The Things You Wish Someone Had Told You About Loss

megbmeg · August 2014

I just came across this blog post about one woman's experience with mc, and what she wishes ppl had told her, and I thought it was great.

After my losses, I didn't want to read anything about other losses or other women's stories for a long time, but I know other friends found them very comforting.

If it sounds appealing to you, I highly recommend it: https://feedly.com/k/XnlpGG

One of my favorite parts:
It’s ok to be angry. It’s ok to feel sad. It’s ok to be scared shitless if things don’t go as planned. It’s ok to feel like your body failed you because you aren’t going to have the birth you hoped for. But you shouldn’t have to feel alone.

megbmeg · August 2014

chickinNH said:
That was great. Thanks for sharing.
It's making me rethink not telling anyone about this pregnancy...

@chickinNG I found it really helpful for a few people to know about my pregnancy so I felt I had support in place. After my first loss, I found it agonizing to need to tell those closest to me I was pregnant but wasn't anymore, and it made it hard for me to accept help from them because they didn't get the heartache as much because they found out about it all at once.

But it's a really personal decision and just depends on what makes you feel more comfortable.

megbmeg · August 2014

I am so sorry @rn536 - I wish you didn't have to go through that trauma.

@jcar2 I'm sorry people weren't more supportive of you. Going through a loss (or losses) is incredibly lonely.

@meagpt22 I know what you mean about having it feel impossible to carry such a sad secret. I was so crushed by my losses, especially after the second, that I remember feeling I just couldn't talk to anyone who didn't know. It felt like lying or something and it was miserable.

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