Today's Modern Woman

wildflower75 · August 2014

There's this funny sign I saw on pinterest about Today's Modern Woman... I often think about it whenever I think of all the things I need to "do" and how sometimes you just have to pick and choose:
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TODAY'S MODERN WOMAN
-Clean House.
-Healthy dinner on the table (at dinnertime) .
- Fit, trim & well-groomed.
- Works full time.
- Laundry done and put away.
- Great sex life.

...PICK ANY TWO

So here's the clicky poll: Which one of these is most important to your SO? Please write below which two you focus most on and why...

JamieK1882 · August 2014

Yay first vote! To be honest, I'm not sure that ONE of those is especially important to my husband, but if I had to pick, I picked "fit, trim and well-groomed." I only picked this because DH cares about my health and encourages me to eat healthy and go to the gym. This is more for mental and physical benefits, though, not just to have a "hot" wife. He also likes when my nails are done.

For me, I focus mainly on "work full time" (see my bitchfest-I have a ton of jobs) and probably "fit, trim and well-groomed." I like to make a nice appearance, and it's important in my career field.

Clean house is important but not a #1 priority. I'm NOT a healthy eat AT ALL (hence my husbands encouragement), and we're both bad about putting laundry away. Also, sex life is important but not near the very top of our lists.

Honestly, if I had to add my own special snowflake category, I would put "quality family time" instead of sex life as a top priority for both of us.

wildflower75 · August 2014

I think that Sex life is most important to DH and then after that a clean house...

For me I tend to focus on
Working full time (I make the larger amount between the two of us)
and Sex life.

Laundry is definitely Not something I focus on at all (except for DD's) because DH does his own and I can go months without doing laundry because I have too many clothes!!

kstirton · August 2014

I put great sex life - I think next to that it'd be staying well fit groomed and trimmed. Hubby is totally laid back about EVERYTHING and if he's getting some action he is a happy camper. I also know even if he'd never say it that physical appearance is important to him, that I don't let myself go - it's basic human nature to want to find your partner attractive!

And this poll just depresses me right now b/c I am none of these things lol.

ssstephanie214 · August 2014

Clean house is most important to me but then again, not more important than a good sex life. I have fallen behind on all of these responsibilities since becoming pregnant.

JamieK1882 · August 2014

We need a "today's modern PREGNANT woman" poll.

wildflower75 · August 2014

JamieK1882 said:

We need a "today's modern PREGNANT woman" poll.

TRUE!
I guess I should have stipulated... "when not pregnant"...LOL

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

We like the lifestyle we've become accustomed to, so I chose "Works Full Time" (AKA bringing home a paycheck).

Really, there's nothing I feel like I NEED to do. DH and I are both fairly independent people (things are probably going to change though when we have two little dependents running around).

If one of us wants the house clean, they will clean it. If one of us thinks he/she needs to be fit/healthier, he or I will go to the gym (it's a personal decision). DH has acclimated to cooking/planning meals for the time being since my appetite has been so far off this pregnancy. The sex thing...sadly that's not happening right now. But we cuddle and spend quality time with each other in other ways, so I don't think the emotional bond of our relationship is suffering.

kstirton · August 2014

- Doesn't get stoned or drunk

- Limits her dessert to one per meal

- Resorts to BJ's over sex

- Limits herself to one emotional breakdown per day

- showers and changes her underwear daily

I can feel good about this list.

wildflower75 · August 2014

kstirton said:

- Doesn't get stoned or drunk
- Limits her dessert to one per meal
- Resorts to BJ's over sex
- Limits herself to one emotional breakdown per day
- showers and changes her underwear daily

I can feel good about this list.

HILARIOUS and perfect for Today's Modern Pregnant Woman!! (Although I know a lot of pregnant women that have a hard time showering everyday)

kstirton · August 2014

wildflower75 said:
HILARIOUS and perfect for Today's Modern Pregnant Woman!! (Although I know a lot of pregnant women that have a hard time showering everyday)

Lol, good point, if it wasn't for my increase either a. body odor or b. my ability smell my normal body odor I'd probably try and slack on that too

runningmama14 · August 2014

I picked sex life was most important to dh, not really because he's a crazed sex hound, but because I think he could still be happy with any of the other things missing.

For me working full time isn't currently optional, so there's that as one. After that I would say sex. All the other stuff gets done eventually to enough of a degree that we survive :-)

Edited for spelling

beatrixkiddo19 · August 2014

I chose "works full time," but it's certainly not about the money.

H really stood by me during some rough times where I wasn't working a job at all and some even rougher times when I was working jobs that made me miserable. Now I'm working a job that makes very little money but is emotionally fulfilling and we are both happier than ever.

I guess second to that is great sex life, but I also see that as having a strong emotional connection rather than just the physical aspect.

hiketheworld · August 2014

I feel like this list is that of a 50s housewife (minus the working full time part)! I'm offended by the idea that a modern woman's role is to put a healthy meal on the table, keep a clean house, laundry, or keep fit and impeccably groomed because your husband expects this? Ugh. If you and your partner both have full time jobs out of the home, why on earth would the housework and cooking be the wife's responsibility?

AnnieRoo13 · August 2014

DH definitely appreciates my cooking so I picked healthy dinner on the table. He and I both love good food and he is always so happy that I make dinner every night and that I try to make it healthy (for the most part).

Personally I would love to have a perfectly clean house all the time- if I wasn't the one having to clean it!

missnacholover · August 2014

DH's most important would probably be the sex. I'm sure he wishes we had more and more exciting sex. Something I try to work on. Hard when I'm a giant pregnant blob though!

But...
-He helps clean
-He does more than half of the cooking
-Neither one of us is fit, although we both want to work on that post-baby.
-He recognizes that I work full time and the household responsibilities should be shared
-He is good at doing laundry.

kstirton · August 2014

hiketheworld said:

I feel like this list is that of a 50s housewife (minus the working full time part)! I'm offended by the idea that a modern woman's role is to put a healthy meal on the table, keep a clean house, laundry, or keep fit and impeccably groomed because your husband expects this? Ugh. If you and your partner both have full time jobs out of the home, why on earth would the housework and cooking be the wife's responsibility?

Hubby has def picked up a lot of slack while I've been pregnant. He's cooked, helped w/ laundry, etc. However ... when I wasn't pregnant I did try and keep the house kept up, dinner on the table (or at least planned) .... hubby is in charge of the "manly" duties like taking out trash, keeping up w/ yard work/car maintenance, that kind of stuff. we both sacrifice our time for the benefit of each other and while that's happening, I don't care that I take care of the more "traditional" roles.

runningmama14 · August 2014

hiketheworld said:
I feel like this list is that of a 50s housewife (minus the working full time part)! I'm offended by the idea that a modern woman's role is to put a healthy meal on the table, keep a clean house, laundry, or keep fit and impeccably groomed because your husband expects this? Ugh. If you and your partner both have full time jobs out of the home, why on earth would the housework and cooking be the wife's responsibility?

Eh, it's a joke. The point is that a modern woman would only do two of those things, not all of them.

joshua+rebecca11 · August 2014

I picked clean house, and that would go for DH as well. His mom's place was and is always an absolute wreck. Like so bad we won't let her babysit at her house, and if we're at her house our LO won't be allowed to crawl on the floor because mice, trash, food, laundry and who knows what else inhabit the carpet. So he is pretty excited about a clean house, he's really good at picking up after himself and sweeping/doing dishes/laundry etc. I'm not really sure what number two would be - but probably quality time, which isn't on the list

Sarahbeth612 · August 2014

That list is exhausting

I'm going to send that sign to DH and see what he thinks.

But I voted sex... I'm pretty sure he'd be happy to have sex on top of a pile of dirty laundry looking a hot mess, and skip dinner altogether every day. Its me who thinks the other things are just as important.

brooklyngirl18 · August 2014

absolutelymaybe said:

We like the lifestyle we've become accustomed to, so I chose "Works Full Time" (AKA bringing home a paycheck).

Really, there's nothing I feel like I NEED to do. DH and I are both fairly independent people (things are probably going to change though when we have two little dependents running around).

If one of us wants the house clean, they will clean it. If one of us thinks he/she needs to be fit/healthier, he or I will go to the gym (it's a personal decision). DH has acclimated to cooking/planning meals for the time being since my appetite has been so far off this pregnancy. The sex thing...sadly that's not happening right now. But we cuddle and spend quality time with each other in other ways, so I don't think the emotional bond of our relationship is suffering.

this exactly! i voted for work full time since me not working isn't an option. DH is pretty laid back about house related things (cooking, cleaning, laundry) and has picked up some slack recently. sex has never been super important to him, not any more so than any regular guy, but our sex life has taken a nose dive and he's been great about it and i dont feel our emotional connection has suffered at all. i would say the next most important thing would be cooking dinner but more so because I love to cook and it's ususally not healthy. i'm hoping that will change when baby gets here.

wildflower75 · August 2014

runningmama14 said:

I feel like this list is that of a 50s housewife (minus the working full time part)! I'm offended by the idea that a modern woman's role is to put a healthy meal on the table, keep a clean house, laundry, or keep fit and impeccably groomed because your husband expects this? Ugh. If you and your partner both have full time jobs out of the home, why on earth would the housework and cooking be the wife's responsibility?
Eh, it's a joke. The point is that a modern woman would only do two of those things, not all of them.

This EXACTLY!

mexinugget · August 2014

For me it's the dinner and clean house. I'm a little old fashioned that way. I love being a SAHM because i'm able to focus on those things and ds.. Sex is also important, but we've never had problems in that area, except when i'm pregnant. I feel good when my house is clean and i love cooking. I can't wait until my kids can tell me make that for dinner mom, i love it when you make that : )

lesliegolem · August 2014

My hubby is a neat freak but definitely sex is most important to him. If he doesn't get it at least once a week he turns into a crabby, crabby man. Then he starts complaining about the house being clean, etc. We had sex up until the day before I had my first baby (41 weeks). But at almost 27 weeks I feel like sex is done with this pregnancy, it's just too hard and I threw up last time we tried....needless to say that was not a turn on lol.

For me clean house is most important but like others said this list feels outdated. If I get in a shower and get to work on time, think I'm doing pretty well!

soulcupcake · August 2014

None of them.

Neither of us are the slightest bit traditional, and while there are things that are important, they're not absolutes. There are no hard expectations as context plays an important factor, as do the dynamics of what is going on.

kimberly_ann81 · August 2014

What about happy well cared fo children?

hiketheworld · August 2014

Sexism is hilarious. Right??

wildflower75 · August 2014

hiketheworld said:
Sexism is hilarious. Right??

Sexism is not hilarious but the sign is meant as a joke... as many people mentioned here, many times the items on the list are split or done by one person or the other, as long as it gets done. This was not posted to start a Sexism debate.

runningmama14 · August 2014

wildflower75 said:

Sexism is hilarious. Right??
Sexism is not hilarious but the sign is meant as a joke... as many people mentioned here, many times the items on the list are split or done by one person or the other, as long as it gets done. This was not posted to start a Sexism debate.

And yet, some people must find a way to debate, even if that means arguing a point that has very little to do with the convo at hand. 8-|

Sometimes it's okay to step off the soapbox and just laugh.

sparklingwhit · August 2014

I put fit, trim and well groomed as my #1 priority because it makes me feel good about me and a lot of the other things such as "great sex life" falls into play when you look and feel good. Healthy dinner fits with that as well. I would actually consider those two the same.

Second, I would say is working full time. I like money. It makes me feel powerful and when I know I am making more money than most men I know it makes me feel strong and independent. My husband worships my work ethic and thinks I'm a badass and that makes me feel important and strong. Therefore our sex life also benefits from my work. LOL!

jlove253 · August 2014

DH is not a tidy man, but when our house is dirty he hates it, and I'm a sucky cleaner/organizer. That being said, if DH is satisfied sexually (which doesn't take much) I can get away with any lack of chores being done.

*I am a SAHM (basically) and part of our decisions that I would stop working full time was that I would take on more of the house work chores. Still trying to work on that, haha*

MrsLillyG · August 2014

wildflower75 said:

There's this funny sign I saw on pinterest about Today's Modern Woman... I often think about it whenever I think of all the things I need to "do" and how sometimes you just have to pick and choose:
https://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/09/06/1a/09061a411b4d3381bf59efec92092789.jpg (can't paste the pic)

TODAY'S MODERN WOMAN
-Clean House.
-Healthy dinner on the table (at dinnertime) .
- Fit, trim & well-groomed.
- Works full time.
- Laundry done and put away.
- Great sex life.

...PICK ANY TWO

So here's the clicky poll: Which one of these is most important to your SO? Please write below which two you focus most on and why...

I picked work full time! He likes that I am ambitious. The rest of those things don't take me as long as working full time.... even if you add them all together.

but I guess I focus most on working bc it is the most time consuming, and second on sex/keeping fit (sorry its a tie). there are definitely plenty of days where I let the house get messy, or skimp on dinner and let the hamper overflow.

mamaluzi · August 2014

I put "clean house," though that's really just me. My hubby's not a pig, but he's not very tidy...he just doesn't notice when the house is a bit askew or if laundry needs to be done, etc. That being said, I'm not like OCD about a spotless house - I still have dog toys on the ground and books left out etc. but I do notice when things get messy and it bothers me to the point where it's distracting from other things, so I clean it. DH probably wouldn't care if I didn't, though....same thing goes for laundry, and looking nice (I like to look nice and DH comments when I'm especially dressed up, but he probably wouldn't care if I wore a garbage bag lol)

I guess working full time would be the other. We need the $$. However, recently we've been making a huge HUGE effort to eat at home and cook every night to save said $$ (hubby's quite the chef so I'm off the hook most nights!), so I guess that's up there, too.

I wish I could say that sex life is top priority, but it's just not...I don't have the highest sex drive, and hubby is understanding...I do LOVE snuggling though, and being mushy/romantic!
....but I also love sleep

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