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wish me luck (only half serious)

JuliaB317JuliaB317 member
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This is me being a bit of a baby.

My Mother-in-Law is coming over "just to visit" tomorrow. My husband will be at work, so it will be just me and her. She drives me CRAZY. I mean CRAZY.
I'm sure I'll have stories afterwards. She and I are completely different people, and boy is she ever full of advice! Not to mention full of herself.

Can I share her "fun" and "interesting" opinions on my pregnancy and parenting plans after tomorrow's visit? Just to vent, really. I don't want to vent to my husband because the poor man in nothing like her, and he gets it. He realizes that she's a challenge. I feel like I'm going to be biting my tongue a LOT and holding back like crazy. Anyone else have MILs that make their eyes roll? Want to make me feel like I'm not alone?

I realize this isn't a huge problem, and I'm probably just cranky because I'm in my third trimester. I wouldn't mind some good luck vibes sent my way though.

Thanks!
PS - Did I mention that she'll probably want to stay over without telling us, and maybe even multiple nights? In our tiny city apartment? She's done it before...
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Re: wish me luck (only half serious)

  • bohemianlcbohemianlc member
    Haha I can totally identify. My MIL is also pretty crazy. She means well, but saying she is pushy, demanding, and overly emotional is quite the understatement. I know this sounds terrible, but I'm thankful that she lives extremely far away so I haven't had to deal with her much throughout this pregnancy. ;)

    Go ahead and vent here all you want! My husband is the same way in that he "gets it" and would never hesitate to step in if necessary, so I think it's great that you're trying to avoid venting to him about her. Try to stay calm for the sake of your baby and your husband, and feel free to share the absurdity with us. LOL Good luck!
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  • poptart109poptart109 member
    I could've written this myself. Last time MIL came by to help around the house (I was on bedrest) she came over, drank a chocolate shake in front of me then promptly fell asleep on my couch.
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  • Kittievr4Kittievr4 member
    I can relate completely only my MIL is amazing. It's my own mother that's the problem.  She is the definition of narcissistic and is incredibly challenging. She once told me she never wanted to be a mother so she'd rather be my friend...
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  • HappyToBeHereHappyToBeHere member
    PLEASE share/vent!  It may make me feel better about my MIL and her insanity around this pregnancy (her first grandchild, so I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt).
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  • bohemianlcbohemianlc member
    OP, how did it go? Fill us in! :) 
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  • JuliaB317JuliaB317 member
    She was...as I expected. We cooked her chicken, potatos and beans, and she told me to include about 24 ingredients that I didn't have, LOL. She complained about her job a lot, but then declared that she doesn't have to work (she lives off a very size-able divorce settlement) so she thinks she'll just quit and go on a trip. My husband and I work VERY hard and have set ourselves a budget to have money for our new baby, so, you know, she's not inconsiderate at all *rolls eyes*.

    Very typical stuff. Let's see...she thinks I'm wrong for having the baby sleep in our room for the first few months, criticizes my own mom and sister viciously to my face, oh, and still LOVES to remind me that I'm a shitty person because I kept my maiden name.

    I'm actually on here to post another message about her, but this time with more of a serious tone, because I have a real worry. Feel free to read, although it might be a novel.

    Thanks for the support and good luck with your own MILS and Moms. In a small way, it makes me feel better to know I'm not alone. Although I don't wish these situations on anyone.

    Take care, all!
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  • bohemianlcbohemianlc member
    Argh! I'm glad someone else has had to deal with the name thing! I decided to hyphenate my maiden name with my husband's last name when we got married. My MIL has actually told his family that they should just write my husband's last name when addressing things to me instead of writing out "such a long humdinger." Really?! LOL 
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