bedtime nightmare

djm31012 · August 2014

ok thats an exaggeration. its not awful. but ever since we moved into our new house a week ago DS has been giving us a really hard time going down at night. He sleeps fine through the night. But he cries the second we put him into the crib and we usually have to go back in 2 times before we finally settles down. The whole thing lasts probably about 45 minutes, which means he gets to bed late, but still wakes up at the same time in the morning and then is tired. I told DH I want to hang pictures/look for window treatments this weekend to make the room cozier. We lived at my parents for 8 months so this crib is not familiar to him anymore which may be part of the problem. Any suggestions on how to make this transition better? He is tired at his normal time, he asks for his milk, and does fine when we go upstairs. Its just after hes done with his milk and I go to put him in the crib he loses it. He still has his same loveys and paci and everything so not sure what else I can do.

djm31012 · August 2014

@luxannie i didnt like the part that you were all losers and honestly I dont even know what side of the argument she was on, I lost track....it was more referring back to my UO from last week (i think) that once again this is an internet forum, and the fact that people get so insulted by what someone they dont know thinks of them that they have to leave the board is mind boggling to me. I guess I just dont think anyone on here could illicit that reaction from me, no matter what was said (typed) to/about me. To me, the bump is a place I look to for tips or shared commraderie as a FTM with lots of "what the heck should i do" moments. The banter that goes along with it is entertainment on a slow day at work. The recent threads are very sensitive topics that dont personally hit close to home but do affect me, and I chose not to partake in them. But I stand by my original thoughts, this is the bump. We all have family and friends that deserve our love and energy, so I think everyone would best be served to take the digs and insults being thrown around and focus that energy that it uses up elsewhere.

ALL THAT BEING SAID....I need to get blackout shades, that may be part of the problem. We use the same noise machine we always have. I think its probably just him getting used to his new surroundings, and like DC said throw in an 18 month sleep regression and its alot at once.

@DC2London I try to go in and rub his back and lay him down but that makes it worse, so then I wind up picking him back up and rocking with him. He never falls asleep that way, but usually after the 2nd time I/DH does it, he settles down. Its just a 45 min to an hour process along the way!

djm31012 · August 2014

@luxannie there was one other reason I remembered that I "loved" that post. I think it was you or someone else that made a comment about her being entitled or something similar because she mentioned renovating her kitchen and supporting small business owners. That was another post I chose not to participate in because it takes too much effort quite frankly, but I had to defend her there. The fact that she makes/has money, lives in a nice house or renovates one, says nothing about her character or lack there of. I am also in the "top 1%", DH and I work really hard to be there and have been handed nothing along the way, and I am in no way ashamed of that. Again, I do not know Peanut, I assume you do not either. So what I "loved" was her saying she had a life that was good and she was going to go enjoy it, renovated kitchen and all! Nothing wrong with that-she earned it.

jesuisfatiguee · August 2014

TB really needs line-item lovetitting.

jesuisfatiguee · August 2014

I'll offer my 2 cents on the restless bebe!

I'd just tough it out for another week or so, until he gets more used to the new setting. I'd also get some blackout curtains in that time-frame, like you already mentioned.

I suck, though, and DS still sleeps in bed with me and wakes to nurse throughout the night. So... yeah.

djm31012 · August 2014

I dont want to let him cry just yet because its still new to him. I am not opposed to CIO and have done it in the past but I think its too soon given the circumstance. I think another week or so and I will do just that, but |I will give him a little more time to get used to the new digs and in the mean time try to hang pictures and curtains, get black out shades and make it a little more "fun" to be in there for him! thanks everyone!

djm31012 · August 2014

DC2London said:

Re: GBCB's, am I the only one who was offended by the phrase "Pulling a Dubs?" DublinMama sure as heck isn't the first person to take a step back from TB or even from this board. And I didn't feel like Dubs exited in quite such spectacular fashion as some have.
If someone wants to take a break or leave the board(s) entirely, that is her prerogative. But I think to name the act after another member is in poor taste.

was that Peanut or adamwife? I missed it I think. I kind of agree with you. Which brings me back to my original point. If you feel that strongly, just stop posting for a bit and come back if/when you are ready.

kleigh926 · August 2014

DC2London said:
Re: GBCB's, am I the only one who was offended by the phrase "Pulling a Dubs?" DublinMama sure as heck isn't the first person to take a step back from TB or even from this board. And I didn't feel like Dubs exited in quite such spectacular fashion as some have.
If someone wants to take a break or leave the board(s) entirely, that is her prerogative. But I think to name the act after another member is in poor taste.

I wasn't offended by it. I think "offended" is a strong word choice. I did, however, notice it and thought it was a strange way for her to phrase it for the same reasons you noted; Dubs was the most recent person to leave but certainly not the first. I'm not sure why adamwife named her specifically.

TarheelMama202 · August 2014

luxannie said:
ok, you pass. :P

I can't say I agree with your sentiment that getting emotionally involved is silly. I used to kind of feel the same way, but then I started participating more here and I now WOULD be hurt if someone called me an idiot or a loser. Because I do think of this community as friends, whether or not I ever meet them in real life. (side bar: everyone come visit me...it's a lovely city!)

I'm glad Peanut is getting a swanky new kitchen. I have a swanky new house that I love. I just didn't like the tone of some of her comments. But tone is hard to read here, so maybe she wasn't being condescending and maybe she was. Who knows. In the end she chose to be cruel and rude and that ain't cool.

Like I said, I enjoy the vast majority of the posts by the vast majority of the people here. I prefer drinking and fun and selfies and babies. But I'll get into arguments and get riled up too.

I'll just go on the record and make sure it was clear that I made the comment about Peanut's kitchen renos. We also have a lovely new home with a beautiful kitchen, but the tone of her posts was off-putting. The "those poors should be thankful I'm paying them to upgrade my kitchen" attitude was a bit much for my taste.

TarheelMama202 · August 2014

DC2London said:
Re: GBCB's, am I the only one who was offended by the phrase "Pulling a Dubs?" DublinMama sure as heck isn't the first person to take a step back from TB or even from this board. And I didn't feel like Dubs exited in quite such spectacular fashion as some have.
If someone wants to take a break or leave the board(s) entirely, that is her prerogative. But I think to name the act after another member is in poor taste.

I usually just say I'm "Pulling a Dubs" when I'm feeling like I'm particularly badass.

I couldn't agree with you more, DC. That was weird.

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