Teen mom, advice please.

kalkoola · August 2014

I know I am probably the only teen mom here. I am so scared. I got my positive yesterday after missing a whole period. I knew I was pregnant from the beginning. I just felt different. I am so scared to tell my parents. I know I made a mistake I know everyone does. But I need advice on pregnancy and telling my parents please, I really appreciate it. Thank you.

Texasmomma13 · August 2014

Well, there's No beating around the bush with this subject. You just need to do it. If you'd feel better, have your partner join. That is of course if you think your Dad won't beat him up. You're going to need all the emotional support you can get. So, the sooner you tell them the better.

Good luck!

thefitzfam · August 2014

Congratulations... the bottom line is that there is a baby who needs you, at least for the next nine months. For now, focus on eating healthy, taking prenatal vitamins, and putting that baby first.

I can't give you any advice about how to tell your parents, but just know that you have options and you have time. Good luck with everything, and we're here for you!!

LRL131 · August 2014

Hi there. There are actually a couple of teens who have intro'ed over the last few weeks. Either way, we are all here for support. Like PP said, take care of yourself and your baby. Make sure you are taking prenatal vitamins with at least 800 mcg of Folic Acid and some DHA (see the nutrition info on the box / bottle) and get yourself to an OB/Gyn or midwife. Prenatal care is so important. Lurk around the board and there's lots of advice and support for pregnancy. I would tell your parents as soon as you can, even if it's uncomfortable and scary. Just be straight forward and honest with them. Good luck!

erikaluna01 · August 2014

I suggest you talk to your school counselor or a teacher you trust. There may be resources or programs for teen moms in your school or community. You need all of the support possible especially to keep up with your academics. The baby's father should also seek help. Good luck and don't hesitate to ask questions!

BabiesEverywhere · August 2014

Welcome! I agree with previous posters' advice. I would take a little bit of time to consider your plan for this baby (keeping it, putting it up for adoption, etc) and how you plan to make that happen. Will you finish school? Will you get a job (or a second job if you already have one) to save money for the baby? How will the baby's dad be involved? I'm assuming your parents will want to know that you have at least thought about these things so be prepared to tell them your plans when you tell them the news.

kayw2021 · September 2014

Have you told them yet? I'm also ateen mom and i figured it would be easiest to just sit my parents down and tell them, they may be angry at first, but will probably take it better than you thought, mine did. It's important to tell them soon so you can get to the doctors, best of luck!!!!

dana1047 · September 2014

Remember that you are your parent's "baby" so there may be some disappointment which sometimes comes out as anger. This is usually only because they want you to finish your own childhood first. Regardless, there's a new life growing and lots of change coming. You have plenty of time to make decisions, but you will need support. If you don't feel comfortable telling your parents alone, find another adult you trust to help you. Be sure to start your prenatals. You can buy them at most stores over the counter. Good luck!!

My husband was born to a teen mom & dad. His mom was 15 at the time. It took lots of family support, but now his mom is a high school teacher & senior guidance counsel. Remember, some of those adults out there have been through the same things and came out fine on the other side!!

amacksta14 · September 2014

Not sure where you are located but a lot places have resources for teen moms. Best wishes! The ladies here have given some fabulous advice.

ally3242 · September 2014

The sooner you tell your parents the better. You need to come up with a pregnancy plan and you can't do it without the help of your parents. You also need to go to the doctor. I hate to seem harsh, but if you think you're mature enough to have sex, then you need to be mature enough to tell your parents and take responsibility for your action. Time to put your big girl panties on.

reinashona · September 2014

First of all, congrats to you. Secondly, know that though we may make wrong choices, your baby is not a mistake. Thirdly, take a deep breath... Now, you need to take this in small steps because I know it may be overwhelming. Just sit your parents down & be honest with them. Yes they may be upset, but at least you told them & were honest about the entire thing. Next, set up your Obgyn appointment so your dr can make sure you & you baby are alright. I hope you have some people in your corner that are able to help you along the way. Just take it a day at a time & I'm sure you will be just fine. Best wishes. Keep us posted if you can. I'm sure there are plenty of other mothers on here that can offer you great advice! ☺️

Flowerstar1023 · September 2014

The best thing you can do is be honest and tell them. I'd tell them sooner rather than later to get it off your chest and also ensure that you have support as PP's have said. At the end of the day, this is about you and not them. They may be angry or sad or any manner of emotions at first, but I am sure they love you and just want what is best for their daughter.

zoeysims · September 2014

I am only 21 but telling my parents was still difficult! I always told them I would finish my army career (still have 3 years left) and I would be completely stable before I even thought of having a baby! My mom was easy, she lives states away so it was over the phone. My dad lives closer to my duty station so hubby and I drove down to his house to tell him. We had a fishing trip planned cause he loves fishing. But before we went, I went into the bathroom and came running out saying "dad there's a spider in there go kill it!" And I literally ran as far away as I could, a few blocks down! Haha. What was actually in the bathroom was my positive pregnancy test with a card that said congrats grandpa!

I did that so I didn't have to see his reaction, or watch him kill my husband! Whichever was going to happen, I was gone. Haha I came back 15 minutes later, slowly walked back. I walked in on them sitting on the couch together talking about the adventure ahead.

Do something funny when you tell them, it'll soften the blow! Kind of.

emb518 · September 2014

I was a teen mom with my first. 19 so possibly a little older than you, but I was still living at home with my mother. My aunt told me when she first found out that a baby is always a miracle and a blessing no matter the circumstances. I find that that has always held true.
Just be honest... And take care of yourself

mrskittyquinn · September 2014

Teen mom as well! I'm 16..
I actually asked my mom to schedule an appointment for a pregnancy test so that I could know what exactly was going on (believe me I was terrified) (BELIEVE ME) which really was bad timing.. She's pregnant with twins. Due Nov. What you want to do is sit your parent(s) down and talk to him/her/them alone (or with partner) and tell them what's going on and ask them what your first step in being a responsible parent should be. They'll be upset at first but eventually they'll just be happy you told them.

EofM · September 2014

I'm 17, going thru the exact same thing, you have to find some support its the best thing for you right now

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