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New to this forum and to pregnancy loss

GeekhousewifeGeekhousewife member
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Hi guys. New to this forum, but need some help or at least someone to talk to about this. I found out I was pregnant on 4/20, then 6 days later I lost my baby. :( Then to top it all off three days later, my sister found out she was pregnant. I now know the meaning of bittersweet...I'm so happy for her, but at the same time her pregnancy milestones remind me of where I would be. I spent her gender reveal party mostly in the bathroom in tears. I don't know what to do. I was told recently that it's been 5 months now, it's time I got over it. I don't know how to react to that other than with anger! I don't know what exactly I'm looking for here....Just I guess somewhere to vent...or something I have no idea. Thanks for listening...
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Re: New to this forum and to pregnancy loss

  • Puglife83Puglife83 member

    I'm sorry for your loss @geekhousewife. I lost my first pregnancy last month and have been devastated myself. I always feel like I have no one to talk to about it. I don't even talk about it with my husband anymore because he has just shown little emotion and I feel like he just wants to move past it and thinks I should too.

    I know you are happy for your sister, but its ok to feel that pain and get upset at her milestones. I am going through the same thing with family and friends who post nothing but baby baby baby all day on facebook. I actually told myself today maybe its time to disable facebook forawhile, for my own sanity.

    Also let me say that its easy for someone who has never experienced a pregnancy loss to tell you to " get over it". A few people have said to me things like "well it wasn't meant to be" or "everything happens for a reason". I want to just scream at them.

    I am new to this board also. If you ever feel like you need someone to talk to, message me. I would be happy to listen.

    Me: 31 DH:28

    BFP: July 6 2014. Ectopic discovered at 7 weeks. TTC since February 2014





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  • cherylanddougcherylanddoug member
    ((Hugs)) I'm sorry for your loss. I have nothing to add, @Puglife83‌ said it so well.
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  • kerbear135kerbear135 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. Do not let anyone put a time limit on your grief- everyone grieves differently. I can't imagine how hard it is to see your sister going through her pregnancy when your loss is so fresh.


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    BFP #1 12/02/11, M/C 12/08/11
    BFP #2 04/06/12, DD born 12/20/12
    BFP #3 06/09/14, M/C 06/15/14
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  • fawn92fawn92 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. :( I feel for you and can relate (I miscarried a week ago-both my sister in law and my best friend are pregnant, both due one week apart from what was to be my due date) It makes complete sense that you are still grieving. Not only because it is a great loss that takes time to heal, but it's also extremely painful to experience your own loss alongside a pregnant someone with whom you are close to. Everyday reminders. My heart goes out to you. I hope you find comfort here. I definitely have. Sending warm thoughts your way. <3
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