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Remembering loved ones

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How do you plan on keeping a relatives memory alive with your LO? For any STMs or first with more thoughtfulness in the matter than I am having, when your child gets big enough, what will you say or do?
I was very close with my father/grandmother who passed away 7/8 years ago and have no other relatives on that side of my family. I am not a very emotional person but I want Gavin to know about them... but they're not here... so I haven't the slightest clue how to approach it later on without being creepy.
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  • AcaAwkwardAcaAwkward member
    I was extremely close with my grandfather and we tell stories about him and look at photos a lot.

    Do you believe in heaven? That's what we tell DD when she asks where Daddy Jim is. She's 2.5 and doesn't yet ask how he got there or if we can go visit, etc, so we haven't touched the actual death part.
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  • yellowflower15yellowflower15 member
    We have a photo of my grandma in DD's room and that has helped make it more natural to talk about her and it kind of "allows" DD to ask questions.
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  • Dixon813Dixon813 member
    Having pictures around now allows Lo when older. Sharing stories is great way to share and allow them to ask more them.
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  • AmberLiz99AmberLiz99 member
    Dh tells ds stories about his sad and shows him pictures. Same with his grandma. Ds is 3 and knows both of their names and stories about them
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  • BGGP9196BGGP9196 member

    Both of our dads have passed before the girls were born.  @jodibolivar I too was a daddy's girl and not having him here to enjoy my girls and knowing that they will never really know him is the hardest part of his loss.

    We have pictures up in the house and talk about our dads quite a bit.   Whenever E is staring up in a corner laughing or smiling we alway say it's Papa Joe or Papa Steve telling her jokes.  We did the same with K.

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  • misskristina21misskristina21 member
    I was extremely close with my grandmother. DD1 was named for her. We have a lot of pictures and home movies that we watch with the girls. We also tell DD1 that nana is an angel, and she lives in the clouds, in Heaven. We also have a build-a-bear type thing with an angel outfit on a shelf in L's room with a framed pic of nana.

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  • zoopsiedaisyzoopsiedaisy member
    edited August 2014
    My father passed almost 10 years ago and my mom's health is such that my LO will probably not remember her and its really upsetting. So right now I am taking pictures and video of her with my mom so she can have those in the future. Her middle name is my dad's name so hopefully they will both stay in the conversations for years to come. Plus we will keep alive and bring back family traditions and explain to her why we do them.
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  • rainy369rainy369 member
    My grandfather passed way before I was born. My mom, uncle and grandma have really kept his memory alive through their many stories. They've taken me to visit his grave and shown me many pictures. I feel like I know him without ever having met him. I can just feel their love for him. To honor his memory, I used his middle name for my Daughters middle name. It meant a lot to everyone.
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