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1st Birthday Help?

erinkay85erinkay85 member
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Ok, my little guys 1st birthday will be December 21st.. I know, it's a couple months away.

My in laws live out of state and we would like to see them for the holidays and also to celebrate ds's birthday.

In the past my MIL has thrown a surprise Bridal Shower and then another surprise Baby Shower for me, which I really appreciate, but it means we always end up with tons of gifts (some we didn't even ask/register for). Which makes traveling back home pretty difficult and then we have had to mail back some large packages.

I also feel like every time we are out to visit, it's for a party of some sort (we had our ds baptized in March out there as well) and people give us gifts.

I'd like to plan and have a 1st birthday party for my ds... But I want to request No Gifts, and then if people would like, I would want to suggest a book for his library or a contribution to his college fund that his grandparents set up for him.

So, how do I say that without being ungrateful or tacky?
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  • angelashlyangelashly member
    Ditto the pps


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  • ggatlantaggatlanta member
    You don't.

    If you don't want the gifts take them to Goodwill.

    (You still have to send thank-you notes in the above scenario.)
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  • SomersIslesSomersIsles member
    I don't even like the idea of saying no gifts. Granted your child is only turning a year old and probably doesn't even know he is getting gifts... but it's a birthday party for a child... having no gifts is like having no cake. And they aren't gifts for you, they're for him so dictating what others do seems extra out of place.

    So if receiving gifts is going to bother you that much then you shouldn't even have a party.

    Whenever someone tries to tell me what to give at someone's party... I take pleasure in doing the opposite. I kid.... Kinda....
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  • angelashlyangelashly member
    Why have a party at all?


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  • bensmommy518bensmommy518 member
    edited August 2014
    Either dont have a party or expect to get gifts.  If people ask what to get you can tell them books then but not unless they ask you.  If you dont want the gifts do what PP mentioned and donate them to a place where they will be used. 




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