Baby name debate...help!

danjan2019 · August 2014

We are so excited we are expecting a boy in January after years of trying and fertility treatments.

So the fun debate is now on for boys names..we always said if its a boy it would be a Jr. but....I like it but don't love it. My pick is Logan, my husband does love it too but I really think he wants a junior.

Do I suck it up and go with the junior as it could be his only chance or try to get Logan to win out?

Anyone have a similiar situation? Suggestions are welcome ;-)

kefttsc · August 2014

There is a great baby name board that always provides a lot of suggestions and advice. You might try reaching out there!
I'm not a fan of Jrs, but I like Logan

Kurtz No More! · August 2014

Personally, I think a name is very important and it is one of the few things I do not plan to let slide when my husband and I start picking names.

Furthermore, I've known to many juniors, and they have a difficult time. Everyone time someone calls and asks for so-and-so, then it's like "which one?" or mail always getting confused. I had a friend in high school that would get his dad's mail all the time, even though his dad didn't live with him anymore. I've even heard of juniors having troubles with credit related items getting credited to the wrong individual or one taking out credit cards in the other's name. Not that you'd have any of those problems, just saying it can be an issue sometimes.

But, just my personal thoughts!

KnitPixy · August 2014

My DH was supposed to Robert, which would have made him not only a jr but a third. My ILs opted for going with Robert as middle name. We plan on continuing that tradition if it's a boy. Ann is family middle name on my side we go will go that way if it's a girl.

I would recommend talking it through with you SO. Maybe even make a list of pros and cons of both names if you are having a hard time deciding. Personally I would push for the middle name as it will still give LO a connection to your SO.

KateMcPreggers · August 2014

I told my husband before we even were considering TTC that if we had a boy "someday", he could be a 3rd (cuz my husband is already a Jr). I'm sticking with the plan. Just glad his name is Mike, not some weird old man name. I'll get to name the next kid whatever I want, and since we're planning to have at least 3, I'm ok with that.

If it really means a lot to your husband, I would go with the Jr name. My husband said ever since he was a kid, he wanted a son named after him... I guess he felt closer to his dad because of having the same name and wants that with his son too?

nova99 · August 2014

You could Jr. The first name and use Logan as a middle name and call him Logan. My sons first name is Charles but we go by his middle name.

Maebb · August 2014

DS has the same first name as DH but different middle name, so he's not a junior. Maybe you could go with a comprise like that.

kelsdaws · August 2014

My brothers name is the same as my dad's with a different middle name... Actually a quite unusual name! My brother goes by his middle name and is getting married next month, he is actually mad that the minister is using his legal name because he has been going by his middle name his entire life lol!

Angeldcf · August 2014

My Dad is a Jr, and DH is a II. Neither of them like this. They've both had issues with cleaning up credit reports, wrong mail, etc. Both of their sons are not IIIs (if that makes sense).

maybebride · August 2014

In order to be an actual junior or third, the full name would have to be the same. Before I was pregnant, DH had mentioned once or twice using his same first name, but then we decided on something else. Once I was pregnant, our favorite name was off the table for a few reasons and my grandfather asked the day before we found out DS would be a boy if we'd considered DH's first name with a different shortening of the name. I told DH to think really think about it and that if he really felt strongly that he would like to pass on his name to our son that I was on board with it. It turned out he really wanted to do it, but we chose middle names (DS has two, as does DH) that are not the same as DH's.

So, that might be one way to go. I do think it is important if using the same first name to have some way to easily distinguish between father and son aside from junior/senior. DH and DS are both William, but DH is Bill and DS is Will. My grandfather and an uncle are both James, but grandfather is James/Jim and uncle is Jimmy. Using a middle name is okay, but that can be hard for kids in school to always have to correct teachers.

jennypolkadots · August 2014

I am almost opposite. DH feels super weird about the idea of a kid being named after him. His middle name is his grandfather's first name. It is a nice classic name that flows perfectly with our #1 boys choice. He likes the sound of the name in theory, but I think it will be a no go because he just feels so weird about naming a kid after himself. I would actually not mind naming our kid his whole name because his name is great and he loves it himself, but there is no way he would go for it.

Anyways - Would you actually call the kid "Junior?" or something else? If you don't like Jr and he doesn't like Logan, than neither is the right name at all. Maybe compromise by having DH's first name as the middle name?

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