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Intro - Working Mom to Be

jenkellenjenkellen member
edited August 2014 in Working Moms
Hi Ladies,

I wanted to introduce myself, I've started lurking the last few months as I start thinking about the work/life balance with a little one.

About Us: I'm about halfway through my second pregnancy (first living child). It took us about two years to for a successful pregnancy so we're thrilled to have made it this far. I'm due around Christmas, will be taking my 12 week FMLA and then heading back to work. I work in digital technology/design, my husband works in motor sports as a mechanic. We live in a downtown neighborhood in a loft style condo. 

The Vent: I have to admit I'm a bit frustrated with the everyone asking me if I'm coming back to work or going to work part-time after I have my son. Why doesn't anyone ever ask my husband that question? Why do they seem to give me a guilty look when I say "Definitely coming back to work". Why do people seem surprised when I bring in more money? Why do people have such problems with daycare? A lot of them are like schools now it's amazing. As I'm sure you can imagine my housing situation brings in other questions about our parenting styles, but we are happy where we are.

I'm looking forward to getting to know you and learn about navigating work life with baby life!

"It's, not, where you are, it's where you're going,
And it's, not, about the things you've done, it's what you're doing, now"
TTC Journey Began 8/12
BFP #1 11/9/12, MMC/D&C 12/21/12 @ 9w2d, EDD 7/24/13
SAs: 2%-3% Morph - RE Official Diagnosis Unexplained
 BFN = IUI #1 (Clomid) | IUI #2 (Letrozole) 
BFP #2 4/19/14 = IUI #3 (Letrozole)
Expecting Our Elf 12/27/14
~All Welcome~

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Re: Intro - Working Mom to Be

  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    I got a lot of those questions.  I find the questions rude so I don't feel the need to answer back at all.  I often countered the "Do you have to go back to work?" with "I want to go back to work" or "I get to go back to work" and then shot down the conversations that followed.  

    A curt "I don't feel like discussing this, we are happy with our decision" is diplomatic as well.  

    I'd love to say the judging and comments stop but people love to get all in other people's decisions.  Just be firm and confident. 

    And welcome.
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  • TheBorg7of9TheBorg7of9 member
    Welcome! Just shut people down by answering positively. "Of course I'm coming back and I'm looking forward to it! Of course, I'll really miss my baby, but I've heard really great things about my daycare!" Etc...
    My TTC History:
    2009: missed miscarriage #1 at 9 weeks (trisomy 16)
    2010: Infertility
    2011: Diagnosis and treatment (low sperm count, anastrozole for DH, clomid for me + IUI)
    2012: Baby #1
    2014: Baby #2
    October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
    March 2016 BFP#5, due November 2016.

    My Charts since 2009

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