So, what would you do if you had a male post partum nurse that made several inappropriate comments to while you were at the hospital (i.e. very aggressive with me and my newborn while assisting me with breasfeeding/latching, told me the reason my newborn was crying was because she had a neurological issue, told me to clean the toilet in the bathroom after I had left some blood on it post-delivery/made gagging noises, and told me my husband is the one that should be helping me use the pump because (in his own words) "I am not a saidst...or is it a masochist?")? It is something that has been haunting me and I feel like I need to bring the behavior to someone's attention in hopes no other women have to deal with this douchebag.
I'd report him, no questions asked. And I'm a pacifist, so I don't make decisions like that lightly. But yeah, I wouldn't hesitate to call him out in explicit detail.
DS: 11/8/11 | 9 lb 7 oz, 22 in DD: 5/22/14 | 9 lb 9 oz, 21.5 in
Thanks jenb_99. Filed a formal complaint, and now trying to keep from worrying this guy will seek us out for retribution...what with all the crazy people in the world and what-not. I normally let things slide, too. But this all just kept bothering me; even 3 months after I wonder if he is saying these things to other women.
I have no clue who you'd talk to specifically but that is so wrong. Heck the nurses yelled (gently chided is probably a better description) me for going to the bathroom by myself and trying to clean up too. So wrong.
If it were me, I'd start with the receptionist and explain that you had a problem while staying there and ask who do you talk to about it. They should be able to direct you appropriately.
@jennish11 - Just got off phone with Customer Service who hooked me up with Patient's rep. Thanks for the support ladies! I'm not quite sure how I didn't kill him, either. Most of this happened while my hubby ran home to care for our dogs. I was a wreck by the time he got back to the hospital. Told him to kepp the nurse out of the room and basically cried until we got our night nurse.
Report him and this is coming from Myself and my DH being registered nurses! Unbelievable and a disgrace to our profession especially the great male nurses that are out there ugh
So sorry you had to deal with that! My stay was hard enough with being exhausted from delivery, learning how to breastfeed, and being interrupted by nurses constantly. I can't even imagine dealing with that on top of everything else. I wanted to cry just reading this! I'm so happy you reported him. Nobody deserves to be treated like that, especially after bringing a precious life into this world!
Report him, I reported my l&d nurse for different reasons ( she basically ignored and mocked me when I told her I had extra pain, leading to another nurses intervention and me being rushed to an emergency c section and being put to sleep during the birth of my daughter). I just asked to speak with the head of nursing and told her my story, I was listened to and treated with respect and felt like I may have prevented someone else from getting the same treatment.
Just want to apologize if I offended any nurses! My mom was a nurse and two of my good friends are nurses and I tell them all the time that it takes a special person to be a nurse and I respect all nurses
@kitchencolors - Yea...I only added the male part to this post, when I submitted my report I only named him as my post partum nurse.
Thank you so much for the support everyone! My husband is not happy about me filing a formal complaint. He is worried this guy may seek some sort of retributiion. In my husband's words, "That guy scared me from the beginning." In all honesty, the guy was just creepy enough that my gut tells me to keep this confidential as the case moves forward. So here is my next question...according to the person in charge of my case:
It would be better if he could reprimand this guy with specific details. And by using these details, chances are the guy will know who I am...ugh. What would you do? I REALLY don't want to be some 20/20 special. And again, I don't want to be part of the problem; I want to be part of a solution. Thoughts?
@mary97 - It is never to late to speak up. I wish I had handled it right when it happened, but I am such an anti-confrontational person and I was a confused/scared FTM, so...it took me 3 months to decide this was important. Thanks for the support
Wow I am so so sorry you had to go through that. I would report him immediately!! No doubt! I had a nurse tell me very aggressively that if I decided to go home on day two that "I could die and my daughter would be without a mother!". It was the way she said it at still haunts me to this day. But that is nothing compared to what you had to go through. Once again, I'm very sorry!
Nothing to add advice wise, everyone has it covered. But I wanted to say In so sorry you were treated like that. Makes me sad and enraged. Fuck that guy, something is wrong with him.
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If it were me, I'd start with the receptionist and explain that you had a problem while staying there and ask who do you talk to about it. They should be able to direct you appropriately.
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@kitchencolors - Yea...I only added the male part to this post, when I submitted my report I only named him as my post partum nurse.
Thank you so much for the support everyone! My husband is not happy about me filing a formal complaint. He is worried this guy may seek some sort of retributiion. In my husband's words, "That guy scared me from the beginning." In all honesty, the guy was just creepy enough that my gut tells me to keep this confidential as the case moves forward. So here is my next question...according to the person in charge of my case:
It would be better if he could reprimand this guy with specific details. And by using these details, chances are the guy will know who I am...ugh. What would you do? I REALLY don't want to be some 20/20 special. And again, I don't want to be part of the problem; I want to be part of a solution. Thoughts?