First appt- bring SO?

jelixster9 · August 2014

As a FTM I am curious if most women bring their husbands or SO to their first appt and U/S? Mine would have to request off from work and I don't know if I need him to go to that trouble. Thoughts?

Goldie000 · August 2014

How far along will you be at your first appointment? I think it's a personal decision. I didn't have my DH come to my first u/s because I was only 4 weeks 6 days and knew I wouldn't see anything but a gestational sac. He's coming to the next one on Monday at 7 weeks 3 days since we will be able to see more and hear a heartbeat.

jlworden710 · August 2014

It depends on what your practice does for first appointments, every office is different. At my ob appt with my last 2 pregnancies it was just an intake with a nurse. My husband didn't go to those, but now that I'm with my re, we have a 6wk scan as a first appt, so he will go to that.

You could always call your office and ask what the appt will consist of.

littlewest1 · August 2014

My husband came to all ultrasound appointments and the last one I had before I delivered just to ask questions. He never went to any of the ones in between. If there is a U/S it would probably be nice for him to be there.

jelixster9 · August 2014

I'll be 8 1/2 weeks. They said there's an hour with the nurse, then the ultrasound after with the OB

ScarletOflaherty · August 2014

What does your husband want? That would be the first place to look IMO.

My husband was very involved with everything(and his job schedule is flexible), so he went to every appt.

littlewest1 · August 2014

Agree with @goldie000, have him go if you are far enough along to see something.

Edit: I see you will be 8.5 weeks.

jlworden710 · August 2014

jelixster9 said:
I'll be 8 1/2 weeks. They said there's an hour with the nurse, then the ultrasound after with the OB

if there's an us, I'd say yes. It's essentially up to you guys though

rosemama116 · August 2014

Mine is coming but I will be getting an u/s. It all depends on what your OB does at the first appointment.

dadalou · August 2014

With my first DH didn't come to the first appointment, but he had already seen baby on an ultrasound. We found out late that I was pregnant. I was having severe pain and ended up in the er. They did an ultrasound to rule out ectopic pregnancy. My first appointment with the OB was only about a week later so he didn't come.

Last time he didn't come to the first appointment. He did come with me to the anatomy scan. I think that was the only appointment he came to.

This time he is coming to the first appointment. I will need him there in case something is wrong.

Duffgurl · August 2014

DH likes to go to every appt. I love having him there for support

amdecker1016 · August 2014

My H went to every one.
And will probably just go to important ones this time since we have a kid now

mamabernsteinbear15 · August 2014

Just had my first today and my husband did not take off work. All they did was a pap, questions and sent me for bloodwork. First u/s is next Friday which he will take off for!

tjheld · August 2014

My first will be on the 26th and I hope that my husband can go however he works with his father and so we are guessing that will look too fishy having him get off of work. I hope that we can but he pry won't take off for it.

lindsayanne14 · August 2014

My DH came to my first appointment. Mainly so he could get an idea of what pregnancy was going to entail and have any of his questions answered. After the first appt. he only came to ultra sounds. How often or if your DH goes to appointments is something you guys should figure out...to each their own!

MissLMS · August 2014

DH came with me to my first appointment my first pregnancy, but after that he's just gone to the appointments where I had an ultrasound. Our first appointment is really more just pregnancy confirmation.

VeggieFan · August 2014

I had wondered the same thing, when I called to make the appointment I asked the woman on the phone if people bring their husband's to this appointment and she said definitely yes! You could always call to ask.

topaz7777 · August 2014

Mine couldn't come with DD and so I just took him a picture, he was sad he couldn't make it but there were plenty more. Though if for any reason I was worried about getting bad news I definitely would have wanted him there.

bride2bnVA · August 2014

DH already stated he was going to every appt. My first appt isn't until 9/2 (I will be 8w2d) and they said I will meet with the NP at 2:00 and the ultrasound will be at 2:30.

4N6s · August 2014

My husband came with im and is planning on being at all appointments.

Miluiel07 · August 2014

My husband is coming because I will be getting an ultrasound. He only comes if I will be getting one since the doctor's office is far from his work.

heatherwhite1984 · August 2014

My husband only missed one appointment my entire pregnancy. And the one I had was at 28w or so, and I only heard the heartbeat, but I recorded it for him to hear. We made the appointments late in the day so neither of us had to take more than 30m off of work. For this baby, he'll most likely come to all of them again.

ejeh4 · August 2014

My husband comes along when he can. It was a lot more with our first, since now if he's home during an appointment he stays home with the kids so we don't bring a three ring circus with us.

Anyway, first appointment, we are getting a babysitter and he's coming. We have a possibility to see the baby and he doesn't want to miss it

thiscoffeechick · August 2014

Since you will be 8 1/2 weeks, I'd say definitely have him come! Unfortunately I received very sad news at my first U/S and I was very greatful my husband was there to be supportive and so he could hear everything from the doctor. I'm SURE you will be fine so won't it be wonderful to hear your baby's heartbeat for the first time together?
I'm bringing my hubby to my first appointment so we can see our little peanut on the monitor together!

starfish717 · August 2014

My husband wanted to go to most u/s appts, especially the first one and the anatomy scan. Towards the middle-end of my last pregnancy I had an u/s every 2 weeks and he went to those only because he had to drive me there (I was on strict bed rest), otherwise he wouldn't have gone to all of those. If it's super hard to take off work, I would hope that he would just be able to make it to the anatomy scan around 20 weeks

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