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CowgirlK39
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New job or baby?
CowgirlK39
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Hi, just lurking and dropping by to ask a question that's been on my mind.
DH and I are in the process of buying a home now, which was our first step towards TTC. I am the breadwinner in our family and all bills are paid with my salary. His money is used for savings mostly. My job pays pretty well, but every since I started there two years ago, I always felt like a square peg in a round hole. I battled through it and am doing okay now, but I still browse job postings all the time. I work in large capital sales and recently sold a number of projects that will definitely hold me over for at least another year, work-load wise. So it has popped in my head that perhaps this would be a good time to TTC. The way I see it, I have job security because of how busy we are, but I can't help but wonder if I will be missing out on some great job openings if I did take advantage of this time. If I did continue looking for a new job, TTC would be on hold till who knows when (since I would have to get the job and then go through a probation period).
What should we do? Utilize job security and TTC now or spend this time looking to improve my career and then TTC? FWIW, I am 28 years old and have some repro issues (very messed up cycles) I am working out with a doctor. I have an appointment scheduled next month and I know she is going to ask me what the next step is to straighten these things out, so I would like to have an idea by then what I should do.
DH and I are in the process of buying a home now, which was our first step towards TTC. I am the breadwinner in our family and all bills are paid with my salary. His money is used for savings mostly. My job pays pretty well, but every since I started there two years ago, I always felt like a square peg in a round hole. I battled through it and am doing okay now, but I still browse job postings all the time. I work in large capital sales and recently sold a number of projects that will definitely hold me over for at least another year, work-load wise. So it has popped in my head that perhaps this would be a good time to TTC. The way I see it, I have job security because of how busy we are, but I can't help but wonder if I will be missing out on some great job openings if I did take advantage of this time. If I did continue looking for a new job, TTC would be on hold till who knows when (since I would have to get the job and then go through a probation period).
What should we do? Utilize job security and TTC now or spend this time looking to improve my career and then TTC? FWIW, I am 28 years old and have some repro issues (very messed up cycles) I am working out with a doctor. I have an appointment scheduled next month and I know she is going to ask me what the next step is to straighten these things out, so I would like to have an idea by then what I should do.
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Re: New job or baby?
1) you don't know how long it will take for you to get pregnant.
2) it can be harder to get hired while pregnant, but it's not impossible. Several ladies on this board have been offered jobs while pregnant (visibly or not) and had it work out just fine.
I think there's enough unknowns here that you can work on advancing your family AND your career for now. See how things unfold and when you get pregnant or secure a new job, then you'll have a lot more info on what to do.
My concern would be if I was pregnant and a great job popped up. Perhaps I wouldn't get the job because of it, or if I did I wouldn't be able to collect leave time.
My concern would be if I was pregnant and a great job popped up. Perhaps I wouldn't get the job because of it, or if I did I wouldn't be able to collect leave time.
Don't make assumptions. Worry about that when it actually happens.
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
If a company won't give you a job because they think you're pregnant, I wouldn't want to work for them anyway - something like that is indicative of the company culture and they will probably be less family friendly. If they still offer you the position, I would negotiate maternity leave at the time of the offer - if they really value you as an employee, they should be willing to work with you.
And ditto PP, you really don't know how long it will take you to get pregnant. It could be right away or it could take years. If you ready otherwise (financially, emotionally etc.), you should go for it.