The anger is real.

Firemanswife11 · August 2014

I'm curious to know if any of you are experiencing irrational bouts of intense anger. Like, uncontrollable rage, get-the-hell-out-of-my-face-before-I-stab-you anger. From the depths of hell. Hahaha I sound INSANE, I know, but I am experiencing INTENSE feelings of anger towards anyone who does something "remotely" wrong. And I'm getting all butthurt about it, too.

Last night my sister dropped by after I told her not to because I was tired and I yelled at her through the door to go the f-ck away. And I really hurt her feelings, but I told her to NOT COME OVER, so whatever. Have I lost my mind? I mean it. Is my mind GONE?

I read this over and I sound crazy. But I am seriously angry. At...nothing.

One of my friends said she felt this way in the third tri also, when she was carrying her son. Something about the extra testosterone? I tend to be super sensitive to hormones and have PMDD but I have no scientific evidence to back anything up regarding the RAGE ... Just curious to know if I am alone in this or on the same crazy rage boat as everyone else.

;-)

MrsSarahRenee · August 2014

I get unusually emotional on all ends of the spectrum. I have a hard time controlling anger which I NEVER have an issue with IRL. Sorry you feel this way

I can empathize with feeling like you are going insane because that is how I feel all the time. Will I ever be normal again???

pushgal84 · August 2014

Yes >:P
I catch myself before actually lashing out at people, but it takes A LOT of effort! In the last 12 hrs I had a major problem with an entitled college kid making a low ball offer on something I'm selling on Craigslist and nearly bit DH's head off for not throwing away a couple beer caps. Were these completely irrational responses? Yes. Could I help it? Absolutely not. I feel a little like the hulk these days.

bumpuser10309732 · August 2014

Haha sorry your anger made me laugh because I feel a little fucking insane so I'm glad it's not just me. For example, lately it's like I don't trust DH. He's instructing this kid on the side and the other night he was giving him a lesson and I was like uh huh yeah sure you were. Then I was irrationally pissed off at him for like 20 minutes. Luckily for me he takes it in stride.

Then I got pissed off at my mom and younger brother because it was 8 o clock and I was FUNGRY and they were all oh I dunno what we should eat and I snapped. So no! It's not just you, and I'm having a girl so I think it's just WHORE-mones myself.

MrsTinMKE · August 2014

Yes! I am all over the place though. Crying sad, to happy to angry and just flat out annoyed at times. I try to keep my shit in check but its hard sometimes.

jesslinnn · August 2014

I'm not that extreme, but I've noticed I have less patience lately. I don't actually blow up on anyone but I can feel myself getting more mad than usual. I think part of it is I keep forgetting to eat and when I get hungry I get very irritable.

persephonerose · August 2014

I had really bad irrational anger after I had DS1. I did not find out until a year later that it was a symptom of PPD and I could have gotten help.

If you feel comfortable you can talk to your OB about it. They might have some advice for how to cope with it and other signs to watch out for.

DaniGrace89 · August 2014

From weeks 6-13 of pregnancy I was an irrational angry girl. My husband hated me...I ended up coming home from Ireland where he was on work because I was such a hot mess. I also freaked out at him in front of his whole family. Thankfully, I'm completely past this. We look back at it as a "fond" memory. Try not to go crazy in front of people...I'm still picking up the pieces from my first trimester nuttiness.

MrsL2B · August 2014

I had this problem during the first part of the second trimester. Not fun.

[Deleted User] · August 2014

Yep, I'm an angry bitch probably 70% of the day. I had the urge to stab the UPS delivery guy just now and I think really mean thoughts towards just about everyone I know.

My mom always tells me.. "If everyone were perfect like you, apk4, the world would be a better place."

Hahaha

Liss1481 · August 2014

I'm emotionally up and down at this point (for the past few months). Between sobbing over random things to the irrational anger, I'm worried about the post-partum period. My fuse is definitely a lot shorter these days.

MuffinMom14 · August 2014

Honestly, as someone who has dealt with depression my whole adult life, pregnancy (and thus, being unmedicated) has not been that hard. I was scared I'd be crazytown, but I'm maybe more normal? It's weird. I mean, my "normal" is not very normal to begin with, but. You know.

I haven't been super angry, really, but last night I cried because I miss my husband. I told him this, as he laid there in bed next to me. He's like "what do you mean?" I think I meant sexually or something, but I just don't WANNA, and I feel like we can't even cuddle or touch much because I have to be propped up on pillows or whatever. I just MISS him. I didn't really say anything other than "I miss you, and when this baby comes, everyone says I'll not have time with you." And somehow he got what I meant and just touched me until I fell asleep. It sounds weird and sexual, but it wasn't. And he made sure to have a hand on me all night. It was nice.

I must have allergies. My eyes are watery.

duckr · August 2014

I really enjoy the name of this post, LOL!!! Also, I'm low on patience and angry a lot as well. I'm not to the point of yelling at people but I have been short and kinda rude at times. If only I gave a shit...

white714 · August 2014

I get annoyed a lot lately. Mainly it's stupid people asking stupid questions or just little things piss me off. My husband is doing renovations at our new house and I'm not speaking to him right now cause he's just pissing me off with all the work going on and we're living out of boxes, it's frustrating!

ADH0906 · August 2014

I'm definitely ragey...I wouldn't say it's as intense as you describe, but I will find myself becoming angry when absolutely nothing else about a situation has changed. I go from fine to annoyed in zero seconds flat.

ETA: yelling at people through the door sounds beyond annoyance/slight anger though. I would be very hurt if someone did that to me.

haboobjob · August 2014

Pregnancy has actually calmed me down. A definite reduction in angry moments.

Last night though, I unleashed a whole mess of crazy on DH after I realized he opened a second bottle of wine because he needed three glasses of wine on a MONDAY. Not even a bad Monday either... Just a standard day of work Monday. So annoyed. I get it... Have one with dinner but 3? I really don't think a buzz is necessary.

@pushgal84‌ - the bottle caps.... OMG. That's another touchy area in my world. I hate picking them up.

MrMrsandBaby · August 2014

Honestly, I think there is a difference between being irrationally stabby about stupid stuff and actually lashing out like you did in your example. I told DH on Sunday to watch out because I could feel myself swinging from raging bitch to ball of tears without any notice, but I think to get the the point where you can't control it and are yelling at people through the door is a little toward the extreme side.

If you are angry all the time, at nothing as you say, I would strongly suggest bringing this up to your doctor. If you are angry because people are being stupid, that is one thing...but anger for no reason is different.

Maggie6424 · August 2014

My friend has this the last six weeks of her 2nd pregnancy. She said she just wanted to kill everyone near her, for no reason.
I have it, but typically something sets it off. Either DS1 is being really bad, or H does something that hits a nerve.

lrobi13 · August 2014

I am so sorry. I have less patience at work but overall I am less angry (maybe it is because I have been trying to stay calm to help my blood glucose levels? and nobody is just dropping by my house).

I hope you get some relief from your anger soon because it sounds very exhausting! I am sure your sister will understand and next time you say something to her she will do what you say!

It kinda reminds me of a movie I watched this weekend where this girl has a gun and nobody thinks she will actually shot them. She actually says "Why do people keep saying that" like duh, I course I will shoot you. (that made more sense in my head but I am posting anyway)

I would send you a creepy internet hug but don't want to piss you off further

Eelyak2 · August 2014

You are definitely not alone. My husband is lucky he is alive at this point. Ugh.

SusieBW · August 2014

My patience is extremely short. Extremely. And the result of reaching the end of it is rage. I have to check myself a lot where DD is concerned. She's just acting like a 3 year old, but in my current state of mind, it doesn't take much for her typical 3 year old behavior to set me off.

I'm sick of people asking me how I'm doing, and since DH got hurt, I'm honestly even more sick of people asking what they can do to help us. It stresses me out that EVERYONE keeps asking me how they can help and what they can do because I honestly don't really think anyone can do anything to help, beyond what our parents are already doing for us. But whenever I tell anyone that, they get a skeptical look on their face like they don't believe me or I'm just trying to be nice and not ask for help. And then I want to smack them.

AppleGrapeMSTK · August 2014

I flipped out on my 10 year old last night for not coming in to dinner the first time I called. She was in the neighbor's backyard with music on, so I doubt she heard me. But I probably embarrassed her in front of her friends, and I dropped the F bomb for no legitimate reason. She cried. I didn't feel like a terrible mother until I had calmed down a couple hours later. Poor thing.

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Emerald27 · August 2014

I'm more impatient than usual, but I think that's more just feeling uncomfortable than hormones. I've been less patient with DS' rowdiness and it makes me sad that I can't roughhouse the way he would like. He has to be gentle with me and wait for Daddy to really play.

I've been a tad more emotional than usual. Crying at movies and feeling occasional bouts of anxiety or whatever, but nothing too extreme.

Maybe mention it to your doctor? Could be something as simple as not getting enough sleep or being sore or hormones, but it's worth asking.

Firemanswife11 · August 2014

I am getting plenty of sleep and I'm eating fine, etc. Getting exercise ... blah blah blah. I just think it has something to do with my hormones being jacked up pre-pregnancy ANYWAY (with the PMDD) but it's getting tiring. I took Prozac before pregnancy but don't want to get on it now, even though my doctor said I could if I got crazy enough ... lol.

Glad to hear I am not alone and I hope for peace for each of you.

vrj0522 · August 2014

With DS I was a weepy mess the entire pregnancy. This time around I have turned to anger. I get really mad over the smallest things too. I've had to really exercise some self-control to not be super nasty a few times. I do agree that hormones are all over the place and that can play with your emotions.

cmac6186 · August 2014

I also find that when I do get ragey or sobby that it's like an out of body experience. I know I'm being crazy, but I can't stop myself. I can see the rational side of things, but my body won't let me react like a normal person!

BreandMikewedding · August 2014

Oh yes! I have serious road rage when pregnant. I try not to drive at this point and soon I will have h drop me and pick me up at the curb. Last pregnancy a car parked really close to me and I keyed the whole side I was so mad! I've tried to keep it under control this pregnancy.

Lindzoid · August 2014

I had this last post baby in my last pregnancy. I would be up in the middle of the night BF the baby and staring at my husband sleep....thinking of how much I hated him. Really I didn't though!! I just was angry that he was sleeping and I was awake. Completely normal the way you feel...hormones are great!!

pnwlover12 · August 2014

TicketTuesday said:

BreandMikewedding said:
Oh yes! I have serious road rage when pregnant. I try not to drive at this point and soon I will have h drop me and pick me up at the curb. Last pregnancy a car parked really close to me and I keyed the whole side I was so mad! I've tried to keep it under control this pregnancy.
WOAH, man. Woah...

Haha, seriously, holy shit!

miriamm08 · August 2014

I've been all over the place with emotions the last few weeks in particular, but the last couple days I've noticed I'm even more grumpy. DH has been trying to be extra sweet because he knows I'm just ready to be done being pregnant, and just want my baby here. I feel like a kid the week before Christmas who just can't wait to open their presents. :-w

archi35 · August 2014

Me too over here! My road rage specifically has gotten out of pocket. Baby's first words are gonna be something to the tune of "what the fuck motherFUCKER?!?!?!" Luckily I'm keeping my driving like a little old lady while I flip people off and scream at them with the windows up because I'm hot at shit and the AC is on full blast. 8-}

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