TMI Warning - What's going on "down there?"

highbornhunter · August 2014

So DH and I got to have sex for the first time in two weeks last night (he was sick and we've been crazy busy) - things got off to a good start, plenty of prep time, everything felt "ready". But once things got underway, I was sensitive to the point of pain and much dryer than I thought. We stopped and DH didn't get his, which always makes me feel bad, even though he was incredibly wonderful and sweet about it. I've always been a very sexual person and I feel like my vagina is betraying me. I wanna cry.

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I'll be heading to the drug store to buy lube - which hasn't been necessary EVER with DH. Anyone have any recommendations for the best lube for pregnancy (and from what I hear I have to look forward to, post-partum/breastfeeding) dryness?

shan24 · August 2014

Dryness was an issue with me last time we tried, too. And, I've always been someone to want it all. the. time. Now, I could take it or leave it. It's strange.

KMW08 · August 2014

I do not recommend the ky warming lube. That shit burns! I thought I was crazy, but I was discussing it with a coworker & she said it made her vag feel like it was on fire. We both went home and threw it away!

bustarmu21 · August 2014

I've used coconut oil

runningmama14 · August 2014

I use the ky liquid and like it a lot. Not sticky or burning.

NLJ82 · August 2014

What's sex?

27 sexless weeks and going strong!

mockingjay1 · August 2014

We used pre-seed when we were TTC, and that's all we use now. I prefer it to other lubes we've tried.

k1911 · August 2014

@NLJ82 I hear ya girl!

Sorry OP, I chuckled a bit at the "sex for the first time in 2 weeks!" part... I can't even remember the last time DH and I had sex. I think maybe a few weeks after BFP and that was it! Sigh...

highbornhunter · August 2014

k1911 It's okay - I know I fall towards the horny end of the pregnancy sex drive bell curve. I fall towards that end of the curve when not pregnant too. I've just been fine up til now, so now I'm all "WTH Vagina?" and kind of scared that it won't go back to normal post-baby.

Nfranco973 · August 2014

Tell me about it!!! My issue was not the dryness but the irritation afterwards! It was like swollen ! My other 2 pregnancies I didn't have sex this far along at all.. I never knew that happens .. Crazy!

Curlyfries851 · August 2014

Ugh the last time I did the deed it was the same thing. I even used ky lube but it was NOT working like it used to... And @Nfranco973‌ I feel ya honey! Felt like I had the WRONG kinda bee stung lips the next day I tell ya! Lol

torontokim · August 2014

I've had to use "Jo for Women" as of late. It's a water based lubricant & doesn't irritate and feels really natural - not tacky. Totally bummed though - I was never one to need lube. Now I can't do the deed without it!

https://www.systemjo.com/jo-lubricants/jo-h2o-lubricant-for-women

PandaCon · August 2014

bustarmu21 said:
I've used coconut oil

This. I like coconut oil because it is on hand and it doesn't seem out if place in the dresser!

ColtiersMom · August 2014

Ladies who are not sexing up their men...go home and DO IT, pregnancy sex is the best!! :-)
(Unless your dr said no, then don't)

staugustinewedding · August 2014

ColtiersMom said:
Ladies who are not sexing up their men...go home and DO IT, pregnancy sex is the best!! :-)
(Unless your dr said no, then don't)

AMEN!

MuchlyGen · August 2014

Totally normal!

Pregnancy hormones can make you dryer, more sensitive, and more swollen than normal.

It will go back to normal. Until then, lube it up!

lizgrace03 · August 2014

ColtiersMom said:
Ladies who are not sexing up their men...go home and DO IT, pregnancy sex is the best!! :-)
(Unless your dr said no, then don't)

I have tried!! It hurt pretty bad. Not sure what I'm doing wrong, but it was not pleasant.

amyraemarshall22 · August 2014

I tried Astroglide with my other 2 pregnancies and it was good to use. This pregnancy tho I can't have sex as dr has said no. What is it? 28 weeks and still going....
It goes back to normal one of these days.... Lol

creativesoul83 · August 2014

last two times I haven't been in the mood. It hurt and it wasn't fun. I don't want to most of the time. I feel in a funk. unless I have a sex dream then dh beware!! :x

I prefer to but use anything so paranoid. have used plain ky or coconut oil

Shananagann · August 2014

Pjur original Bodyglide is DH & my FAVORITE! Bought it when we got married and altho we've tried others, it's the one we always go back to. It's super concentrated, so you don't need much of it, it's not sticky and doesn't dry out. It's great for those times when you're in the mood and you've enjoyed foreplay but your body is just not getting naturally wet like you wish it would.

Jtravis · August 2014

Vitamin E oil (had it to prevent stretch marks) & my doc suggested it. It has no junk in it so I felt comfortable using it "down there" & it works like a charm!