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TTC After a Loss
ChellsnCheese
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Is this my seat? (Older Children Mentioned, Recent Loss Mentioned)
ChellsnCheese
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Ok my first warning is my grammar is horrible, second if I do something against the rules of the page I apologize, however I did read everything.
My name is Michelle, I am 29 and I am a bio mom of 3 Girls conceived using clomid and pregnancy's controlled with progesterone(over a 12 year span), all three were premature births ranging form 33-35 weeks. I also have a step son who lives with my husband and I.
I have suffered through several miscarriages, and still today this day don't know a cause (all losses were before 6 weeks) Recently I had hit the 14 week mark and thought we had finally made it again pass the finish line, I know greedy of me huh? Well at a ER visit for dehydration I found out I loss my son at 14 weeks 4 days and had to deliver him that next morning. The doctor already has me doing all kinds of testing, the cause of his passing is still not found, and I really want to try one last time I know it makes me sound so greedy and I am not asking for pitty because I do feel blessed for the pregnancys I have had and children. I am just trying to find somewhere to belong that I can talk to other women who experience loss then the journey to TTC the doc said a lot of women like me are like med students, he said its hard to get into med school and even harder to stay in (comparing it to pregnancy) I just want to meet other women like me, that I can support and just be able to talk with.
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Re: Is this my seat? (Older Children Mentioned, Recent Loss Mentioned)
DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010
BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
My chart here All ALers welcome!
***Living children mentioned***
I know what it's like to want one more. It doesn't make you greedy at all. I think all of us have an idea of what our family is supposed to look like in our heads. In yours, and in mine, we're meant to have another child. I went through primary and secondary infertility, rounds of meds and IUIs to have the two children I do have, so I can relate. My children are also older - 11 and 5. If you ever want to talk, feel free to PM me.
BFP 4/8/14, MMC 5/5/14, D&C 5/9/14
BFP 8/26/14 Due date 5/8/15
Thank you Ladies I appreciate it, I have never been part of a discussion board before, and looking at all the names of the boards and groups I am just trying to find my "fit"
DH: 45
BFP #1 3/19/14 EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
BFP #2 12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
Saw heartbeat 12/29. Please be a rainbow.
All welcome
October 2011 - DS (7)
July 2014 - Stillborn DD (24 weeks)
August 2015 - DD (3)
April 2018 - 5 week loss
US (with RE) 3/24/2014 (two healthy HB), US (with OB) 3/31/2014 (three healthy heartbeats)
BFP#2: 10/22/14 | (beta #1 75, beta # 2 219) | EDD 7/3/15 ~*Please be our RAINBOW*~
BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)
Btw - There is also a newbie check in that the wonderful @ktlovess posts every week. It's a great place to get a feel for the board and start to get to know people. I know I found it helpful. She has already posted it today
PgAL welcome
Married 6/11/2011
Me & Hubby: 34
TTC journey started 12/2012
BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks
BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)
Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.
Also have hypothyroidism
Started TTC again 12/2013
IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN
IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN
Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/502498
***living living mentioned***
Like others have said, it's not greedy to want more children. We all have a vision of our families in our mind. I told DH the other night that I've begun to feel selfish for wanting another when many of the wonderful ladies I've met are just dreaming of one. These are normal feelings. I hope that you and your dr can figure out what is going on. I wish you the best of luck! Hopefully you find this board as supportive helpful as I have.
DH & I are both 28 Together: 12 years Married: 09/24/2011
BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012
Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12
BFP #2: 06/25 - EDD 03/05/15 MMC confirmed 8/1 - D&E 8/4 retained tissue discovered 8/20
BFP #3 11/24 - 12/15 Heartbeat detected - DD2 07/29/15
Me: 31, DH: 30, Married July 2013
TTC since March 2014
BFP#1 5.17.14, EDD 1.26.15, MMC (measuring 6w3d at 8w3d), D&C 6.26.14
BFP#2 9.19.14, EDD 5.29.15, AF on 9.23.14 CP
BFP#3 12.17.14, EDD 8.25.15, AF on 12.21.14 CP#2
Current plan: TTC while waiting for RPL results to come back
Stalk my ute
My Ovulation Chart
DS2 born 2/22/13
MMC 5/16/14@8w2d
DD due 5/9/15 Please be our RAINBOW
08/2011: Clomid 50mg, IUI --> BFN ,
10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN
04/13: Clomid, IUI BFP --> MC at 6w1d
05/13: Femara 2.5mg, IUI --> BFN , 08/13: Femara 2.5mg --> BFN
03/14: Femara 5mg, IUI --> 1 follicle @ 27d --> BFP! EDD 12/02/14--> blighted ovum, missed MC 6w6d --> D&C
4/23: D&C...starting over again, with a little part of my heart broken off
7/14: Femara 5mg + brevelle + menopur + IUI --> converted to IVF, ER 7/28 --> ET cancelled due to severe OHSS.
9/20/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP--> EDD 6/6/15 --> MC at 5w3d
10/16/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFN
2/6/15: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP --> MC at 5w4d
3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15
6/6/17: Fresh IVF Cycle --> Severe OHSS, 5 PGS-tested embryos frozen
2/23/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
3/30/18: Cancelled cycle due to lining 4.2mm
Started TTC Nov. 2011
1st clomid cycle June 2012- No response :: HSG August 2012- Left tube blocked, right tube clear :: 2nd clomid cycle Aug. 2012 BFN :: 3rd clomid cycle Sept. 2012 :: BFP Sept 30th :: DS born 6/15/13 :: BFP #2 7/29/14 M/C 8/5/14 :: BFP#3 10/20/14 DD born 7/1/2015 :: Applied to be surrogate April '17 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for IFs Dec. '17 :: Surro Babe born 9/11/18 :: Started 2nd Journey May '19 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for new IFs 9/24/19 :: HB 138 at 6w6d
***living children mentioned***
I think many of us with living children feel similarly. Just the other day DH and I were talking about it and wondering if we should just stop since we are already blessed with a son and a daughter. We don't want to give up though as we both want to have 4 children. Now we're here hoping to at least have one more. My heart just can't let go of that dream.
There's a TTC a Sibling check-in on the PAL board. Feel free to join us when you're ready.
How do I get to that group? What's it called?