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Just need some support

wandsandwinewandsandwine member
in August 2014 Moms
Since you ladies have been such an amazing support system I just need to vent a little or hear someone with experience tell me it's going to be ok.

I've been really emotional the last few days. LO will be 3 weeks old tomorrow and I'm just overtired and overwhelmed. I don't think it's as bad as ppd, probably just baby blues but everything is stressing me out. LO was 3 1/2 weeks early but doing great but we were in the middle of moving so now were living out of boxes. I'm still trying to get the hang of breastfeeding and we supplementing with formula a few times a day 1. For extra calories 2. To give my poor nipples a break, but I'm feeling guilty about it. He sleeps great during the day but at night will only sleep skin to skin with me so I'm trying to rest sitting up.

Just tell me it gets better
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  • mikrinikkimikrinikki member
    I'm a FTM and still have a few weeks to go before my bun is done, but it has to get better! Just think...at least L & D is done, he is healthy, and you won't have to move again for awhile. Chin up :)
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  • GinnyJ2012GinnyJ2012 member
    It does! My first was an awful sleeper and would only sleep on my chest day or night. I could never lay him down for more than 20 minutes. We both finally figured out what worked for us and he started sleeping better.

    It can be really tough at times, try and sleep during those good day naps so you're not as exhausted. You need to take care of yourself so you can take care of LO. Talk to your SO about how your feeling and maybe call your OB or midwife as well. I hope you get some rest soon and start feeling better.


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  • marathonmommy82marathonmommy82 member
    Moving plus newborn = stress city !

    I know it's tough but definitely try to get more rest. It's not a luxury ... it's a necessity.

    It does get better

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  • lookame3639lookame3639 member
    It's ok. We suppliment with formula 4 bottles a day so she gets extra calories and gains weight. I sometimes feel guilty...more when in the morning she has nipple confusion but it's best for her right now.

    As for sleep have you tried swaddling with his hands by his face so he can self sooth? Tried a bassinet that has a slight incline to help reduce spitting up? Rock n play? Swing with movement? Ect i know it's probably difficult because he wants/needs to be near you to help regulate his heart rate and such but these may help....

    i hope you get some sleep soon. FI and I are bot sleep deprived because at 3 am suddenly DD hates everything and cries...though I think it's because she's still hungry.
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  • RosebeanRosebean member
    Honestly, I remember feeling the exact same way at 3 weeks with DS. It was hard being solely responsible for baby's food 24/7, lack of sleep and good ole drop in hormones. It does get better. You just got to get over that hump, deal with the zombie feeling and it just becomes lifestyle. And when it does, that's usually when it turns around and LO will start sleeping longer stretches at night. Try to find yourself a routine and stick with it. TBH, I found all my First time mommy isms have flown out the window with this LO, and it's been a bit better this time around.
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  • Shiva14Shiva14 member
    I had the baby blues so bad this time around and it was absolutely awful. I was so sad and I would just cry all the time. It lifted whenever I started being able to get some sleep now and then. Like pp said, sleep isn't a luxury, it's a necessity, please don't feel guilty about whatever you have to do to get some sleep! Leave the boxes for now, it can wait! Hugs to you, I'm sorry you have to go through all this stress all at once!
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  • wandsandwinewandsandwine member
    Thank you all so so much! It really helps hearing from those who understand :) I truly am so glad I became a part of this board
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  • missmiss307missmiss307 member
    It absolutely gets better. One thing is that you will come to understand (hopefully) that you are doing your best as a mom, and that is NOTHING to feel guilt over. I think it's amazing that you are successfully breastfeeding part time, especially in the midst of a stressful move. In a few more weeks, your hormones will level out, baby will be less confused about day vs. night, and the feeding stuff will most likely get easier, too. You got this!
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  • jlynn62511jlynn62511 member
    My LO is 2 weeks.  I cry for no reason and easy get emotional about little things.  I just think it's the hormones and lack of sleep.  I make little goals for myself each day even if it is to just get a load of laundry done.  Meeting those goals helps me think I am accomplishing things and makes me feel better.  My DH had his best friend's wedding last weekend and my Mom came to stay with me.  I was a wreck and so glad she was here because I was having a hard time taking care of myself and the baby.  This week has been so much better.  Just make sure you don't over do it. 

    Breastfeeding was very stressful for me and I could never get her to latch.  I would cry because she was crying so I decided to just pump.  Our pediatrician told us that her getting the breast milk is what is important not how she is actually getting.  When it becomes to much than formula is okay and not to stress or feel bad about it.  Most important thing is spending good stress free time with the baby!  

    Hang in there!

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  • shevaCCshevaCC member
    Newborns are so tough, without adding moving to the equation! Are you getting help at night? Even if you're the only one who can nurse, for at least 1-2 feedings your partner can bring LO right to you and take him back as soon as he's eaten so you can hopefully stay partly asleep.
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