TODAY show Savannah's baby shower/FTM advice

Re: TODAY show Savannah's baby shower/FTM advice

• apinkpelican member

  August 2014

  I wish I would have known: how hard it is. And that the blissful love that they speak of isn't always immediate and that's ok. So many ppl tell you their labor stories but I don't think anyone told me how hard the first few weeks are. Maybe it's because it's difficult to accurately describe just how challenging they are. I felt a little blindsided by it all! But I would also tell a new mom that as much as you may wish away some of the hardest moments while you are in them, that they do pass and you'll find yourself missing them before you even realize it!

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• manna1212 member

  August 2014

  I wish someone had told me more about the postpartum period. I knew labor would be hard, but the few weeks after were painful and your body doesn't quite feel right for awhile. However, the pain is worth it. Being a mom has been an exhausting, but amazing experience!

  

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• gutsysneakers member

  August 2014

  KellyQ116 said:

  I wish I would have known: how hard it is. And that the blissful love that they speak of isn't always immediate and that's ok. So many ppl tell you their labor stories but I don't think anyone told me how hard the first few weeks are. Maybe it's because it's difficult to accurately describe just how challenging they are. I felt a little blindsided by it all! But I would also tell a new mom that as much as you may wish away some of the hardest moments while you are in them, that they do pass and you'll find yourself missing them before you even realize it!

  This. No matter how much you wanted this baby, you will want your old life back at first. And that is okay and it's normal. Then you'll feel guilty. It's still okay. You WILL feel that love. It takes time to adjust.

  
  

  
  

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• pistolpackinmomma member

  August 2014

  Typically (we should be working on this now) we would go to the May 15 BMB and give our advice in one post there. At least the Jan 12 board did that for the Jan 13 board. In a month or so when everyone had gotten their BFPs for the month us when someone should go start it and then we all comment with our advice. I think that's how it went.

  
  

   
  

    

  
  

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• lrmrtn member

  August 2014

  Before the baby is born, enjoy the little things you won't have time for - date night with DH, doing nothing, sleeping without listening to a monitor, running a quick errand, etc. All of these things will become so much harder once LO is here.
  
  Also, as much as you know you'll get no sleep in the beginning, nothing can prepare you for those nights at 3 am when you've gotten no sleep and baby's screaming and you feel like you wont make it until morning. But you will and you'll sleep again.
  
  Accept help. Even if it's a half hour so you can take a shower, a walk or a nap.
  
  DH will survive being alone with the baby even if you or he doesn't think so. So will the baby. And he may surprise you at how well he does. Mine did.

  

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• mfosburgh member

  August 2014

  Even though you have everything perfectly planned in your head it WILL NOT go according to your plans... But it will still be perfect in its own way. Or maybe it won't... But that's ok too.

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• thefussybunch member

  August 2014

  I would say to not have any preconceived notions. You can try to plan, but it may not work out that way, so just be ok going with the flow. Always keep faith and recognize special moments and enjoy them!

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• Nikkipal82 member

  August 2014

  With my vast 3 months of mothering experience, I would say the most important thing I have learned is to trust my instincts. Even though motherhood may make you feel like you have no idea what you're doing, and that you will inevitably screw up, you know more than you think. No one knows your child better than you do, even the moment they are born. If something doesn't seem right, trust that. People will offer all kinds of advice, but do your own research and trust what you think is best for your child. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  
  
  

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• spacepotatoes member

  August 2014

  pistolpackinmomma said:

  Typically (we should be working on this now) we would go to the May 15 BMB and give our advice in one post there. At least the Jan 12 board did that for the Jan 13 board. In a month or so when everyone had gotten their BFPs for the month us when someone should go start it and then we all comment with our advice. I think that's how it went.

  
  This doesn't always seem to go over well. Nov 14 had a fit about it and I remember one poster from May 13 who got flamed here, too. The consensus there seemed to be that they should be allowed to figure it out for themselves and get the advice from STM on their own boards. I think it's a nice gesture but can see both sides there.

  

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• pistolpackinmomma member

  August 2014

  spacepotatoes said:

  
  

  pistolpackinmomma said:

  
  

  Typically (we should be working on this now) we would go to the May 15 BMB and give our advice in one post there. At least the Jan 12 board did that for the Jan 13 board. In a month or so when everyone had gotten their BFPs for the month us when someone should go start it and then we all comment with our advice. I think that's how it went.

  
  

  
  
  
  This doesn't always seem to go over well. Nov 14 had a fit about it and I remember one poster from May 13 who got flamed here, too. The consensus there seemed to be that they should be allowed to figure it out for themselves and get the advice from STM on their own boards. I think it's a nice gesture but can see both sides there.
  
  Huh. I missed that! Everyone seemed to like it on DS1's board!

  
  

   
  

    

  
  

  Congrats to my GP Sister from another mister Bruinsbabe!!

  
  

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• apinkpelican member

  August 2014

  Hmmm I can see both sides I guess. I just think about myself and those first few weeks and think it would have been nice for a recent FTM to have dropped into the board to say 'hey I was just there 3 months ago and it gets better'!

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• gutsysneakers member

  August 2014

  Personally, I wasn't upset when someone posted on our board. As a FTM, I thought it was a super sweet gesture.
  
  Maybe we shouldn't give advice like "you don't need the ergo insert, just use a blanket", but I think some of the emotional parts of being a Mom would be nice to hear.

  
  

  
  

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• spinsoffresonance member

  August 2014

  Be prepared for nothing to be the way you thought it would be and to do all the things you thought you would never do!

  GBCB!!! Regs, lurkers and newbies we are leaving TheBump. Come join us at the new place ****/board/50/14

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• caycelee member

  August 2014

  I would say to put off any unnecessary visitors for the first few weeks. Let everyone in the family visit in the hospital while people are tending to you and helping with the baby...it was so overwhelming having people visit the first few weeks when we were still trying to figure out the whole parenting thing. Especially when you are hosting more than getting help from these visitors!
  

  
  

  

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