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Husband asked for DNA test

jgrudierjgrudier member
in October 2014 Moms
My husband and I conceived our daughter in the middle of January. We were on vacation then. We purposely tried to get pregnant and it didn't take much trying at all. Someone that knows his side of the family has started claiming they are my daughters father. I'm at a loss. Everyone is looking at me like it could possibly be true. I love my husband and have never cheated on him. I went through with the DNA test. I can't believe this is happening. I don't know how to react. Anyone else going through something similar? I need some kind words. to know I'm not alone.
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  • Sockgnome78Sockgnome78 member
    Sorry you are having to go through tgis. I have no experience with this. I would take it one day at a time. I would also suggest some couples counseling for both of you.
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  • jgrudierjgrudier member
    I have never cheated on my husband.
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  • jgrudierjgrudier member
    Of course there's nothing to worry about. It's just hard on me emotionally to be going through this.
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  • jgrudierjgrudier member
    I'm not sure what MUD stands for.
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  • jgrudierjgrudier member
    Thanks for commenting.
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  • Emerald27Emerald27 member
    If this isn't MUD, I'm really sorry you're going through this. So hard to feel like those you love don't trust you. Thankfully you'll have proof soon. Not proof that you didn't cheat, but that this baby is your husband's.

    Who is this person claiming to be baby's father? What motive could he have for something like that? Weird...
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  • jgrudierjgrudier member
    I'm not sure why anyone would think I am making something like this up. Please do not say rude things to me. I came here for some support from other pregnant women.
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  • onelilrooonelilroo member
    WOW
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  • jlz32185jlz32185 member
    edited August 2014
    @kfitzguerra‌ you beat me to it. I was just about to post that same GIF! Lol

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  • BreandMikeweddingBreandMikewedding member
    Who is this random person who claims to be your baby's father and why does your husband believe him? I'm sorry this is happening to you and your husband. If I was in his shoes I would probably want a dna test too just so there was no doubt in my mind.
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  • atravelleratraveller member
    If this is true, I'm sorry you're dealing with it and I agree with @jalara - you need to sort some serous trust issues out with your husband if some random person can come in and say you cheated and its not his baby and he believes it. I think couseling is a big must - you two are bringing a baby into the world - you need to be able to trust in each other.

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  • pushgal84pushgal84 member
    FamousEa said:
    FamousEa said:
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    You can get a DNA test done while pregnant, they take a sample of the amniotic fluid
    Ah yes, because who doesn't love an unnecessary & invasive test to prove you're right? I say MUD too. FWIW and if it's not MUD, I'd go tell H to suck it for believing the guy and seek counseling to work through the trust issues.
    I know that's an invasive test, I was just saying that it is possible to get a DNA test done since it was mentioned that you can't test while pregnant.
    Sorry if that came off as snarky towards you! Not my intention at all. All the snark was directed at the OP ;)

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  • archi35archi35 member
    ...da fuq? but thanks for the Sunday laughs OP!  And if this IS real you need a new group of friends and family.

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  • onelilrooonelilroo member
    edited August 2014
    You can get a DNA test from mom's blood any time after the 10th week, since some of baby's DNA is in mom's blood. They just need mom's blood and mom's DNA from a mouth swab, then they take out the mom's from the baby's and what's left is dad's. So, you need a sample from the supposed father also. But yes it can be done before birth, without invasive testing, but it is horribly expensive.
    (I know this because a friend very recently had an issue with not knowing who daddy was, and I helped her look into it)
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  • JessAnnJJessAnnJ member
    If this is true, I'm really sorry you are dealing with this.

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  • onelilrooonelilroo member
    Yeah me either. . I'm never in the in crowd!
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    I secretly enjoy these MUD posts because the snark flowth.
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  • BLColemanBLColeman member
    I would be seriously pissed my husband believed it, and tell his family friends to shove it. I would also get the test just to get proof this guy is insane. I would also suggest pressing either harassment or slander charges. - just my advice
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  • MsMacualMsMacual member
    jgrudier said:
    Of course there's nothing to worry about. It's just hard on me emotionally to be going through this.
    Hugs.  My dh for whatever reason brings it up from time to time- it's his paranoid thing and I've communicated to him that it is super hurtful that he keeps bringing it up b/c, like you, I know that both of our kids are his.  I've offered multiple times to get a test done so he can have the peace of mind and he's never gone through with it.  I know how hard it is to hear someone question something that you know to be true.  My advice is to talk with your husband and decide how you want to move forward- you have nothing to hide so getting the test done will put his mind at ease.  I'd also ignore the family members who are trying to stir things up- they sound like they need to get a life and butt out of yours.
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  • Emerald27Emerald27 member
    I seem to remember a boy at the highschool I went to suing (or rather his family) a girl who claimed to have been raped by him at a party and to have become pregnant.

    It was a huge scandal at first. But then it turned out that she didn't attend the party she claimed to have been raped at, and he didn't either (was out of town with his family on vacation). AND she wasn't pregnant... It was a really strange situation...everyone wants to believe the victim no matter what (and with good reason), but HE was the victim...she seemed to have some sort of personal issue with this boy and thought that starting a scandal like that was a good idea? :-??

    He changed schools and I'm not sure whether he won the case, but I did hear that he took her to court.


    So even if you're not a public figure, you can still sue someone for slander, etc.
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  • hermanavelasquezhermanavelasquez member
    I am so sorry that you are going through this, I dont think you are making this up, no one wants to be exposed with this kind of issues, so why lying about it??

    I agree that you may need marriage counseling, but also getting the test is your way of proving that you are right. That your husband has doubt doesnt mean you have confidence issues as a couple, this is a normal fear of men during their partner's pregnancy, and a person claiming to be the father just triggered that fear out. If he asked you for the test is because deep inside he trusts that is his child, otherwise he would just assume that is not his child without proving nothing.
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  • dorothyoredorothyore member
    I think this is a question of trust. But since like you said,you never cheated on him eventhough it might not be easy to go through this, you might want to reduce a third party influence on your home later or from now. Hugs !!!
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  • emmojessemmojess member
    @kfitzguerra‌ thanks!! I just learned how to add a signature so I'm pretty impressed with myself ;) Not very tech savvy but I'm getting there. And I agree with @vrj0522‌, not normal concerns of a father-to-be. If you're taking the steps to starting a family, these suspicions must be worked out or they will fester. I personally wouldn't have considered starting a family with someone who had these trust issues. But good luck.
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  • SaragoeswestSaragoeswest member
    Every time @emmojess posts I want to love tit just for her siggy.
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  • CynthiaVReyCynthiaVRey member
    I didn't even know you could do a DNA test with amniotic fluid is that safe? Anyway good luck to you this has to be very stressful but I'd be talking to a counsler I some sort and be so pissed about such a rumor hope it all works out keep us posted on who the father is
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  • applebottomgenesapplebottomgenes member
    What is the point of MUD posts? To prove people are compassionate? There is enough real life drama with pregnancies.
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  • emmojessemmojess member
    Thanks for the siggy love @Saragoeswest‌ !!
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