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planning ahead, but I feel so lost

SassFrassSassFrass member
edited August 2014 in Secondary IF
So I mentioned recently that we decided that in Jan, if we had still been unsuccessful thus far with a viable pregnancy, we would consult a RE.
Now, I feel like I need some solid plans on the path we may be facing...I hate not having things planned out because it makes me feel like I have no control, which I really dont... but plans like how many iui cycles we are willing/financially able to do with the possibilities we have to continue more than once. I decided that in 5 years, we will do an IVF cycle, 1. I will be 30. 2. It gives us time to have a nest egg to pay for it and not be in debt. 3. Dd will be 10 years old, and 4. That will be a horrid 9 ish years ttc at the worst case scenario and I feel at that point we need to try ivf at least once?
That leaves a 5 year gap of no plans specifically at all, and I feel the need to have a plan in place... I googled the average cost of iui's were between $300-$4000, but was wondering what everyone else has experienced? I know we won't be able to do one every month for 5 years because that just seems unrealistic to me... do any of you have a fertility budget? I was thinkin maybe 3 per year, but idk if that is even fathomable... either way I'm not GARAUNTEED a baby right? I've mentioned adoption, but DH is not on that train yet... which I understand, that would be once every other option is exhausted, but at least with adoption, I am garaunteed a child...

I am interested if any of you are open to sharing your plans and how you decided upon them.

Edited for typos, mobile bumping, and I have fat thumbs lol

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Re: planning ahead, but I feel so lost

  • sailorgalsailorgal member
    I would probably wait to meet with your RE before worrying about a plan. S/he will help you develop a plan as well as provide financial info as it will depend on meds, etc. It always a good idea to save financially so just start putting money aside.


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  • jen4nyjen4ny member
    Our upcoming IUI costs about $3,000- that includes two days of insemination. I am not sure how many cycles we will do. I do know that we won't do IVF. We can't afford it and our insurance covers nothing. So financially our decision to not do IVF was made for us. 
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    TTC # 2 since 8/13, Dx: unexplained secondary infertility
    Clomid cycles 7/14 & 8/14= BFN
    IUI # 1 (clomid) 8/27/14= BFN
    IUI # 2 (clomid and follistim) 9/25/14= BFN
    IUI # 3 (femara and follistim) 10/23/14= BFN
    IUI # 4 (femara and follistim) 11/20/14= BFN
    12/12/14- saline sono shows two polyps
    2/15- two uterine polyps and "schmutz" (RE's words) removed
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  • SassFrassSassFrass member
    Ivf will be our last resort before adoption. Realistically, I'm not sure how we will ever be able to do iui's seeing as how we have to save for 5 yrs to even do ivf... I don't want to be into high debt to have a baby. But the more I look into it, I think we could maybe do 2  iui cycles and be financially ok still.

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