Awkward feeling...

Stephaniegiboney · August 2014

So my sister/best friend want to throw me a baby shower, which is very sweet. But in creating a guest list I just...don't have that many people to invite. I have just a few close friends and feel weird inviting people I consider work friends or acquaintances. Is it awkward to have a shower with 10 or less people in attendance? (Most of which do not know each other!) I feel a little like a loser.

uncharted01 · August 2014

I don't think it would be awkward at all! I'm all for only having people at the shower that will be involved in your baby's life. It will be a nice, small, intimate shower and I think that's so special! No reason to feel like a loser

Stephaniegiboney · August 2014

I think I'm a little guilty of comparing to the other showers I've been to lately.

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

I think that sounds like a perfect number! Intimate affairs are just as fun as big parties, plus you'll get to chat with your guests more.

Stephaniegiboney · August 2014

That's including mom/sister/grandma. I don't have a lot of extended family between my parents. Thanks ya'll I feel a little better. I was just worried about it not meeting others' expectations too I think.

Stephaniegiboney · August 2014

@flutterbuggie‌ I am in that same situation as well! My husband's sister is expecting a baby in September and their mom is throwing us a joint shower this weekend. It is going to be mostly people I don't know, family friends and such. I'll be simultaneously meeting and receiving gifts from strangers tomorrow. I feel bad but she insisted.

sparklingwhit · August 2014

I think showers are awkward in general. Personally, I would prefer a smaller one because I feel like I don't have to run around to everyone and have an intense conversation for the 5 minutes that I can allocate to them. I had a shower last weekend and my grandma and aunt (who threw the party) invited EVERY FREAKING WOMAN in our family or who lived in the neighborhood or who might have coughed in my general direction at one point in my childhood. It was super awkward and I hated it....even though I appreciate it....

I think 10 people would have been perfect

dh2613 · August 2014

Agree with PP, do not feel bad at all. I am having less than 10 people at my shower and most of them are friends from work. I moved up here 3 years ago and most of my long time friends and my family live a plane ride away. I think I will prefer this over my wedding shower were my MIL invited everyone from DH's side of the family and I had only met like half of them. It felt awkward and wrong to be meeting them for the first time when they were dropping off presents.

AnnieRoo13 · August 2014

I love small showers! They are so much more personal and fun IMO. Don't be concerned about having a small shower, all that matters is that the people attending are there to celebrate you and your LO- they won't notice the number of people there.

One piece of advice though- I made my shower list and thought it was complete, but then realized as the days went on that I had forgotten people. I think I ended up adding 4 or 5 people that I hadn't thought of initially. I recommend giving yourself a couple of days to process before you give the list to your sister.

jmichlik · August 2014

My mom is throwing a shower which will have 12 people at it in total, including me. Two are my friends, one is the mother of one of the friends and the others are family. I think small showers are better, I didn't want something huge with dozens of people. I'm not a huge fan of being the center of attention for that long and it will be nice to spend some quality time with the group there, especially since I don't see some of them very frequently. I'm sure yours will be lovely

ejpetey · August 2014

@kyliedaniellexx won't all your porn star friends be there? )

I like smaller intimate gatherings where you get to talk to everyone. I think I'd feel more awkward with a bunch of people I didn't know all that well watching me open presents for an hour!

NunyaBennis · August 2014

I hear ya. I tried to decline my sister's offer to host a shower, but she insisted. I replied that I guess I should go make some friends, then... My extended family is pretty spread out and I really don't have a lot of close friends, either. But, as we began making a list I started to get a little more excited... There might be a dozen or so people over for a casual afternoon full of food. Niiiiiiice.

CariLS8 · August 2014

Not bad at all! All my family is across the country. I will literally only know like 4 people lol. My SO's mother really wanted to do something for me for that reason. So I really appreciate it. Granted I won't know anybody at my shower

lol. But I'm sure it will still be a good time.

alysonmh · August 2014

I'm in the same boat as far as not knowing many people. In the end I just decided not to have one. I didn't want to deal with such a small shower and the possibility of people not showing up and there only being 3 guests. I also just feel awkward with having that much attention on me and baby showers feel gift grabby to me which is also uncomfortable.

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