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Jesse835235Jesse835235 member
edited August 2014 in TTC After a Loss
I just wanted to quickly introduce myself because I will have a presence in this board.  I won't be the most dedicated poster, but I will try to provide meaningful input where I can.  First of all, I'm so sorry that we have all been through very difficult situations to get us on this board, however, it's nice to have this outlet where people with similarities can reach out to one another.

Anyway, we lost our Joshua at 27 weeks in early April due to a rare and sporadic heart condition.  We knew at 18 weeks that he had a less than a 1% chance of surviving, but I wanted to carry him for as long as he wished to stay with us. 

My doctor told me that it is recommended to wait a year to TTC, but if we wanted to try sooner she wouldn't say no.  I also had a LEEP procedure two months ago to remove some abormal cells.  I left a message with her asking if she wants to see me before we start trying again. 

Is there anyone else on this board who has had a stillborn who would share when they started trying again?

Best wishes to all of you.
Me: 27    DH: 30
Married in 2011
Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014)
Baby 2: Due May 2016

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  • paintdadantapaintdadanta member
    I'm sorry for the loss of your son, Joshua, and hope that you are able to find support here. Welcome to the board.
    Life is a balance of holding on and letting go.

    BFP #1 05/19/14, EDD 01/19/15, MMC 06/12/14 

     BFP #2 10/10/14, EDD 06/19/15

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  • lyndz333lyndz333 member
    I'm sorry for the loss of your son, Joshua.  I don't have any experience in your shoes but I wanted to offer my condolences and support.  
    BFP #1 - 12/7/2012 - EDD 8/14/2013 - DD born 8/17/2013
    BFP #2 - 3/31/2014 - EDD 12/6/2014 - Natural miscarriage on 4/28/2014
    BFP #3 - 8/4/2014 - EDD 4/12/2015 - Chemical Pregnancy discovered on 8/13/2014

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    I have no experience or advice, but I'm sorry for the loss of your Joshua and I'm glad you've find the board. It's athe most wonderful place no one wants to be. ((Hugs)) and welcome.
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  • littlecookielittlecookie member
    I'm so sorry about the loss of Joshua. Welcome to the board.
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  • kittymeowbarkkittymeowbark member
    I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome.
    Yelena + Rubere Married: 05/13/2011
    TTC since 2012
    BFP#1~  EDD: 06/21/2014  ~  TFMR --Holoprosencephaly 
    Said goodbye on 2/10/2014 at 21 weeks. We miss our baby girl "J"
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  • rslh10rslh10 member
    Oh I am so sorry to hear about the loss of sweet Joshua. Welcome to the board and big hugs.
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    BFP #1 DS 2/7/11 (Born @ 34 wks via ECS due to Pre-e) TTC #2 since Aug '13
    DX Low AMH (.58) March '14 • FSH-7.5 • E2-35.5 (Nov '14)
    SA- Great numbers • SIS- Clear (Nov '14)
     Cycle 1- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-BFP • EDD 1/12/15 
    Ectopic @ 5w6d • Methotrexate Shot 5/18/14
    Cycle 2,3,4- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-- BFN
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  • jms627jms627 member
    No advice to offer, but so sorry for the loss of your precious Joshua.  Hugs to you!!

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    BFP#1 - 7/18/14; EDD 3/23/14; MMC 8/11/14 (passed naturally on 8/17/14)

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  • mrsjg2013mrsjg2013 member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son.  Welcome to the board- I hope you find comfort and support here.  
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  • jennadesignsjennadesigns member
    I'm sorry for the loss of your son. Hugs. I hope you find comfort and support here - welcome to the board.
    BFP 3/30/13, MMC and D&C 4/19/13
    BFP 4/8/14, MMC 5/5/14, D&C 5/9/14
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  • Elliecat17Elliecat17 member
    No advice, but sorrow over the loss of your son Joshua! I hope that you find the support that you need on this board. All these ladies are wonderful!
    Me: 24 
    DH: 25
    BFP: 1/12/14       EDD: 9/18/14     MC: 1/15/14
    BFP: 5/6/14         EDD: 1/5/15       MC: 5/10/14
    BFP: 12/29/14      EDD: 9/12/15      MC: 1/5/15
    Dx: PCOS - 8/20/14, Hashimoto's - 10/10/14, Gluten Allergy 10/10/14


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  • meredithcarolemeredithcarole member
    I am so sorry for your loss of sweet Joshua. I don't have a personal experience with a loss that far along, but one of my friends lost her LO at 21 weeks to Spina Bifida. She waited about a year to try again, but of course everyone is different and you have to do what is best emotionally and medically for you. ((Hugs)). Welcome to the board.
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    RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
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  • Km380Km380 member
    I'm sorry for your loss, welcome. I don't have experience with a loss that far along but I have had a LEEP in the past. When I had it my dr told me to wait 1 yr before ttc to allow my cervix time to heal. I'm just curious if your dr telling you a year is related to that or your loss.

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    Married 6/11/2011

    Me & Hubby: 34

    TTC journey started 12/2012

    BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks

    BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)

    Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.

    Also have hypothyroidism

    Started TTC again 12/2013

     

    IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN

    IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN

    Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.

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  • tlc35tlc35 member
    I'm sorry for your loss of sweet Joshua.  I don't have any advice but welcome to the board.
    Me: 37                                               
    DH: 45
    BFP #1 3/19/14  EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
    BFP #2  12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
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  • sfazarsfazar member
    I am so very sorry for your loss of sweet Joshua.
               I hope that you get the guidance and support from your doctor that you deserve. If you don't feel like you are getting the answers you need, or you are questioning the advice your are given, perhaps go get a second opinion.  Many insurance companies will pay for that.  It's what I did, and I ended up switching OBs.  My new doctor is much more proactive about me TTC.  
             Sending huge hugs.  Welcome.

    Me (34); DH (35)

    BFP 11/25/13; Heard strong heartbeats for 3 weeks; Natural MC (1/15/14)

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  • Jesse835235Jesse835235 member
    Thanks everyone! I appreciate the welcome and the input. My doctor said, "they recommend waiting one year to 18 months to deliver again, but I wouldn't tell you no if you wanted to try sooner." My delivery was textbook, too. She didn't say anything after the LEEP about waiting, but I didn't ask either. Of course I missed her call yesterday. :P I'm anxious to start trying again, but want to do what's best for baby and me at the same time.

    Thanks again!
    Me: 27    DH: 30
    Married in 2011
    Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014)
    Baby 2: Due May 2016

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  • tigerlynx31413tigerlynx31413 member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet Joshua! I hope you find comfort and support here through your journey!

    BFP #1 7/6/2012, EDD 3/13/2013, Delivered 3/14/2013

    BFP #2 1/7/2014: EDD:9/14 MC: 1/9/2014 (confirmed via blood work)

    BFP #3 7/5/2014: EDD 3/11/2015 MC: 7/15/2014

    BFP #4 11/7/2014: EDD 7/17/2015~~Please be my RAINBOW!

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  • rmpar29rmpar29 member
    I am so sorry for your loss of Joshua.  I have no advice, and only your doctor can tell you when it's safe to try again.  I hope that you find the comfort and support you are looking for here.  (((((HUGS)))))
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  • cherylanddougcherylanddoug member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your son, Joshua (what a great name btw).  I haven't had a still birth, but one of my bump friends who became an IRL friend (mch77) lost her son around 23/24 weeks.  She had a D&E and was trying again really soon (maybe a cycle or 2).  Welcome to the board.   
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  • thegiantfamthegiantfam member
    So So So sorry to hear about your loss. I don't have any advice, but I do have much sympathy. Especially for balancing wanting to try again soon and wanting to do the best possible thing for your future pregnancy. Thoughts are with you as you practice discernment! Xo

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    ME: 27 DH: 31 Married in Ireland 12/28/13. Trying since November 2013. First BFP 04/30/2014, Natural MC 05/12/2014. 2nd BFP 07/11/2014, Natural MC 08/02/2014. Trying to find healing.
    Miscarriages are labor, miscarriages are birth. To consider them less dishonors the woman whose womb has held life, however briefly.
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  • alm288alm288 member
    I'm very sorry for the loss of your sweet Joshua. I hope you can find some comfort here. Welcome.
    TTC: Since July 2013
    BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)
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  • MSU_Girl1202MSU_Girl1202 member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your Joshua. Big ((hugs))
    Married 07/2006, TTC since 2010
    08/2011: Clomid 50mg, IUI --> BFN  ,
    10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN
    04/13: Clomid, IUI BFP --> MC at 6w1d
    05/13: Femara 2.5mg, IUI --> BFN  , 08/13: Femara 2.5mg --> BFN
    03/14: Femara 5mg, IUI --> 1 follicle @ 27d --> BFP! EDD 12/02/14--> blighted ovum, missed MC 6w6d --> D&C
    4/23: D&C...starting over again, with a little part of my heart broken off
    5/31: Femara 7.5mg --> cancelled cycle, no follies
    7/14: Femara 5mg + brevelle + menopur + IUI --> converted to IVF, ER 7/28 --> ET cancelled due to severe OHSS.
    9/20/14:  Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP--> EDD 6/6/15 --> MC at 5w3d      
    10/16/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFN
    2/6/15: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP --> MC at 5w4d
    3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15
    6/6/17: Fresh IVF Cycle --> Severe OHSS, 5 PGS-tested embryos frozen
    2/23/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
    3/30/18: Cancelled cycle due to lining 4.2mm
    6/21/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
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  • SummerB0607SummerB0607 member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of sweet Joshua. I lost my son, Gentry, almost 3 weeks ago at 23 weeks. I don't know when to try again, I haven't seen the doctor yet, but I'm hoping she tells us we can soon. I guess they told you yo wait to give your body time to heal
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  • eliidaeliida member
    I am so sorry for the loss of your son, Joshua.
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