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How do you remedy feeling isolated?

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edited August 2014 in July 2014 Moms
Didn't realize how much I rely on this community of you wonderful ladies til I had to delete the app off my phone for a few days since I had to make room on my phone to take more photos =)) . Fast forward a few days later and I'm cranky and feeling isolated as all get out til I realize I hadn't checked in on J14 lately. Thirty minutes later of bumping and I'm a happy camper, no longer feeling like I'm the only one at this stage in life.

So my question is, how do you transfer this to real life? I failed and didn't join a birth circle like I had hoped to in order to connect with other moms with babies my baby's age. The only moms I connected with were my prenatal yoga moms and we all went our separate ways after having our babies. I am going to try and get a few of us back together. How else do you connect to moms with baby's your LO's age? Love this bump community and wanting a real life one!!

The ironic thing is I have fantastic friends and seen a bunch these past three weeks. However, now that I have a LO, none of them are in the same spot as me leaving me with an alone and awkward feeling even as I'm sitting there holding LO having a wonderful time chatting with them.

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  • Nichole8787Nichole8787 member
    I don't know but if I figure it out I'll let you know.
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  • abrazzabrazz member

    We don't really have any mom groups around here.  The most socialization I get is from work and I won't be going back full-time.  Honestly this is where I get to see people going through the same stages I am since most of my friends' children are older.  I'm not super social anyway so it doesn't bother me too much.  It would be nice to have a physical person to talk to about what I'm going through so I completely understand how you are feeling.  

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  • 1982Babies1982Babies member
    OH man... just getting out to the grocery store helps.  Sure, I can't fit much more than the car seat in the cart, but it is worth it.  The Asian grocery store carts are so tiny, and I took her the other day.  That was a hoot.  I'd take the carrier, but sometimes she screams in it, so I didn't want to risk it.

    I also go to my mom's house or GMIL's to hang out.  Most of the time, I screw around online.  I've spent the past week listing crap on Craigslist to get rid of, so that keeps me pretty preoccupied.
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  • rheard3582rheard3582 member
    Getting out the house. Even if its just 30 minute target run. As your LO gets older finding play groups gets easier.

    Also if you are breastfeeding lactations groups are an option. Many cities have them.
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    The church I go to has a lot of young families our age and there's been a bit of a baby boom recently so we all have LOs...we've not done much in the way of play dates lately since they're all pretty much still newborns but as they get older it'll be easier to get together with them. I started Kindermusik with DS1 when he was 18 months but I plan on taking DS2 to the baby class when he's a few months old.
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  • reg202reg202 member
    I have a friend who lives in another state but had her baby in June, so she's only 5 weeks ahead of DD.  We've been texting each other back and forth during our nightly feedings since that can be a really lonely time for both of us.  It has really helped me through my period of baby blues. 
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  • INmommy871278INmommy871278 member
    We do story time at the library which starts back up this week! I also joined a website called meetup.com and searched for mom groups in my area. I have several mom friends from the playgroup I found when DS was little and most of those moms have had or are at the end of their second pregnancies so we have toddlers and babies all born in the same years which is pretty awesome. I also go to the mall and walk around and window shop. Walks are another thing I do, especially in the spring and fall when it's nice out.
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  • marsalisailsmarsalisails member
    I second story time at the library - public libraries always have Kids activities and events where you can meet other parents.

    My breastfeeding group welcomed ALL new moms - there were also plenty of FF mom's there too. It was just a bunch of new mom's trying to get by!

    I'm not sure how many weeks PP you are, but there is a stroller fitness group near me that people can go to when they are 6 weeks pp. You could see about those too...

    I've been doing a lot of mall walking, and going to parks as well...

     

     

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  • ADC1979ADC1979 member
    My mom cones over to help out, which is good cause now we are in the Purple Period and I think LO and I could have a crying contest. DH is also super supportive and is working from home 1 day a week. I'm terrible at making friends so that's just difficult in general for me, baby or not.

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  • ghostof5lettersghostof5letters member
    Meetup.com and local FB Groups to find mom clubs and playdates
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  • darkangel42darkangel42 member
    I'm trying to find local Moms to meet with but with where I live, it's basically impossible (if any of you are in NH or near southern NH, please be my friend) so been pouncing on any opportunity to get out of the house, even just to the store or going places with my MIL when she has to drop off boxes for her job. Sad but true, even just doing a coffee run and sitting in Dunkin's for 15 minutes helps because of getting to talk to the person making my coffee for evena minute.

    There's a site that's probably more useful if you don't live in the middle of nowhere - mommeetmom.com - it's the same concept as a dating site but to find other Moms to hang with.
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  • teamgreen14teamgreen14 member
    Matthew930 said:

    I second story time at the library - public libraries always have Kids activities and events where you can meet other parents.

    My breastfeeding group welcomed ALL new moms - there were also plenty of FF mom's there too. It was just a bunch of new mom's trying to get by!

    I'm not sure how many weeks PP you are, but there is a stroller fitness group near me that people can go to when they are 6 weeks pp. You could see about those too...

    I've been doing a lot of mall walking, and going to parks as well...

    Stroller fitness group? I'd love that!

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