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Lonely

daniosaurdaniosaur member
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Hi there. I'm Dani. I just had a miscarriage less than a week ago. It was my first pregnancy. My husband and I tried for months before I got pregnant, and I want to be a mom more than anything, so I was overjoyed. And then suddenly I was no longer pregnant. And I don't really know what to do with myself. I introduced myself over at TTCAL already. I didn't realize this group existed at the time. Oops. We do plan to try again as soon as we can... but right now I just feel so empty and depressed. When it first happened, I cried and cried, and then the next morning I woke up and thought "It's okay, we'll try again, it's going to happen for us. It was early, this is common." I really thought I was alright. But the more days that go by, the lower I feel. Today I slept basically the entire day. I feel isolated. I deactivated my Facebook because I was sick of seeing everyone's smiling pictures and feeling this distance between myself and them and feeling jealous and guilty. I miss my baby that I never got to really know. I feel hopeless. :( Sorry to just be an absolute downer but I just needed to get this out to others who might understand. Thanks.
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  • cherylanddougcherylanddoug member
    ((hugs)) I'm so sorry for your loss. I definitely empathize with all of those feelings, and it is so much worse with the first pregnancy.  Take time to let yourself heal.  There's nothing wrong with seeing a counselor.  This is a very hard thing to go through.
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  • negritosmaminegritosmami member
    sorry for your loss...you are not alone in how you feel...hang in there...*hugs*

    ~TTC #1 Since 3/2014
    ~BFP #1 6/2014      EDD 2/11/15
    ~MMC 7/31/14 @12weeks ~D&C /2/2014  

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  • kerbear135kerbear135 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. Like others have said, you are not alone. We've all been there and totally understand how you're feeling. Grieving is a process and you're going to have good days and bad days- and that's ok. Be kind to yourself and perhaps look into a counselor- it might help to talk to someone who can help you figure out what to do with your grief.


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    BFP #1 12/02/11, M/C 12/08/11
    BFP #2 04/06/12, DD born 12/20/12
    BFP #3 06/09/14, M/C 06/15/14
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  • limoncatlimoncat member
    So sorry for your loss.  I felt the same way after mine.  3 weeks after it happened I forced myself with my husband's urging to go spend the weekend with 2 of my closest friends.  At first I didn't want to be around them, I wanted to stay bottled up in my own grief.  But I made myself do it, and I have to say it helped.  Having fun and being distracted reminded me that there was more to life than my fertility challenges, and while I can be sad about my miscarriage I can still go on enjoying friends, family, and life in general.  It did take me 3 weeks before I was even ready to attempt that though.  And I still don't go on facebook...But basically my point is that things will get better.  
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