the cream and it doesn't work, definitely call your OB to be sure.   
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  • ladyprofladyprof member
    Go to a pelvic pain specialist. I have the same issue and sex is made easier with lidocaine gel right before sex. But go and have someone help you with your specific issue. I delayed forever but life is much better since I've gone.
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  • Wishing35Wishing35 member
    I have the same problem , DH is on the big side so it can be very painful. I use a ton of lube to try and prevent it from happening but it still does sometimes. If you find the solution I'd love to know!
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  • WeLiveInMaineWeLiveInMaine member
    The name for that part is perineum. I think it's the area most likely to hurt because of the way it's all put together. Have you tried different positions? Face down or hands and knees should reduce the pressure on your perineum, anything that flips you around the other way. I don't know about making it less tender but perhaps increasing elasticity would help? I know they make tools to increase dilation and muscle tone for women suffering from tightening due to age and lack of sexual activity. They work pretty well, ladies can go from being unable to have anysex to enjoying sex again.
    I would ask for a referral to a specialist who can help you with this. I don't know where you live but I know we have quite a few in my area.
    Best of luck!
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