article about due dates that I love, and one other question

Re: article about due dates that I love, and one other question

• RunningJ member

  August 2014

  I asked my Dr about the herditary element and he shrugged. My mother's water broke before contractions began with both me and my sister, and she had to have a whiff pitocin to encourage labor and things progressed from there. My Dr said that since my mom's water broke both time without labor beginning that it was highly unusual and he doubts that would happen to me...but who knows.
  

  
  BFP 12.13.13. Baby Girl EDD 8.21.14.

  

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• BlckRoses member

  August 2014

  theteno said:

  zoegirlTX said:

  yea, I'm thinking that this is lesson #1 that my life isn't my own any more, I don't control the time table, and I still need a big ol' helping of patience.

  
  

  I'm guessing L&D could have a hreditary element, but I'm honestly more convinced that 1- our parents had very little knowledge about P&G (the drinking, smoking, not exercising makes it already very different than my PG) and 2) that we're much more certain about our EDD b/c most of us were tracking, TTC, knew ovulation or DOC dates and they were just randomly guessing back int he old days.

  Agreed.

  Maybe it's because my dad is an engineer and super analytic, but my mom was temping and tracking her ovulation when they were trying to get pregnant with me and my brother.  When I told him I was pregnant he asked me if I was temping and tracking  I believe I was 1 week late and my brother was early.  

  
  

  I do agree when older people tell me their kid was a month late or something like that I usually just smile and nod and assume they have no idea when they ovulated.  They didn't get the dating ultrasounds like we do.  

  

  
  

  
  

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• Venus04 member

  August 2014

  FrodaBaggins said:

  https://www.fitpregnancy.com/pregnancy/labor-delivery/ask-labor-nurse/why-counting-down-your-due-date-bad-idea

  
  

  "Due dates set the stage for the unpredictable nature of parenting.  Labor is only the beginning.  There are so many things you don’t really have any control over.  When those things come up, sometimes the best way of dealing with them is to just let it be. You don’t always have to do anything when things aren’t going exactly as expected.  It’s not going to be the cruise you planned on anyway. It’s going to be a different trip altogether.  Just sit back and wait for things to happen in their own good time.  It’s not about the schedule.  It’s not about the destination.  It’s about the journey."

  
  

  NGL...taking comfort from this right now!

  
  

  Also one other question: talking to my Mom this morning. She told me that with my older brother, she was 2 weeks late, he never dropped or moved into position, she never had any pre-labor signs like mucus plug or show, had to be induced, never dilated past 8 cm and had to have emergency c-section. (then me and my 2 younger brothers were all scheduled c's.) She wants me to tell me OB all this tomorrow because she believe there's a hereditary element. I think we've talked about this before but I can't remember. Is that idea of there being a hereditary element to how your labors go mostly bullshit?

  I've read how long you gestate can be hereditary (from your side and the father's), but that's where the similarities end. Also, the "never dilated past 8cm" could have been her or the doc just kind of calling it at a certain point. Who knows if another couple of hours would have put here into pushing territory. I would NOT let her story worry you one bit. 

  

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• haliebabyx3 member

  August 2014

  According to my mom, my pregnancy has been exactly like hers. With my brother and myself she was two weeks early with both of us, so she believes I will be two weeks early. She was sick and nauseous with both pregnancies and I have been really sick and nauseous with this pregnancy. I'm not sure if it's hereditary or not, I would ask my doctor but I'm worried he will look at me like I'm crazy. Last week I was 2cm and 70% effaced so my mom is really believing I will go early, though I could walk around like that for weeks.

  

  
  

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• ungraceful13 member

  August 2014

  There is some heredity factor but mainly I think it is bull. My gma, mom and I all had bicornate uterus. My mom had to have a section with both of us bc we were breech. I flipped late breech for her. That came true for me with DS bc Thursday he was head down and he flipped sometime before Monday bc when my water broke his feet started to pop out. Which led to an emergency c-section.
  

  
  
  
  
  

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