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Stressed mommy

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I come on this forum often but I don't really post. I have just been feeling really stressed out since going back to work. I have a demanding job and when fall comes I tend to work 12 hour days. I already feel overwhelmed and work is not that bad right now. My husband works half the week from home to watch the baby. We are fortunate he has a flexible work schedule but he does not get much done when he has the baby and it's tag in tag out all week. When I come home he goes back to work until late. Sometimes I just stay up so I can spend an hour of time with him but then I'm just dead tired. Bottom line is I'm worried that as I have to work longer I'm just going to lose it. On top of all that I feel like I'm failing because due to not getting paid for most of maturnity leave we used the savings and we are behind on some bills. We can't seem to just get ahead. Not even sure how it snowballed. I know things could be worse. We both have good stable jobs, but it's frustrating to work your butt off and still feel like your struggling. Is it to much to ask for to have a good work life balance? Does it really exist anymore? Lately I feel over worked, under paid, and under appreciated. Maybe it's just time for a new job! RANT over! Thanks for your time! Again I never post but I do enjoy reading everything!
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  • aghammeaghamme member
    I feel you. I went through some serious emotions when I went back to work. I was shocked how much my brain turned on again once I went back. Now I have trouble sleeping at night because I'm thinking about everything I have to do. That combined with my baby waking 4 times a night still, I'm exhausted. I've been back a month or so and I do have to say that it gets easier (or you get better at handling it all). I find that stopping to take some deep breaths helps when I get overwhelmed. I hope it starts getting better!
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  • esav2012esav2012 member
    Thanks I really appreciate it! It is exhausting! Im sure it will all work out. Feels good to vent sometimes!
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  • JenW1029JenW1029 member

    Vent any time you need to. It's so hard sometimes. I also have a demanding job... it can get overwhelming. My husband and I were just talking about finding a balance as well. My best recommendation is after the baby goes down for the 1st time during the night is to spend the next 30mins together, no phones, no t.v., etc. Just talk to one another. After the 30mins of quality time if you have to get back to work then at least you've been able to spend some time together. It's helped with us... just a suggestion.

    Also - the situation that we are all in is temporary - daycare costs will eventually be lowered as baby gets older, you'll rebuild your savings, jobs can change, etc. You're doing a great job, and the best thing to do is talk to your hubby.

    Best of luck - it will all work out.   

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  • theluckiest9theluckiest9 member
    I feel ya. I'm lucky I love my job but even with enjoying it I still get tired/overwhelmed. I'm in healthcare so my workload varies. Sometimes I have 8 patients to see in a day and others I have 14. It makes getting home at a consistent time hard. I also can't put off doing work until the next day bc all of my patients HAVE to be seen daily and paperwork and documentation HAS to be done within a certain timeframe. It's definitely a juggling act.

    My H is so supportive and makes me feel like it's ok that I go to bed every night at 8 and barely spend time with him. I'm just so tired that if I don't get to bed early it's even worse. We try to at least chat and cuddle at night before bed so we get a little quality time together. This got rambly, but I get it. I keep telling myself that it'll get easier.

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  • jazzyexpojazzyexpo member
    We're in the same boat. I finally was able to get caught up on our bills and then the alternator and water pump went on our only car. So we got behind again and then the battery went this week. DH has been working his butt off. He worked all week, plus the weekend and the new work week starts tomorrow. He won't be off til next weekend. And we still won't be caught up. It is stressful and this week has been bad for me also. Take it one day at a time. Things always work out and are never as bad as they seem :)
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  • maganonymousmaganonymous member
    I also understand where you are coming from! You are not alone. We had 3 tires blow out, our basement flood, and an ice dam on our roof all within a month before DD was born. That took a large chunk out of the money we had saved for my maternity leave, so we are just now recovering and beginning to start saving money again. My transmission is going out and that's not cheap. DH took a job out of state so I only (usually) get to see him on the weekend...except for this weekend we he had to stay there and work. So it's just me, my 7yo stepdaughter, and DD all week! And I work long hours sometimes as well. I totally get it.

    Honestly, and I know this totally sucks to hear, but time will help. You will get a routine and get used to it. The first couple of weeks after DH moved out of town REALLLLY sucked and I was so tired and cried almost every day. But now that he has been gone for a month and a half, I've got an order in which I do things around the house, and I know what time I need to get each kid up in order to get out of the house on time...etc. It will work out for you! It just really sucks at first! Good luck!!!
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  • amybug13amybug13 member
    I can totally relate. DH works two jobs and we never see each other. My job is demanding and stressful. I'm thankful to have a lot of alone time with the LO but I definitely get overwhelmed with finances and juggling all the household duties by myself.
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  • esav2012esav2012 member
    Thanks ladies!
    I'm hoping for a better week this week. Good news is being this busy makes the week fly by. It's funny I feel the most stressed during down time. I'm the kind of person who can't shut there mind down. I also worry about possible stuff that has not happened yet. It's like worry worry worry and then bam it's payday. Then I think those two weeks weren't so bad
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