September 2014 Moms

C-section anyone??!

I am planning on having a schedule c-section, and I am terrified. I told my husband that after I had our daughter I didn't want anyone in the room when I breastfed her, (except my mom because she breastfed me). Now how do I tell everyone else that to without hurting their feelings?

Re: C-section anyone??!

  • "Baby and I are still trying to get the hang of feedings so we would feel more comfortable if you could step out for 15 mins or so." If your home and have a bunch of guests it will probably be easiest if you go to the other room.
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  • Would it be bad if I had my husband tell them?
  • Is there a particular reason you don't want to tell "them"? (LIke maybe a clash with IL's?) Or is it that you just don't like confrontation.

    If you think your in-laws are likely to raise a stink about it, it might be better to have DH say something - they are less likely to get butthurt when it comes from the fam. Whereas, you might want to say something to YOUR family and friends, as you don't want to have any prickliness towards your DH from your side either.

    Normally I would says eff everyone else's feelings, but it sounds like you are asking this question because you do not see it the way I do.

     

     

     

  • You do what you need to do to make yourself comfortable. You can tell the nurses that you don't want visitors for X amount of time (except your mom) and they will run interference for you. That way, you and your H are out of the line of fire. You can prep people by saying that you want that special bonding time with baby before people come and you could even tell them that you will call/text when you're ready/able to have visitors.
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  • PPs pretty much covered the breastfeeding question. But I too am curious what wanting privacy to breastfeed has to do with having a c-section. Several moms on this board are also having c-sections or have had a c-section, did you also want to know more about them to help ease your fears?

    Here's a good thread to check out if that's the case.
    https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12409486/btdt-c-section-mamas-real-talk#latest
  • Not sure what this has to do with a c section, but I would just ask people nicely to step out while you feed the baby.
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  • lindsay3022lindsay3022 member
    edited August 2014
    YOU JUST DO WHAT YOU'RE COMFORTABLE WITH!

    This is the time to bond with your baby, become a mom for the first time (I'm assuming)… not the time to worry about other peoples' feelings.  Not your job.  Not your problem.

    You don't owe anybody an explanation for the decisions you make as a 1.) parent and 2.) person recovering from childbirth - no matter how you give birth.  

    They'll get over it.  I promise ;-)
  • I kicked everyone out when my DD needed to eat. I just said "well it's time for her to eat again bye guys see you in 30 minutes" it's your choice, if you don't want anyone in the room, they won't be in the room. It's not rude for your husband to tell them but not needed, speak your mind, it's your baby
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