My mom just doesn't get it....child warning

morganlmw · August 2014

My mother has never kept it a secret that I was an unplanned pregnancy. My sister was 7 when I was born and "it ruined their whole plan". Don't get me wrong I had a great childhood and my parents are way better than most.
Lately my mom, that I am super close to, is upsetting me. She is angry at me for being open about our issues with ttc and doesn't know why we told anyone.
She also doesn't understand why we need ****child warning****

A second baby. Why can't one be enough....here is why: what happens when I am older and my husband is elderly. ..what happens if one day we divorce...or even just become bat shit crazy!?!?! I don't want my daughter to go through that alone. She needs someone who can always relate to her.

Anywho. ..so mom says to me...oh good you got your period...wtf!?!? No...I told her it's good my cycle is related on the metformin. She says...oh but you can't do it on your own????

WHAT!?!?!

UGH I'm so frustrated

curve31 · August 2014

There is nothing wrong with being open about this or any other troubles we have in our lives. How awful does it make us feel when we look at someone who has a "perfect' life? Wouldn't it be helpful and selfless to share our problems so others don't feel so messed up and alone? When someone hits rock bottom with whatever issue they have, say they commit suicide, the first thing we think is "if only they would have shared with me, I would have been there for them. I had no idea." Let's all be there for others by sharing our troubles and understanding other's.

TTCBabyJ · August 2014

I'm sorry you have to deal with this from your mom. It is really insensitive, you don't have to justify why you want to have another child. Ok mom I know I came out of your uterus but please get out of mine!

BunnyBerry · August 2014

So sorry about that. My mom is also annoyed if I tell anyone anything about our TTC. I was hurt that when I couldn't go to church the Sunday morning before TTC-related surgery, she didn't have it announced that I was having surgery to ask for prayers. I just felt like, you're so offended about telling people that you won't even ask without any details for prayers on my behalf?

It must hurt even more that your mom doesn't seem to understand your desire for a second, if she's always made it clear that a second child "ruined her plan." Jheesh, why can't moms step back and have a little perspective on how their opinions affect us??

catlover790 · August 2014

I'm so sorry for your mom's hurtful comments! It shouldn't matter to her how many children you want to have, and even if she has an opinion on it, she should keep her mouth shut about it! If it were me I would probably not tell her as many details about TTC as I don't like opening up to people who are going to be mean on purpose! hugs!

morganlmw · August 2014

Thanks ladies. I've been home from work far too many days and at too many family functions. When I get discouraged the best thing for me is to throw myself into my job...come on Monday

adejde · August 2014

I know sometimes we need to talk to someone about all this, and I'm sorry you can't talk to your mother. And one of the worst parts about talking about it is that most people who haven't went through it will have so many ignorant opinions.

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