Hey everyone. I've already kinda addressed this in my last post (and lots of you told some amazing stories, so i'm sorry for the repeat!) but I really need some advice about dealing with FF negativity. Sorry in advance for the whining. Still in the beginning stages and in need of some comfort.
I made the mistake of googling pro-FF articles and the comments just made me sick. A good example: "i don't understand why traumatized women can have sex but not BF." So painful. So freaking horrible. Needless to say, i'll be staying away from these articles. Which leads me to ask: have any of you dealt with pediatricians, friends, family, strangers, etc being horrible to you about choosing formula? If yes, what did you do? Can we have a rant session?
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Re: Advice and Negativity
I do have a friend who is strongly against formula feeding, as in today was her son's birthday and the first solid food he has ever had was his cake. A few weeks ago, I just told her that I felt judged and why exactly we FF. I sat at the birthday party feeding DD from a bottle without any judgement at all. Telling her how I felt definitely helped.
BFP #1 12/29/10 EDD 08/29/11 Blighted Ovum 02/09/11 D&C 02/11/11
Clomid 50mg BFP #2 09/21/11 EDD 05/29/11 Chemical Pregnancy 10/4/11
BFP #3 4/19/13 Beta1- 106 Beta2- 524 Beta3- 3500 EDD 12/22/13 LO born 12/31/13
LoL... why, no... no I didn't. I feel rather cheated if other moms got those!
I was actually really surprised when I got one, and this was in January. The hospital is pro breast feeding though lol. Believe it or not I'm pregnant again so I'll have to wait and see if I get a free can again.
If someone asks what you're feeding them say formula. And be confident about it. And if they give you a hard time just say "it's my baby and I will feed them how I choose"
You gotta do what's right for you. And they make formula for a reason. If it was a bad choice it wouldn't be a choice.
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Nip it in the bud girl, nip it in the bud! I can't even imagine! Your and your H's feelings aside, what do these idiots think this would do to the surrogates feelings and mind?? Geez!
All the best and big hugs to you though! That's wonderful you have this chance to be a mommy via surrogate!
Not to be Braggy McProudMommy, but at DD's preschool (she's 2), she is surrounded by kids whose moms SAH and almost all BF'ed. Her teachers comment at least a couple of times a week about how much more verbal DD is than any of her peers. A few months ago, she told her doctor that she has an otoscope just like his. He turned to look at what she was holding and he was amazed she was holding up the right instrument. I wasn't sure what the otoscope was. She picked the word up from Doc McStuffins. So, yeah, that whole difference in intelligence? I'm not seeing it.
Yeah I agree that the intelligence is such a silly argument... Must be the hope of really dumb people. My DD had no chance of ever being born stupid. It is genetically impossible. Your genetic make up matters not what you ate as newborn... I have 2 graduate degrees, a professional degree, MH is also super educated and intelligent. There is no way genetically our kids could be lacking in that department.
But also remember one thing - no matter how early your kids meet early childhood milestones, by age 5 they all do the same things anyway...
I was a nursing student and my program did clinicals at the hospital I delivered at. My classmate and instructor were my nurses for a while during the day after I had my DD and they were understanding but not the actual nurse. She told me its fine to make my baby wait...I know a look of horror came across my face and she hurried her ass to get my DD formula. If she would have said anything more I would have thrown a big ass hormonal fit and had the head of the pp unit and the head of the hospital there as well as the patient advocate. My baby needed food and she is not going to starve over some bf BS.
Turns out my DD needed formula anyways because she was jaundice and it helped to lower her levels. Also my milk didn't come in for more than a week. No child of mine is going to starve and cry because they're hungry. That's just cruel!
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I'm a lurker on this page that was actually just looking for some other info (what types of formula other mommies prefer for when and if I have to supplement) when I came across this post. I'm a breastfeeder myself and I am so sorry that some of you have such bad experiences when you were asked what you feed your babies. I'm a firm believer that it doesn't matter what you're feeding your baby as long as your baby is being fed and we all know and will do what is best for our own children. Please don't jump to conclusions that other women are asking to judge or lecture. I know I'd ask because I'm more curious and you might teach me something about formula feeding that could benefit me and my child later on down the road. After I asked, I would never lecture someone. That's just screwed up.