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SummerB0607SummerB0607 member
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I lost my son, Gentry, on the first due to preterm labor at only 23 weeks. I got the results yesterday as to why this might have happened. I had a uti that I didn't know about. There were traces of infection in the placenta. I feel so horrible. That is something that is preventable and treatable and I didn't even know I had it until it was too late. It cost my baby his life.

I feel more at fault than ever. I didn't take care of myself or my baby well enough. He was so strong and beautiful and he was developing perfectly. If not for that uti he probably would have been full term and healthy.

I miss him so much :-(
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  • msunshine123msunshine123 member
    edited August 2014
    @SummerB0607 - please be kind to yourself. You would have done everything and anything for your sweet Gentry if given the choice. But you had no choice - it was out of your control. You're in my thoughts - big hugs to you.
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    I am so sorry hun. But please be kind to yourself as PP have said. You didn't know. ((hugs))

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  • LyndseyTSLyndseyTS member
    I'm so sorry. If you had known, you would have done something and there is no way you could have known. I know it's so hard not to, but try not to blame yourself. Be kind to yourself.
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  • jml2ndjml2nd member
    edited August 2014

    Please don't feel this way!  Sometimes it's in God's hands.

     

    I'm from MI and had to go to Cincinnati Children's Hospital in OH to get tested because I was borderline twin to twin transfusion syndrome.  They told us that it wasn't "severe enough" to be able to do anything.  1 month later, it became severe too quick to do anything about it and we lost both our boys!  

     

    I too feel guilty....I said some crazy things throughout the pregnancy out of fear of what we would end up doing with 3 kids under 1yr [the boys could have been due before our daughter turned one due to my health history and because they were mono-di twins].  And then of course for not pushing hard enough for some type of action to be taken when we DID go to Cincinnati and were surrounded by specialists! 

     

    Yes...none of any of this is fair....for any of us!  None of us is deserving of such heart ache and pain. 

     

    I just keep telling myself every day "One day at a time"!  

     

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    I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my boys to an infection too (Chorioamnionitis).  These things are actually often not preventable.  Do not be too hard on yourself.  We had a culture done four days before I went into labor and it came back negative.  If you ever need to talk to someone with who has a loss due to infection, please feel free to PM me.  
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    As PPs have said, please be kind to yourself. I won't tell you not to blame yourself because that would be hypocritical. I think as moms we will always blame ourself. But the fact is, this wasn't your fault. (((Big hugs)))









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