UO Thursday

dogperson11 · August 2014

I don't see a UO thread going yet. Let's get those out in the open!

dogperson11 · August 2014

I find it annoying when people complain that they're still pregnant but haven't passed their due date yet. Once you get to or pass your due date, fine, but a week or 2 before? We all know how long pregnancy is "supposed" to last. It's not like this is new information.

And yes, I'm still 11 days away from my due date and would be fine if this little girl wants to come early, but I'm not going to complain that she's taking too long.

ETA: words / spelling is hard

Rach604 · August 2014

NPR but I find it bizarre when spouses "talk" to each other on Facebook. Like commenting on each other's posts. Don't you live in the same house?! Why not just turn your head and tell them what you want to say out loud? Your Facebook conversation is awkward for everyone.

kshare18 · August 2014

dogperson11 said:
I find it annoying when people complain that they're still pregnant but haven't passed their due date yet. Once you get to or pass your due date, fine, but a week or 2 before? We all know how long pregnancy is "supposed" to last. It's not like this is new information.

And yes, I'm still 11 days away from my due date and would be fine if this little girl wants to come early, but I'm not going to complain that she's taking too long.

Beautifully said. I was due 5 days ago and want to cut everyone. Just kidding... Kinda

Allison7 · August 2014

LadyAle said:

I would never ever wish poor health or a complication on myself or my baby in order to be induced. I'm probably the most impulsive, impatient person in the world, but it absolutely boggles my mind that others feel this way.

I am not wishing for a true complication. But, if numbers from recent blood work come back as borderline and I am induced I would not mind. I know this can be really hard to understand, but I think it has a lot to do with being both PGAL and PAIF - I have had so, so, so many things go wrong in pregnancy in the past that I want to be on the other side. It seems safer at this point if the baby was outside. I don't want the threat of any other pregnancy related complication hanging over my head and threatening my baby.

@dogperson11 I think this also influences my thinking on not being past my due date and complaining that I am still pregnant. I know I have a week and a day and a half until my due date, but going past your due date when you are AMA brings a whole new set of worries in. How is my placenta holding up? What are my fluid levels? Sometimes the baby doesn't move for hours and it freaks me out. I see 2 different OBs and they both have differing opinions on how long to let me go past my due date. I like both of them, but the fact that I haven't had an ultrasound since 19 weeks is also causing concern for me. They really have no idea how things are going in there or if there is a problem or not...so it just seems like the best thing would be if LO decided to come a week early.

cashews29 · August 2014

Rach604 said:

NPR but I find it bizarre when spouses "talk" to each other on Facebook. Like commenting on each other's posts. Don't you live in the same house?! Why not just turn your head and tell them what you want to say out loud? Your Facebook conversation is awkward for everyone.

Bonus points if the conversation goes like this:

"My hubby is so awesome! He did a basic task that all adults should be able to accomplish!"
"Anything to make your life easier, Wifey. You are the most wonderfullest person in the world!"
"I'm wonderful because I get to be married 2 U!"

kareik01 · August 2014

@Allison7 I agree. I don't have any pregnancy issues like you so of course my complaining sounds stupid next to yours...but I think we ALL complain, before and after our due dates. We all know how uncomfortable it is to be at 30 weeks, then 35 weeks, 38 weeks, etc. We all have pains and we all come here to get reassurance for them!

CanadianintheSouth · August 2014

LadyAle said:

I would never ever wish poor health or a complication on myself or my baby in order to be induced. I'm probably the most impulsive, impatient person in the world, but it absolutely boggles my mind that others feel this way.

I'm guilty of saying this but just want to clarify. I have been having high blood pressure for the past 5 weeks, and they just kept saying well if it goes any higher we will induce, every.single.week. My blood pressure was finally at the threshold level at my last appointment, so they scheduled an induction. I was so relieved because every week I have to worry if my bp is high or if it affecting baby's health (luckily all growth scans have been great).

So yes I wanted my bp reading to be high, because from everything I've read it is better overall for the health of baby and mom to induce someone with PIH around 38-40 weeks. Also would like to avoid pre-e, so I'd rather have a high bp cause them to schedule an induction than wait longer and possibly develop further complications (and trace protein showed up in my urine this week so it worries me).

Sorry just wanted to share my thoughts

of course I would rather have zero health problems!!!

cashews29 · August 2014

I think it's stranger that people are saying that they are 'pissed' or 'angry' that they are overdue, more than people complaining about being less that 40 weeks and ready to not be pregnant anymore.

I mean, I get being annoyed or irritated or stressed by being overdue, but angry? It seems odd.

I don't think it's odd at all that anyone at 38+ weeks is ready for an outside baby. This shit is uncomfortable.

chase16 · August 2014

cashews29 said:

I think it's stranger that people are saying that they are 'pissed' or 'angry' that they are overdue, more than people complaining about being less that 40 weeks and ready to not be pregnant anymore.

I mean, I get being annoyed or irritated or stressed by being overdue, but angry? It seems odd.

I don't think it's odd at all that anyone at 38+ weeks is ready for an outside baby. This shit is uncomfortable.

Meh.. I fully understand both sides, tired of being pregnant at 37+ weeks, angry that you're still pregnant after 40 weeks. Yea, we all know that normal pregnancies can last up to 42 weeks, and we all knew that when we first got pregnant, but when you're THAT uncomfortable.. I understand wishing your kid would just come out.

MC03 · August 2014

You know what really bugs me? Random posters who have never posted on the board before complaining about being pregnant and not in labor yet and asking if they might go into labor soon because they are 1cm dilated. Also - to clarify, I have no problem if they post in the labor symptoms thread, but I've seen quite a few new threads lately that annoy me. I don't know you and I don't care about your cervix.

lookame3639 · August 2014

I had a hard labor (but quick delivery) i had every intervention in the book. I was induced 4 weeks early and there was a relatively short nicu stay...i can't read the threads that the OP is upset to be pregnant still because they are so uncomfortable. I get it the couple weeks before I was induced i felt pretty sick but I would have loved to go a few more weeks in order for her to have come home with us. That being side she needed to come early because she stopped growing after my last growth ultrasound 5 weeks before, her cord was wrapped around her neck twice, she had a satillite placenta, and it was a toxic environment for her.

I talk to FI on facebook. He works 2 jobs and is gone all day so I just comment on whatever he puts...sometimes it's a status sometimes it's a picture. I don't post a dedication to him and he doesn't post dedications to me (unless we post a picture of a gift that we got each other). Usually I post that I hate him lol...i don't really hate him...

cashews29 · August 2014

LadyAle said:

@Allison7 and @kelsbeno I don't mean to pick on you at all, but I just can't understand wishing for a complication just to get the baby out. I've had a pretty uneventful pregnancy and I have been so fortunate to never suffer a loss (I'm so sorry about that Allison) which is why it is so confusing to me that you would wish more stress on yourself just to get to meet your baby sooner.

I want this baby to come out so badly. But let me tell you, I would so much rather be huge and uncomfortable and have a massive baby absolutely destroy my vagina because I'm overdue than ever think for a second that there is a complication to worry about so I can just not be pregnant anymore.

I know some moms of babies that had to be in the NICU would give anything to be pregnant for a couple more days than to ever go through that again.

This is completely irrelevant to the coversation. Neither @Allison7 nor @kelsbeno are worried about having a preemie. All of us at this point are term. I'm sure neither of them would have wanted complications if it resulted in having a premature baby. This statement is unecessary and frankly a little mean. It sounds like your implying that they would rather just 'not be pregnant' anymore than have a healthy child.

cashews29 · August 2014

LadyAle said:

cashews29 said:

LadyAle said:

@Allison7 and @kelsbeno I don't mean to pick on you at all, but I just can't understand wishing for a complication just to get the baby out. I've had a pretty uneventful pregnancy and I have been so fortunate to never suffer a loss (I'm so sorry about that Allison) which is why it is so confusing to me that you would wish more stress on yourself just to get to meet your baby sooner.

I want this baby to come out so badly. But let me tell you, I would so much rather be huge and uncomfortable and have a massive baby absolutely destroy my vagina because I'm overdue than ever think for a second that there is a complication to worry about so I can just not be pregnant anymore.

I know some moms of babies that had to be in the NICU would give anything to be pregnant for a couple more days than to ever go through that again.

This is completely irrelevant to the coversation. Neither @Allison7 nor @kelsbeno are worried about having a preemie. All of us at this point are term. I'm sure neither of them would have wanted complications if it resulted in having a premature baby. This statement is unecessary and frankly a little mean. It sounds like your implying that they would rather just 'not be pregnant' anymore than have a healthy child.

Just because you have a baby at 'term' doesn't mean they will automatically avoid the NICU. The NICU is not just for preemies, it is for babies that are sick.

True enough. But if you actually read their responses, both of them are getting induced, or possibly getting induced, to avoid further complications. They aren't having totally healthy pregnancies and saying, "Gosh, I wish I had pre-e so I could just be induced already!" They are already having problems and they are saying that they'd rather be induced than continue having these borderline issues. Them having high stress levels because they are constantly wondering if they've passed that line is just as much as an issue as the problem itself.

And I will admit that I'm sensitive to this, because my LO is breech and I will be getting a c-section before my due date. I don't feel bad about not doing every single spinningbabies exercise to get her to turn on her own.

poofwok · August 2014

I'm just about 39 weeks and yes I'm tired, uncomfortable and over being pregnant. At this point, we are told the baby is mature and it's safe for them to come out.

Do I want to be induced for no medical reason? No. Would I like for baby to come now? Absolutely.

Edit: damn you words

laurenita8 · August 2014

I hate that some people think they own this site. I of course have no issue if people ignore threads about people they're not interested in but there's a misplaced snobbery in suggesting that some people don't have a right to post. There's a lot of great advice and wisdom here but a few sour pusses put a damper on the whole thing. It's like when someone posts something stupid fifty people have to tell her she's stupid. I wish some people would try to be a little kinder.

haliebabyx3 · August 2014

Someone I went to school with and was due after me had her baby today. I admit, I'm jealous, though her delivering was due to BP complications and I'm definitely not jealous of that.

That's about all I have today..

Might I add, it is good to see her and the baby are doing well.

BabyM82714 · August 2014

haliebabyx3 said:

Someone I went to school with and was due after me had her baby today. I admit, I'm jealous, though her delivering was due to BP complications and I'm definitely not jealous of that.
That's about all I have today..
Might I add, it is good to see her and the baby are doing well.

Glad everything is good with them, but that is frustrating. I have a girl I went to school with due 5 days after me.... and she posts all her goods on facebook (eww no one wants to know how dilated you are) and just the fact that shes further dilated than me (although can mean nothing) has me incredibly upset. And I mean its totally realistic that a 5 day difference could mean she'll have her baby before me. But I mean thats my due date and thats when baby will come right and hers will not come before mine!!! ahhhh

kareik01 · August 2014

BabyM82714 said:

haliebabyx3 said:

Someone I went to school with and was due after me had her baby today. I admit, I'm jealous, though her delivering was due to BP complications and I'm definitely not jealous of that.
That's about all I have today..
Might I add, it is good to see her and the baby are doing well.

Glad everything is good with them, but that is frustrating. I have a girl I went to school with due 5 days after me.... and she posts all her goods on facebook (eww no one wants to know how dilated you are) and just the fact that shes further dilated than me (although can mean nothing) has me incredibly upset. And I mean its totally realistic that a 5 day difference could mean she'll have her baby before me. But I mean thats my due date and thats when baby will come right and hers will not come before mine!!! ahhhh

These make me smile!

I and 4 of my friends have all been pregnant together, due dates ranging from early June to mine on August 29th. Obviously, mine being the latest due date, it's not surprising that I'm the last to have baby...but all I can do when one of them lets me know their baby was born is be so jealous! Can't wait to have my own baby in my arms

jamjoyful · August 2014

I'm sad I wasn't pregnant a little longer. I was okay with having a few more weeks.

Raclla · August 2014

Anytime I see a post start off with 'am I being irrational', 'am I just crazy' etc, I automatically think "YES"!

I know it's not always true, but I automatically imagine the poster writing their post and editing it to make themselves seem less crazy.

MC03 · August 2014

@YoginiKiki that's exactly how I feel. Well said.

kareik01 · August 2014

@cath5587I have had multiple people on my Facebook not only say what they're dilating to, but a couple have even gone as far as giving CONSTANT updates! Literally, constant. Dilation, effacement, how long they've been there, if their water broke, just got epidural, etc. It's mortifying and I can't believe they really believe everyone on their Facebook really cares to know SO MUCH DETAIL!

cashews29 · August 2014

cath5587 said:

haliebabyx3 said:

Someone I went to school with and was due after me had her baby today. I admit, I'm jealous, though her delivering was due to BP complications and I'm definitely not jealous of that.
That's about all I have today..
Might I add, it is good to see her and the baby are doing well.

Glad everything is good with them, but that is frustrating. I have a girl I went to school with due 5 days after me.... and she posts all her goods on facebook (eww no one wants to know how dilated you are) and just the fact that shes further dilated than me (although can mean nothing) has me incredibly upset. And I mean its totally realistic that a 5 day difference could mean she'll have her baby before me. But I mean thats my due date and thats when baby will come right and hers will not come before mine!!! ahhhh
-------quote fail------- WTF!? Why would someone post their dilation on Facebook? People are soooo weird on the internet! I pretty much only post cute videos of puppies or animals.

FOR REAL. The whole world does not need to know the state of your cervix. Holy shit.

Allison7 · August 2014

LadyAle said:

cashews29 said:

True enough. But if you actually read their responses, both of them are getting induced, or possibly getting induced, to avoid further complications. They aren't having totally healthy pregnancies and saying, "Gosh, I wish I had pre-e so I could just be induced already!" They are already having problems and they are saying that they'd rather be induced than continue having these borderline issues. Them having high stress levels because they are constantly wondering if they've passed that line is just as much as an issue as the problem itself.

And I will admit that I'm sensitive to this, because my LO is breech and I will be getting a c-section before my due date. I don't feel bad about not doing every single spinningbabies exercise to get her to turn on her own.

I attempted to cut the quote tree... hope this works...

I just have a really hard time even with borderline. Why would you want things to get worse?? Why wouldn't you want things to remain borderline or get better? And if there was truly an issue and a reason to induce, the doctor would do it. These lives are so precious and no doctor is going to risk anything unnecessarily.

ETA: sorry, I misread your response.

If things are borderline, then they have to induce me or things will get worse. Much worse. I am not looking to be induced a week early just because I want my pregnancy to be done. I am hoping to be induced a week early to minimize risks.

If this testing comes back as completely negative, then I have to worry about why I am having these complications. Also, I can start worrying about going past my date and being AMA. The whole thing about being two weeks past your date is okay only applies to those non AMA and is generally accepted because they assume that you don't know your exact date of conception. I was with an RE and heavily monitored - I know my date of conception. In this case, late is truly late and brings with it more complications. I am not hoping to be induced to just get pregnancy over with or anything of the sort. But at this point, being full term, getting the baby out means that there is less of a risk of my body sabotaging another pregnancy.

I know none of this will likely change your mind. Nor will anything you say likely change my mind. Each woman and pregnancy is different. But, please be assured that I have done my homework and research and what I am "hoping" (not sure that is even the right word for it) for would result in the best possible outcome for the health of both myself and my child.

haliebabyx3 · August 2014

cashews29 said:

cath5587 said:

haliebabyx3 said:

Someone I went to school with and was due after me had her baby today. I admit, I'm jealous, though her delivering was due to BP complications and I'm definitely not jealous of that.
That's about all I have today..
Might I add, it is good to see her and the baby are doing well.

Glad everything is good with them, but that is frustrating. I have a girl I went to school with due 5 days after me.... and she posts all her goods on facebook (eww no one wants to know how dilated you are) and just the fact that shes further dilated than me (although can mean nothing) has me incredibly upset. And I mean its totally realistic that a 5 day difference could mean she'll have her baby before me. But I mean thats my due date and thats when baby will come right and hers will not come before mine!!! ahhhh
-------quote fail------- WTF!? Why would someone post their dilation on Facebook? People are soooo weird on the internet! I pretty much only post cute videos of puppies or animals.

FOR REAL. The whole world does not need to know the state of your cervix. Holy shit.

I agree. I was 2cm and 70% effaced last time I was checked, did I think to go put it on FB? Nope! Lol. I will say as bad as it sounds that's two people in the past three weeks that had babies that I went to school with. The first one I wasn't jealous because then our baby wouldn't have been term and could mean complications, although I know you could still have the complications at term. One of them I was so glad to see her have it because she posted at least 4 statuses a day complaining about things pregnancy related.

lookame3639 · August 2014

I still am jealous of those who have an easy labor and delivery...in fact I may or may not hate you a little bit.

I hate it when someone tells me i have no reason to need to pump...i do need to pump until LO has gained enough to no longer require fortified breast milk and can be on free feeding rather than every 3 hours. She gets 4 bottles every night and it sucks because it messes with her latch and she shows nipple confusion.

BlckRoses · August 2014

re: posting about your cervix on FB.

I told DH I don't even want him to tell his mom about the state of my cervix. I really only want to discuss it with DH and my close friends. But my MIL doesn't need to know I'm 1.5 cm dilated. Part of it is that I don't want her to bug us everyday until baby comes about the state of my cervix, and part of it is because that's private. I mean, I came into work today after my doctor's appointment at the end of the day yesterday and my boss acted surprised that I didn't give her all the details about my dilation. Why do people want to know that?

BabyM82714 · August 2014

More facebook dilation talk!

I posted a picture of my bump today and said " 38 week Doc app went well!"

AND literally people I barely talk too commented to ask if I was dilated??

Ugh no response to you.

Also BF mom asks me every appointment and so do my aunts, grandma, etc when they call. Basically any woman thats part of my family asks me. And ladies at work. Why is everyone obsessed with this?! Also it makes me feel awful when they hear I am 2 cm dilated and they are all like "OMG any minute" and I'm all like "no it really doesnt mean anything" and then a little part of me dies inside because i had to confirm to myself that it doesnt mean shit wahhhhh lol

haliebabyx3 · August 2014

BlckRoses said:
re: posting about your cervix on FB.
I told DH I don't even want him to tell his mom about the state of my cervix. I really only want to discuss it with DH and my close friends. But my MIL doesn't need to know I'm 1.5 cm dilated. Part of it is that I don't want her to bug us everyday until baby comes about the state of my cervix, and part of it is because that's private. I mean, I came into work today after my doctor's appointment at the end of the day yesterday and my boss acted surprised that I didn't give her all the details about my dilation. Why do people want to know that?

After every appointment MIL ask if I've dilated anymore. I made the mistake the first time telling her that I was starting to dilate some. I died when H told her after our last one that I was 2cm.

tamarar5 · August 2014

cashews29 said:
I think it's stranger that people are saying that they are 'pissed' or 'angry' that they are overdue, more than people complaining about being less that 40 weeks and ready to not be pregnant anymore.

I mean, I get being annoyed or irritated or stressed by being overdue, but angry? It seems odd.

I don't think it's odd at all that anyone at 38+ weeks is ready for an outside baby. This shit is uncomfortable.

I posted the angry overdue thread and really, I only said angry because I was worried if I said "fucking done" in the title I'd get sensored or banned for language.

Between the pinched nerves, the pressure, the nonproductive contractions, and a face up baby crushing my spine and still not engaging, I am in *more* pain right now still pregnant and not in labor than I've been while actually in active labor.

lookame3639 · August 2014

A friend of mine who was due 7 days exactly me posted today she was 2 cm dialated and 80 percent effaced...literally EVERYONE told her she'd have her baby soon. They convinced her that she'll have an august baby. I wanted to say you MAY or MAY NOT have your baby in august...or you could go over and have your baby a week past her due date...seriously people! Seriously!

tamarar5 · August 2014

cashews29 said:

cath5587 said:

BabyM82714 said:

haliebabyx3 said:

Someone I went to school with and was due after me had her baby today. I admit, I'm jealous, though her delivering was due to BP complications and I'm definitely not jealous of that.
That's about all I have today..
Might I add, it is good to see her and the baby are doing well.

Glad everything is good with them, but that is frustrating. I have a girl I went to school with due 5 days after me.... and she posts all her goods on facebook (eww no one wants to know how dilated you are) and just the fact that shes further dilated than me (although can mean nothing) has me incredibly upset. And I mean its totally realistic that a 5 day difference could mean she'll have her baby before me. But I mean thats my due date and thats when baby will come right and hers will not come before mine!!! ahhhh
-------quote fail-------

WTF!? Why would someone post their dilation on Facebook? People are soooo weird on the internet!

I pretty much only post cute videos of puppies or animals.

FOR REAL. The whole world does not need to know the state of your cervix. Holy shit.

Y'all, my FIL asked the state of my cervix on my FB wall last pregnancy.

I deleted it and told DH to tell him to mhob.

DH told him to quit being a dirty old perv or he would be the last to know we had the baby.

Cat&S · August 2014

theteno said:
UO: I don't think how dilated I am is that personal. They're asking about how close I am to delivering, not picturing my insides. And I remind them it means nothing when they ask, but it really just doesn't bother me.

I agree. Maybe it's because I work in healthcare and am used to graphic information being no big deal, but I really don't care who asks me if I'm dilated at all. I think I've told just about anyone who's asked, and I don't think any of them were curious for any reason other than being excited about LO.

However, no cervix updates are going on fb.

caballablanca · August 2014

theteno said:
UO: I don't think how dilated I am is that personal. They're asking about how close I am to delivering, not picturing my insides. And I remind them it means nothing when they ask, but it really just doesn't bother me.

Me either, but then again I never had random people ask me this. It was always my mom, mil or the girls at work. They always have pools at work to see when a mama to be will go into labor.

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