April 2015 Moms

Who is going with a midwife?

Who is going with a midwife and why? Or, who considered it and chose not to?

We are having a midwife birth! My last birth was with doctors, unmedicated, and surprisingly manageable. This time we live close to a midwife center that is located adjacent to a hospital. Couldn't ask for a better situation!
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Re: Who is going with a midwife?

  • Just booked my appointment today!!! Very excited! I watched the business of being born, which gave the hubs the added push to want a midwife!!
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  • My practice has 3 drs and 3 midwives. You get whoever is on duty.
  • inawe07inawe07 member
    edited August 2014
    We are. We did last time with DD and with our loss in January. The level of care in both instances was above and beyond anything I had with an OB. My midwife was always a step ahead when it came to care with my DD. They are also a family friendly office so they involve older children in the appointments. They do home visits after birthing so you don't have to trudge out the first few days. I also loved feeling like I was involved in my care and making decisions as a team. Couldn't ask for a better experience.

    My DH was not on board with midwives at first but after having DD he recommends them to everyone. It was just such a positive event.
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  • Oh gosh, I hate IVs too! I had a heplock last time which is marginally better. It's just the needles capped off, not hooked up to anything. I almost took mine out after a few hours of recovery! Thankfully, the nurse heard my plea and did it for me...
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  • My DH feels better about midwives after the last birth and especially after our Bradley classes. He was like a pro and helped me labor at home until I felt ready. Yup, I showed up to L and D 10 cm dilated!
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  • I had really wanted a midwife. But after three fertility treatments, one miscarriage, and complications with this current pregnancy, I know I'll feel more comfortable with an OBGYN in case there are any concerns.

    That's what the OB is there for. Prayers for an uncomplicated go round this time! You could always look into getting a doula. Ours made our OB birth a lot more like the midwife birth I had wanted.
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  • We had DD at a birth center with a midwife & will be doing the same with this baby. We've moved since DD was born so it will be a new center and new midwives...I'm sad because I loved our other midwife! But I like the ones here so far, too. I'm probably just being too sentimental haha
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  • We have decided to go with a midwife home water birth. I'm super excited but feel like I might be slightly insane. The Caesarian rates in Orange County are through the roof which really influenced my decision to do a home birth (provided I remain low risk).

     

     

     

  • I've got a MW. I've seen her for my regular check ups for a couple years now. I feel like she listens and takes her time making sure I'm comfortable. I am hoping this translates to a positive birth experience for both baby and me.

    @mrsstubbs87‌ I second the doula recommendation. A friend of mine was considered high-risk, so she hired a doula and she said the doula helped her have a positive experience overall.
  • mbm1983 said:

    Every time I hear midwife it makes me want to watch that fantastic BBC show again.

    LOVE Call The Midwife! I probably cry every time a baby is born. And that was pre-pregnancy hormones. Haha

  • @mbm1983‌ @LynnaF‌ I'm watching it right now...addicted!!! Soooo good!

    I'm really interested in a midwife, I would love to have a water birth. One of my good friends had a great experience. My obgyn works closely with them but I still am debating since I would lose my OB and I really like her.
  • We are going to use the same midwife that we had for DD. They work in the OB department that is associated with the hospital next door. I loved having a midwife. I had a med free birth at the hospital and they were very patient during the labor process.
  • I'm planning a homebirth with a midwife. She has experience as a L&D nurse, then switched to midwifery. We planned on having a homebirth with our last baby, but he was diagnosed with a heart defect at the 20 week ultrasound so he had to be born at the hospital with a good NICU & his cardiologist.
  • We are using midwives for our second birth (using the same midwives) because I plan on doing another home birth. If there are ladies in here who hate IVs and needles and doctors making them nervous and all the filth in hospital waiting rooms, why not consider having birth at home? It's amazing and much cleaner and faster than at a hospital!! My labor with my daughter was 4 hours total and I had no stitches afterwards and was downstairs on my living room sipping Starbucks a few hours after birth!
  • saelieasaeliea member
    edited August 2014
    I hope to have a home birth this time around. This is my 4th and I do not wish to birth in a hospital again!
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  • I have not decided yet. But looking into the options. One hospital in our area has a MW now. After I meet with our OB and discuss my wants for this pregnancy I will decide if I really want to seek out a MW. I am definitely using a doula though. 
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  • I will be talking to a couple of CNMs who do home birth to see if it is a good fit for me. I really hope so because I have always wanted a home birth. I have had two amazing hospital births, but I still really hope for a home birth.
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  • My practice has 3 drs and 3 midwives. You get whoever is on duty.
    This. It's a rotating practice and in the course of your pregnancy they get you an appointment with all of them so you're familiar with whoever might be delivering. I had an ob deliver my first because that's who had the hospital rotation that night, but I love all the midwives in the practice as well and would be very comfortable with any of them delivering this one. 
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  • The practice I am thinking of switching to has both OBs and MWs.  I like the idea of the option.  I watched The Business of Being Born and it is scary to think about hospitals and the money they make by inducing.  

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  • If all goes well, I plan on having a home water birth with a midwife. If there was a birth center in our area, I would be opting for that, but since we don't have that option, and I am not wanting a hospital birth, homebirth it is! I am meeting with our potential midwife a week from today and I am excited to meet her.

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  • The practice I am thinking of switching to has both OBs and MWs.  I like the idea of the option.  I watched The Business of Being Born and it is scary to think about hospitals and the money they make by inducing.  

    I saw this as well and it seemed a little over the top paranoid to me I am a moderation girl. A happy medium. I had dd in a birthing center attached to a hospital. If the actual hospital with level 4 NICU was closer I would have birthed there but I love my mw/ob practice so I haven't decided what I am going to do for this one. I had a terrible birth experience there. I need to talk it over at my initial ob visit which is with a mw I saw most of my last pregnancy.
  • 4N6s4N6s member
    Me! I love the idea of it.
  • Midwife! She has been my women's health practitioner for ever and I also did some rotations with her and her group for NP school. Love their approach!
  • I'm going to a midwife.  I have the choice of going to either, but I'm planning to involve a doula and based on my first appointment with the midwife, I think it would be a much better fit.
  • Anyone have any natural birthing book suggestions? I bought Ina May's and Bradley Method. I started reading Ina May and it is fabtastic.

     

     

     

  • Our hospital offers midwives. They are the ones who deliver babies, not the doctors. I am thinking about checking out the birthing center, but our hospital is very baby friendly. They even have a labor tub!
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    My practice uses 10 doctors and 6 certified nurse midwives. Certain appointments are with midwives, and others with doctors. I have two choices for hospitals. One is five minutes away, one is 30 minutes away. If I need to go to the closer hospital, I will have a doctor. If I chose to go to the further hospital, a midwife delivery is a possibility, but a doctor will also be available. I feel comfortable with either outcome because my practice is very anti-intervention, so I believe I will have the same care no matter who delivers my baby. 
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  • We are considering a midwife, but I had a C-section with my first. 
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  • @cpedward‌

    Those are both great books! I don't have any other specific recommendations but read as many birth stories as you can, especially positive ones. So much of a good labor is based on what's going on in your head. If you think you can do it, you can!
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  • I thought about a midwife for my first birth, but I adore my Ob. She was completely on board with a natural un-medicated birth. But unfortunately, I had some complications with the birth, so I ended up in an emergency C - section. I will stick with my Ob this time around, just in case!
  • Had a midwife team with my first birth at a free standing birth center 4 years ago and will be going that route again. Love, love, loved my midwives. I especially liked the long, thoughtful prenatal appointments where they got to know me and my husband holistically. I appreciated that there were no unnecessary pelvic checks at appointments or intervention/machines during labor. Was a beautiful place to give birth (they had candles lit all around when I showed up in labor at 2am), I was able to have a water birth, and I was back home a few hours after birth. They gave me and my husband support to take the lead in our birth experience. Was incredibly empowering. Am ridiculously excited for my first prenatal again with them in a few weeks :)
  • I have considered it, however everyone is trying to talk me out of it because this is my first pregnancy. -_- I just recently watched a friend have a natural birth at the birthing center and even though this was her third child she just seemed so serene, and comfortable. They say I should have the first baby at the hospital but I hate/despise hospitals

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  • @hoplesslybeautiful‌

    Ultimately, it's your choice (and hubby's if he's in the picture)! No one else can go through labor for you and it's your choice what way is best for you. No one will love baby as much as you either. Read up, make an informed decision, and don't let naysayers upset you whatever you choose! Hugs!
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  • edited August 2014

    I have considered it, however everyone is trying to talk me out of it because this is my first pregnancy. -_- I just recently watched a friend have a natural birth at the birthing center and even though this was her third child she just seemed so serene, and comfortable. They say I should have the first baby at the hospital but I hate/despise hospitals

    First, I agree with what @Ncountrygal‌ said.

    Second, I don't think it really matters what number child this is for you. Even though you haven't experienced childbirth yet, a first time mom can still be more informed on interventions than a veteran mom. Being informed on the labor & delivery process (doing research, taking a birthing class, etc) will help you immensely. Not to mention, your midwife will help & guide you through the whole thing. It might be scary at times but I think most first labors can be scary no matter where you deliver. If you already hate hospitals, trying to have a baby in one might add unnecessary extra stress and anxiety.

    In short - you & your hubs should do some research and stand strong in whatever choice you make. It's your pregnancy and your baby!
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  • Can't say enough good things about our midwife! With her support, I was able to give birth to DS vaginally after pushing for 7 hours, which I'm positive no OB would have allowed. It was so empowering to work so hard to give birth naturally and I'm thankful every day that she gave me that opportunity. Also, just want to note that giving birth at home is extremely safe. OR can be prepped as you're being driven to hospital in an ambulance, should it come to that, in the same amount of time as it would take to wheel you from L&D to OR if you were giving birth at the hospital. Your midwife is extremely well-trained to look for warning signs of emergency. The thing is, birth is a natural process that is unlikely to need intervention, especially when attended by a care professional who isn't bound by hospital liability constraints. Trust your body's ability to do what it is meant to do! And hire a professional who trusts your body too. :)
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