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How can I help my DH?

lkamenkolkamenko member
in July 2012 Moms

He is depressed lately. He told me that he is very unhappy. He refuses to see a doctor or go to a therapy.

I want to help him, but I don't know what to do. I have been through the depression myself, but all those "pick me up" things I used to do to fight it would not work for him. Spa? Mani/ pedi? LOL

I try to talk to him, but he gest upset even more and states that he does not want to talk about it.

What do you do to cheer your DH up? I know, the fist thing that comes to mind to answer this question is bj or sex - I tried it  - does not work :(

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Re: How can I help my DH?

  • reinedecajunreinedecajun member
    If he is that bad off he really does need to go see someone.


    This coming from a person who's husband takes 90mg of Prozac a day.
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  • Barefoot84Barefoot84 member
    When my H starts feeling a bit down, it usually helps him to have a night out with the boys, when he can have a few beers, eat greasy food and just have a good time. It also helps when I give him time to himself to sleep and play videogames.

    Also showing him appreciation for everything he does for us, whether it's a drawing from Tumaini or a homemade cake or a favorite meal usually perks him up a bit. But then, if a BJ didn't work, I'm not sure brownies would.

    However, there's a difference between having a rough week and battling depression. If it's serious, I hope you can talk him into seeing someone.
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  • PleionePleione member
    Barefoot84 said:
    However, there's a difference between having a rough week and battling depression. If it's serious, I hope you can talk him into seeing someone.
    This is where I went first too. I am no expert but I am having a hard time imagining sex or the spa helping with clinical depression. Little slumps, maybe. But I'm sure there are different forms of depression and people are affected differently... so I guess it's a good start to just try to cheer him up first. If that doesn't work, then it's not up to you, it's him - he has to talk to someone. Could you maybe slip him some literature about recognizing the symptoms? Or do a family intervention if that doesn't work? Or play the victim and tell him how his depression is affecting you and the rest of the family, so please fix it sort of thing? And make it as easy as possible for him to fix it - give him a couple of names and telephone numbers of health care professionals. Hope it gets better soon!
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