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Shall I vent? Well of course!

CariLS8CariLS8 member
edited August 2014 in November 2014 Moms
Never mind lol! Not worth venting about!

Thank you ladies for not sugar coating and letting me know I'm in the wrong. Sometimes that's all that is needed.

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  • CariLS8CariLS8 member
    FhSTAR81 said:

    If you don't talk to them, why are you inviting them?

    I said I don't talk to my dad, but I still talk to others from my dad's side. But I also want to send out birth announcements to them. Like my aunt for example.. I don't talk to her as much, but I still want her to have a birth announcement. I know she would want one of those at least.
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    zengal said:

    It sure would be nice if grandma could help gather the addresses, and it might be really frustrating that she is turning it back onto you, but I think the whole thing with asking is that a person has the option to say no. Still, I understand your wanting to vent. Hopefully she comes around.

    It was just easiest to ask her because she's that person in the family that has all that info lol. Also, when we were talking like a week before she was like well if you need anything let me know so i can help. And went into wanting to be in the babies life as much as she can. Another reason it threw me off a little.
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  • CariLS8CariLS8 member
    FhSTAR81 said:

    CariLS8 said:

    FhSTAR81 said:

    If you don't talk to them, why are you inviting them?

    I said I don't talk to my dad, but I still talk to others from my dad's side. But I also want to send out birth announcements to them. Like my aunt for example.. I don't talk to her as much, but I still want her to have a birth announcement. I know she would want one of those at least.
    Oh okay. Just was curious :)
    Lol yeah. I have a relationship with everyone still and everyone knows about the baby so I feel like of they don't get an invite of birth announcement they will feel like I don't care or left out. And I don't want that at all.
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  • mamatohnemamatohne member
    Imo, there is nothing wrong with asking people for their address on fb. If you are worried what they will think of this, you are probably not close enough to them to be inviting them to your shower anyway.
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  • CariLS8CariLS8 member
    edited August 2014
    tarynleann said:

    Imo, there is nothing wrong with asking people for their address on fb. If you are worried what they will think of this, you are probably not close enough to them to be inviting them to your shower anyway.

    In my post I said I'm not friends with a lot of them on Facebook.. I've found out a lot of them don't have Facebook's and those are who I need the addresses from. Also, like I said in my post, it's not just for invites. It's for birth announcements too. I don't see what's wrong with wanting to send out birth announcements to everyone whether I talk to them everyday or not. I visit them all when I go there and they are my family. And if you read the end of my post you would see she asked me to send them the info on the baby shower, not get their addresses (which I have gotten the ones I am friends with)
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  • mamatohnemamatohne member
    I don't understand why this would be a job for someone else to do for you, no matter what kind of invites/ announcements you are sending. Any time someone has thrown me a shower I get the addresses for them. Not have someone else do it.
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    tarynleann said:

    I don't understand why this would be a job for someone else to do for you, no matter what kind of invites/ announcements you are sending. Any time someone has thrown me a shower I get the addresses for them. Not have someone else do it.

    I'm getting the addresses for the host of my shower, but being so far away from my family I need a little help for those not on social networking. I have some in my address book, but I also need to make sure those are still correct. I've never really needed to mail anything before lol.
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    FirstBabyDoyle said:

    Okay. I was staying out of this, because I didn't have anything constructive to add. Lady you've lost your damn mind. There were plenty of kind ladies offering advice and all you've done here is insult them by constantly acting like their advise isn't good enough. Additionally, we can read sweetheart. Please for the love of fuck do NOT suggest these ladies keep referring back to the damn post. I gaurantee you they read it.

    wooahhh chillax lol. I've taken into account the advice I've been given. Thank you lol.
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  • CariLS8CariLS8 member
    Emnob28 said:


    tarynleann said:

    I don't understand why this would be a job for someone else to do for you, no matter what kind of invites/ announcements you are sending. Any time someone has thrown me a shower I get the addresses for them. Not have someone else do it.

    I agree. You asked for help, they said no which they have every right to do. You come off sounding entitled and that you actually expect your grandmother to do these things for you - not that you're asking for a favor. I don't think this is something worth venting about. 

    You're right. I should probably not worry about it and just send out to what I have. I guess her saying hey I'm here to help I sort of expected the help when I asked. That's wrong of me, you're completely right. That's really all I was asking lol. I needed some people to put me in my place haha.

    Thank you!! :D

    My biggest worry is when we go visit with the baby people saying well I never got an announcement but they all did. I don't want that lol.
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  • mamatohnemamatohne member
    Oh a DD awesome! Don't ask for advice if you don't want it!
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    So annoying.
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    ETA: gif fixing. I've only just now sort of figured it out.
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  • missnacholovermissnacholover member
    kyliedaniellexx said:
    I read the OP before the DD and I don't understand how or why social media is an issue at all. If they have it, send a message. If not, pick up the damn phone and call them? lol
    That makes way, way too much sense.
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  • JamieK1882JamieK1882 member
    kyliedaniellexx said:
    I read the OP before the DD and I don't understand how or why social media is an issue at all. If they have it, send a message. If not, pick up the damn phone and call them? lol

    What's DD? I'm confused...


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  • jlove253jlove253 member
    edited August 2014
    JamieK1882 said:


    kyliedaniellexx said:

    I read the OP before the DD and I don't understand how or why social media is an issue at all. If they have it, send a message. If not, pick up the damn phone and call them? lol




    What's DD? I'm confused...
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    Dirty delete. She didn't want anyone else to call her out/comment negatively, so she deleted the OP.
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    FirstBabyDoyle said:

    @kyliedaniellexx‌ how in the hell did you do that? I'm calling black magic. RetrousQuoteous prosterious spell?

    Ha! And yes, how did you do that?!
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    edited August 2014
    Never mind. I missed @kyliedaniellexx‌'s QFP.

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  • mommymeg143mommymeg143 member
    kyliedaniellexx said:


    CariLS8 
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    FirstBabyDoyle said:

    Okay ladies. I am getting BEYOND frustrated. Since I moved pretty far away I realize my family is not going to come to my baby shower, but I still want to send them invitations, because they are my family. I'm having no problem with my mom's side of the family. She is helping me get everyone's addresses. My dads side of the family is different..

    I no longer really talk to him because of previous issues, but I still talk to my grandma and others from his side. I talked to her the other day and asked hey, can you help me get some addresses from people so I can send them baby shower invitations. Her first reaction was, why can't you just message them on Facebook.. whaaat? Lol. I was like I really don't want to make it seem like I'm asking for gifts. I want it to be a little more formal. And she continued with saying well I'm friends with them all on Facebook so that would be easier, but I'll do what I can. Whaaaat, again? Lol. I'm thinking why can't you send a group message and forward their addresses to me so you don't really have to do ANYTHING. 

    I'm just getting really fed up. I'm trying so hard for them to not feel left out and I just need some help getting addresses and she's making it seem so hard. I also mentioned wanting them so I can send out birth announcements after she is born. 

    She expects me to come visit all of them with the baby and use our time, our money, etc. But she can't help me get some addresses so I can send out invitations and announcements to them?? 

    Am I in the wrong for getting really frustrated over this situation? My mom was like well you asked so just get what you can and if she doesn't help any, well not to worry about it. 

    EDIT: She
    wanted me to message them on Facebook the baby shower info, not for their addresses. I'm not friends with most of them on Facebook.


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