FFFC

lookame3639 · August 2014

What do you need to confess today?

cashews29 · August 2014

Just had our final OB visit yesterday. This kid is still head up and we are scheduled for our c-section next Thursday.

My FC is that I'm kind of happy she didn't turn around. I was so stressed out constantly wondering when she would come, and now I can plan exactly when she'll arrive, when to have visitors, who will watch our dogs, etc. When I told me my mom she was all "Oh no! I'm so sorry!" and I'm like "meh, works for me."

lookame3639 · August 2014

I blame myself emma being so small, because of this i haven't brought her over to see FI family. It's a situation i can't control/i feel like they don't understand so they won't wash their hands or they'll kiss her hands and face ect and that freaks me out. FI is irritated with me especially because his brother and parents have asked to see her and my mom tells me I'm so mean...

stuck between a rock and my anxiety.

CanadianintheSouth · August 2014

I have mastered the art of getting my husband to do something for me. I ask him to do it and he of course says he will and then sits around not actually doing it. So then I start on whatever task it is, he feels bad and starts doing it and tells me to sit down. Works every time. This is how our garage got organized and cleaned yesterday.

cashews29 · August 2014

lookame3639 said:

I blame myself emma being so small, because of this i haven't brought her over to see FI family. It's a situation i can't control/i feel like they don't understand so they won't wash their hands or they'll kiss her hands and face ect and that freaks me out. FI is irritated with me especially because his brother and parents have asked to see her and my mom tells me I'm so mean... stuck between a rock and my anxiety.

I don't know the whole story, but I'm with your FI on this. I'm guessing that your parents have seen her? It's not fair that you've not taken her yet to see your FI's folks. If you're concerned, just make sure they wash their hands before handling her and ask them not to kiss her because she's fragile.

lookame3639 · August 2014

cashews29 said:

lookame3639 said:

I blame myself emma being so small, because of this i haven't brought her over to see FI family. It's a situation i can't control/i feel like they don't understand so they won't wash their hands or they'll kiss her hands and face ect and that freaks me out. FI is irritated with me especially because his brother and parents have asked to see her and my mom tells me I'm so mean...
stuck between a rock and my anxiety.

I don't know the whole story, but I'm with your FI on this. I'm guessing that your parents have seen her? It's not fair that you've not taken her yet to see your FI's folks. If you're concerned, just make sure they wash their hands before handling her and ask them not to kiss her because she's fragile.

She's a preemie/nicu baby and my parents have seen her when we pick my son up or when they drop him off after taking him to and from activities. I've got a uterine infection and trying to maintain activities for him as well as take care of her and being by myself (FI works 2 jobs and went back before she was released from the nicu) has proven to be more difficult than expected. I'd usually push myself to get everything done but the infection has me in quite a bit of pain. I don't go out of my way for my parents to see her.

cashews29 · August 2014

@lookatme3639 -- I follow you. Maybe it would help if you scheduled a set day to visit them in a week or so. That way, you'll likely be feeling better and your ILs can stop bugging you about when they are going to see her.

I think your FI needs to be a bit more understanding considering you are taking care of a preemie, your DS, and yourself alone right now.

tamarar5 · August 2014

I want this baby out. I'm done being in pain. That said, if she holds back until tonight (very, very possible since I've got nothing happening) then DH will call his mom and sisters when he gets home from work and tell them we can't play host for them to visit.

I love my in-laws and know they just want to see the baby, but I don't even have an induction date yet. I am so relieved that he finally sees how hard and stressful it would be for me to attempt to play hostess in two from tomorrow — when baby hasn't even been BORN yet. Yes, in sad they won't really get to meet her until November, but I'm just not ready and there is no way I will be.

BlckRoses · August 2014

The AC was out in my office area yesterday, so I moved to a different area in our building and then went home early. I'm kinda bummed that it's fixed today because that means I have to stay here at work all day. I would much prefer to be home doing nothing, even though I know I'll just get bored after a couple of hours.

dogperson11 · August 2014

Long story short, my husband and I don't have the greatest relationship with my MIL despite years of attempts. She has been incredibly uninvolved in my pregnancy. I can probably count on one hand the number of times she's asked us about the baby or anything baby related. She currently has 2 grandsons that she constantly swoons over and talks about. Now that we've only for a few days until EDD she's started checking in more and showing some interest. My mom and sister are coming for a week after LO is born (they live in another state) and I secretly hope MIL asks to come that same time frame so we can tell her no (she lives 4 hours away ), she'll have to wait until they leave. I'm awful.

chase16 · August 2014

I read blogs on my phone on my drive home from work. I was thinking yesterday that I really need to stop because I will not put my daughter in danger because I'm an idiot (Yes, I'm fully aware that reading a blog on my phone is stupid and dangerous, and I fully deserve your judgment). I need to start putting my phone in the back seat because I pick it up when I'm bored driving without really thinking about it.

marathonmommy82 · August 2014

YoginiKiki said:

My mother commissioned a seamstress to turn her wedding dress into a christening gown. It is gorgeous and so very special. Only problem is we aren't Christening the baby. . She understands and thought we could use it as a take home outfit instead. I still feel guilty.....like super guilty

Don't feel guilty --- maybe you can have some professional photos of her in the dress, frame, give to mom?

shaylagirl · August 2014

I scheduled my induction date on a day that's convenient for my family. I'll be at 40w/4d, and I'm getting kind of ragey at family members and other people who are telling me everything from "Why would you wait until you're after 40 w?!" to others saying "Let nature take it's course!" to others who say her EDD is the best date.

Look, if she comes on her own, fine. But HONESTLY, I really WANT her to come on her inducement date. It gives me an additional 8 hours of comp time that I badly need for maternity leave. It is more convenient for our 16 year old and our 12 year old (her EDD is their first day of school; our induction date is on that Friday), and it makes planning when leave starts for both DH's work and mine just WORLDS simpler.

I'm also not sure, but I think my cousin doesn't want our WeeNut to share her daughter's b-day. Can't confirm that though. Just a gut feeling.

BabyM82714 · August 2014

That girl I talked about yesterday due 5 days after me. And I'd be totally upset if she had her baby first. Yup shes totally having her baby right now, because Facebook is getting hourly cervix updates, and the most recent one about her starting to push, ick. Anyways karma is a bitch and I'm still bitter. I'm convinced it was my doing because I was being bitchy....and now I'm bitchy and still pregnant. Mehh

Although I am happy for her and hope everything turns out okay considering he will be under 38 weeks. So thoughts going towards them on that.

lookame3639 · August 2014

cath5587 said:

BabyM82714 said:
That girl I talked about yesterday due 5 days after me. And I'd be totally upset if she had her baby first. Yup shes totally having her baby right now, because Facebook is getting hourly cervix updates, and the most recent one about her starting to push, ick. Anyways karma is a bitch and I'm still bitter. I'm convinced it was my doing because I was being bitchy....and now I'm bitchy and still pregnant. Mehh

Although I am happy for her and hope everything turns out okay considering he will be under 38 weeks. So thoughts going towards them on that.
What type of things do people comment under these weird updates?

If it's anything like my friend who posts weekly about her cervix then lots of congrats and "your going to have an aug baby" "looks like she doesn't want to wait" ect ect ect

i wish when someone posts something like "2 cms dialated 80% effaced" that someone would reply "that's great but you could sit tight like that until after your due date or even better "no one wants to read your vaginal updates"

alphaxi614 · August 2014

My friend

BabyM82714 said:
That girl I talked about yesterday due 5 days after me. And I'd be totally upset if she had her baby first. Yup shes totally having her baby right now, because Facebook is getting hourly cervix updates, and the most recent one about her starting to push, ick. Anyways karma is a bitch and I'm still bitter. I'm convinced it was my doing because I was being bitchy....and now I'm bitchy and still pregnant. Mehh

Although I am happy for her and hope everything turns out okay considering he will be under 38 weeks. So thoughts going towards them on that.

My friends MIL was posting updates on
her cervix, when she was pushing Etc, on FB. She was induced but I would have been mortified if it was me! I wanted to make snarky comments on each post.

BlckRoses · August 2014

I have another FFFC: I know that something's going on...somewhere in the US...about...police? brutality? Or something. But I haven't put any effort into looking into what's going on or trying to educate myself. I also get most of my news from The Daily Show, and they're on break this week. So I may never know. Some people on my FB feed seem upset about it, though.

tamarar5 · August 2014

BlckRoses said:
I have another FFFC: I know that something's going on...somewhere in the US...about...police? brutality? Or something. But I haven't put any effort into looking into what's going on or trying to educate myself. I also get most of my news from The Daily Show, and they're on break this week. So I may never know. Some people on my FB feed seem upset about it, though.

I just heard about it this morning and wasn't really paying attention.

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lookame3639 · August 2014

So we took emma to see FI dad and his wife.FFI dad gives me terrible anxiety...while there he asked several times if the rest of the family had seen her, if he should call them tocome see her, if we've sent FI drug addicted sister pictures of her (we are not involving her in any part of emmas life since she assisted me and refuses to get her shit together). Now i have all the anxiety

Allison7 · August 2014

DH came home for 5 minutes and then went to the bar with his friend. He came home while I was being groceries in and didn't help. I know that last Friday I went out with my BFF and he didn't come with, but I at least invited him and I do that once every two months. He does this every week and it pisses me off. With the added hormones, the stress of this week, and my general doscomfort I am super angry at him. Sorry this was long, but I had to get it out.

dogperson11 · August 2014

lookame3639 said:
So we took emma to see FI dad and his wife.FFI dad gives me terrible anxiety...while there he asked several times if the rest of the family had seen her, if he should call them tocome see her, if we've sent FI drug addicted sister pictures of her (we are not involving her in any part of emmas life since she assisted me and refuses to get her shit together). Now i have all the anxiety

Sorry it caused you more unnecessary stress. I hope your FI dealt with it and stood up for his family (you and baby).

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