I don't even know what to think about his.

maggie515 · August 2014

I ordered a BBT thermometer on amazon and look what came with it! Wtf, what if I just wanted a cool old school thermometer and wasn't trying get knocked up? Lame. I wonder how many people get offended by this little surprise in their package... I get that they are trying to be nice, but it's.. Just... So...

MiraK03 · August 2014

Wow... I would email the seller and let them know that some people would find that offensive. I'm sure they meant well but that can be a little much for some women who have had losses.

Prpljade · August 2014

That just creeped me out in a way I've never been creeped out before.

Jags8 · August 2014

What the fuck.

jt305 · August 2014

bibliothecary said:

What. The actual. FUCK. I'm too drunk for this shit.

Yep, me too. What the fuck--that is the strangest, most inappropriate thing to receive in the mail.

theholmanherd · August 2014

I can't even with this. To quote my latest drunk youtube video watching experience, "on a scale of one to even, I just can't". Send that crap back or at least give them a bad review for it.

danascullyx · August 2014

I would send it back so fast, and I am especially glad I had the large glass of wine at dinner. Did you all know that at CPK they have two wine pour options? I said give me all the wine. But seriously, how fucked up.

cakeisgood · August 2014

Yuk

MrsC0617 · August 2014

Wow, that is incredibly nervy. I am so sorry you had to deal with that shit.

Bee1112 · August 2014

Yuck. I would send that right the fuck back with an explanation of why that could be offensive.

FlamingoBull · August 2014

People really suck sometimes. It may have been innocent intentions, but it really is not appropriate!

3houlagirl · August 2014

Ugh. Negative feedback time.

sndravt · August 2014

I disagree with a lot of the responses here. I would throw it away. Then I would write a respectful and eloquent email explaining why that is inappropriate and the reasons why.

I doubt they were being intentionally disrespectful. It seems like they thought it was a nice thing to do. It's offensive yes. But I think that just because the general consensus on The Bump is that the term totally sucks doesn't mean everyone does. It's not universally offensive.

Depending on their response, I would then leave feedback. If they are like "lolz no it's fun!" then leave a bad review. If they seem responsive and say they will stop sending that, leave positive feedback.

Eta autocorrect is the devil

catmagick · August 2014

Back in the day when I ordered some Pre-Seed from Amazon I got the same packet of shit. I'm thinking it was probably the same seller. Dillholes.

sndravt · August 2014

@catmagick‌ Just because something can be understood to be not offensive to someone else doesn't mean I don't think it's offensive.

Believe it or not, I don't believe everyone has to share the same views as me. It's up to each person to decide what they find offensive.

Like I said, I find it offensive because I understand how it can make others feel. I'm grateful to not have experienced a loss. I don't use the term or like it. But I'm not going to dictate what other people find offensive. I'm not the ruler of the world.

Remylove1011 · August 2014

That is totally messed up! And the poem on it...I just can't even!

sndravt · August 2014

@GhostMonkey‌ I don't know what the "r" word is. And if you meant the "n" word of course that's offensive. Seriously you can't compare "baby dust" with the n word. Come on. That's a ridiculous comparison.

A term like "baby dust" hasn't been around for centuries and used as a racial slur to a group of oppressed people. To even compare the 2 is extremely ignorant.

This is not even worth arguing about. I feel like you're looking to start drama where there isn't any. I never said I liked the word or use it. I don't. But other websites do and if you feel that strongly... why don't you use your time to go on over there and try to stop them instead of trying to argue with someone who already agrees it's offensive.

Eta: andplusalso I truly feel like you misunderstood what I was trying to say. Or perhaps I didn't explain myself clearly. This is really a dumb conversation between you and I right now.

SpartanChick88 · August 2014

This is one of those things that if it could possibly be offensive to just one person, it shouldn't be done. Whether or not everyone shares in the being offended, that's not something that should be included in a package containing what is basically a medical device. Maybe you have some sort of condition for which you need to monitor your temps and it has nothing to do with getting pregnant? This person made a very bad assumption and I agree that they need to be advised before they make someone sad.

sndravt · August 2014

SpartanChick88 said:
This is one of those things that if it could possibly be offensive to just one person, it shouldn't be done. Whether or not everyone shares in the being offended, that's not something that should be included in a package containing what is basically a medical device. Maybe you have some sort of condition for which you need to monitor your temps and it has nothing to do with getting pregnant? This person made a very bad assumption and I agree that they need to be advised before they make someone sad.

I agree with you 100%. My point is/was that it's not like it's a universally accepted offensive term. I never realized it was offensive until I learned about it on the bump. I think it's entirely possible that the shippers of this package are not members of the bump and therefore have not had the privilege of learning how and why it is offensive from you wonderful ladies.

Remylove1011 · August 2014

@bibliothecary actually lol'd. I appreciate some good math humor now and then.

sndravt · August 2014

@GhostMonkey‌ I think being told to "shut up" is immature and uncalled for.

I stand by everything I said. My original point was the OP should explain to the shipper how it is offensive, give them the opportunity to agree to stop sending it and if they chose to ignore you and be an asshole, leave negative feedback.

Not exactly sure how suggesting that the OP educate the shipper of how this is offensive is wrong. I think getting all huffy and pissy and just expecting everyone in the world ever to know all of the things you do is stupid. Give them the opportunity to learn first.

Jags8 · August 2014

sndravt said:

@GhostMonkey‌ I don't know what the "r" word is. And if you meant the "n" word of course that's offensive. Seriously you can't compare "baby dust" with the n word. Come on. That's a ridiculous comparison. A term like "baby dust" hasn't been around for centuries and used as a racial slur to a group of oppressed people. To even compare the 2 is extremely ignorant. This is not even worth arguing about. I feel like you're looking to start drama where there isn't any. I never said I liked the word or use it. I don't. But other websites do and if you feel that strongly... why don't you use your time to go on over there and try to stop them instead of trying to argue with someone who already agrees it's offensive. Eta: andplusalso I truly feel like you misunderstood what I was trying to say. Or perhaps I didn't explain myself clearly. This is really a dumb conversation between you and I right now.

TTCBabyJ · August 2014

Lurker from 3T:
I got the same thing when I ordered my Pregnitude, it must be the same seller. My DH jokingly said are you supposed to sprinkle it on me or yourself. I did write a review saying I definitely could have done without the "baby dust."

Jags8 · August 2014

NellyBluth said:

Dafuq is Pregnitude?

Supplements

menta84 · August 2014

@sndravt‌ I agree with you 100%. I never knew the term "baby dust" was offensive until I learned the reason when I joined The Bump. I never used the term anyway but I've heard people use it with good intentions. Some women don't find it offensive and I do respect that. I would have done the same thing, throw the thing away and send an email letting the seller know why it could be offensive to some women. I've suffered a loss myself and personally speaking, it does not bother me if I hear someone using the term, it may be their way of sending good wishes. I don't like the term but that doesn't mean others have to think like me.

Edit: it posted before I was done

Twinkie0612 · August 2014

GhostMonkey said:

NellyBluth said:

Dafuq is Pregnitude?

Folic acid and myo inositol with a horrible name.

Horrible name and terribly overpriced. You get 60 2g packets for about $50. If you buy myo inositol by itself you can get about 450g for the same price.

Empireceo · August 2014

Even if you personally don't find it offensive (and you're wrong, because it is) it is still creepy as fuck and patronizing. Bottom line, I wouldn't expect that kind of bullshit when I was ordering a thermometer from Amazon, whether it was for TTC or not.

sndravt · August 2014

Maybe part of the MISUNDERSTANDING here is what the word "offensive" means to you. I mean... like I said over and over again I never said it was an okay thing to say. I said that there are people in the world who do not find it offensive, and if you feel the need email them and educate them on why it is offensive.

The definition of offensive: causing someone to feel deeply hurt, upset, or angry.

So how people think they can dictate what other people find offensive is beyond me. If someone doesn't find something offensive TO THEM then it's not offensive TO THEM. The best you can do is explain to the seller why it's offensive and hope they hear you. If they don't, then don't use their business anymore.

And also - thanks @ghostmonkey for PM'ing me with the link to the "r" word. Of course I know the word and don't use it. I just couldn't figure out what you were talking about. There are a billion words that start with "r". My brain hurts today.

sndravt · August 2014

@cjchio‌ I wasn't talking to you.

This is fucking stupid. If ya'll think you get to dictate what other people think maybe you should stop being so fucking close minded. This is the dumbest conversation I've ever had in my life. I'm done. And I might just be done with the bump because I can't stand half of you who think yours is the only one that matters. Grow the fuck up.

If you're that sensitive about the phrase, either inform people or get off the internet. Say whatever you want, I'm not coming back in this thread because it's a waste of my time.

OP these idiots are right. You should go burn the business down that sent that. Clearly they're plotting to hurt everyone that's ever suffered a loss.

Jags8 · August 2014

sndravt said:
@cjchio‌ I wasn't talking to you.

This is fucking stupid. If ya'll think you get to dictate what other people think maybe you should stop being so fucking close minded. This is the dumbest conversation I've ever had in my life. I'm done. And I might just be done with the bump because I can't stand half of you who think yours is the only one that matters. Grow the fuck up.

If you're that sensitive about the phrase, either inform people or get off the internet. Say whatever you want, I'm not coming back in this thread because it's a waste of my time.

OP these idiots are right. You should go burn the business down that sent that. Clearly they're plotting to hurt everyone that's ever suffered a loss.

Noooo!!!! Don't gooooo!!!

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Prpljade · August 2014

Wow, I cannot believe what I have just read here. @sndravt, I'm sorry you're feeling attacked. Your original comment makes sense in that making an attempt to allow the Amazon seller to right their wrong and maybe educate them on something they were not yet aware of before flying off the handle and leaving a negative review of their business. I get that.

Arguing whether or not something is offensive if a waste of time. but attacking each other in a forum where we come to support one another is also really defeating of the purpose of this board.

When as members and posters here we disagree, continuing to push and push until someone feels attacked really?! is that necessary?

@GhostMonkey, just because something SHOULD be doesn't mean it is. Yes you may be correct, this term should be universally recognized as offensive. But attacking people isn't the way to get the message across. Calmly explaining why the "r" word or "baby dust" is offensive and hurtful and educating people will further the understanding rather than allowing emotions to dictate the reaction and flying off the handle. In my experience that just makes me look at the person as if they are oversensitive and have no personal coping skills.

(Personally I'm offended when people use the term "Shut up" i find it rude and condescending, but that's only MY feelings about it)

Everyone in this thread has agreed that the term is offensive and it is not used here on TB, but as it states in the Newbie Blog and many other area's and posts I've read, that it may be used elsewhere. Doesn't make it right, but there's not point it getting all worked up and ending up hating each other HERE because of it.

Prpljade · August 2014

NellyBluth said:

Prpljade said:

Arguing whether or not something is offensive if a waste of time. but attacking each other in a forum where we come to support one another is also really defeating of the purpose of this board.
When as members and posters here we disagree, continuing to push and push until someone feels attacked really?! is that necessary?

@GhostMonkey, just because something SHOULD be doesn't mean it is. Yes you may be correct, this term should be universally recognized as offensive. But attacking people isn't the way to get the message across. Calmly explaining why the "r" word or "baby dust" is offensive and hurtful and educating people will further the understanding rather than allowing emotions to dictate the reaction and flying off the handle. In my experience that just makes me look at the person as if they are oversensitive and have no personal coping skills.
(Personally I'm offended when people use the term "Shut up" i find it rude and condescending, but that's only MY feelings about it)

Obviously you are not a golfer.

arguing =/= attacking

Calling each othe assholes and idiots isn't called for. End of story.

READY4TWO · August 2014

ColeRose said:

jefa621 said:

It wouldn't have bothered me. I'd roll my eyes and throw that shit away. I'm not offended by the term personally, but I absolutely agree and understand why it is offensive to a lot of people. Therefore, the term shouldn't be used, or sent in the fucking mail by ignoramuses.

This ^

While I do think @sndravt overracted towards the end of this thread, I *think* I understand what she was trying to say. I interpretrated it as she understands why the term is offensive, but that a lot of people are ignorant on the subject. Therefore, the term baby dust is not a universally known offensive term, like the r-word or n-word. I think this is probably correct. I am willing to bet a lot of people out there don't realize why this term is offensive unless someone explains it to them.

I'm in camp let the seller know how offensive the term can be, along with assuming the buyer is TTC.

I just want to put this out there again in case people missed out. Very well put ColeRose.

cakeisgood · August 2014

Prpljade said:

NellyBluth said:

Prpljade said:

Arguing whether or not something is offensive if a waste of time. but attacking each other in a forum where we come to support one another is also really defeating of the purpose of this board.
When as members and posters here we disagree, continuing to push and push until someone feels attacked really?! is that necessary?

@GhostMonkey, just because something SHOULD be doesn't mean it is. Yes you may be correct, this term should be universally recognized as offensive. But attacking people isn't the way to get the message across. Calmly explaining why the "r" word or "baby dust" is offensive and hurtful and educating people will further the understanding rather than allowing emotions to dictate the reaction and flying off the handle. In my experience that just makes me look at the person as if they are oversensitive and have no personal coping skills.
(Personally I'm offended when people use the term "Shut up" i find it rude and condescending, but that's only MY feelings about it)

Obviously you are not a golfer.

arguing =/= attacking

Calling each othe assholes and idiots isn't called for. End of story.

Calling people/objects/myself/anything an idiot or an asshole is one of my most favourite things to do.

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