Hey everyone! I'm not really new here I've been lurking for a while and was pretty active in other areas in my first trimester
I'm a mom of 2 (a three year old who's not bio but I've been mommy since he was 6 months old and a 5 week old)
For financial reasons me and the boys are staying with my grandma while my so is working on getting our new house "baby ready". We've been here since ds2 was 5 days old and from day one my grandmother has been pushing her parenting style on me. It's really starting to bug me.
Some of the things that especially get me:
we have been cosleeping with Ds1 from day one (I feel this is especially important with him since he has obvious abandon issues) and now the 3 of us all Co sleep (I have a bed attachment thing for the baby and me and ds1 sleep in the bed) and not only dose she insist that I should put ds1 to sleep by laying him down by himself but also consistently asks when I'm going to start letting the baby cry it out so I can get some sleep.
I wear the baby most of the day because he likes to be close to me and it's much easier running after a toddler when i have 2 hands to do so. She insists that I'm going to "spoil him" and he will always expect to be held constanly.
When iI do have the baby down for floor time so the 2 kids can "play together" if he starts getting a little fussy I pick him up and calm him down so he doesn't get too upset she tells me that crying is "good for his lungs"
And probably the one that gets me the most is feeding them. I feed my kids on demand. If ds2 is hungry, rooting, sucking on his fingers, he gets fed. I don't watch the clock and make him wait. And with ds2 if he wants something to eat, I'll give him a few choices and he'll get to eat. She insists that not only do I need to put my 5week old on a schedule, but that my 3year old shouldn't be eating so much. That my 3 year old should only be fed at "meal times".
I know she means we'll but I feel like I'm doing what's best for my boys and i don't know how to tell her to but out with out hurting her feelings. Any suggestions?
Sorry for the long post..... I guess I needed to Rant a bit too lol
Supermom to my beautiful boys Troy Marshall and Griffin Xander
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But like I said it's really starting to bug me. And she tends to be overly sensitive, like we spent a week in a motel closer to the house so we could spend more time with daddy, we didn't end up getting back to my grandma's house until almost 10 and all I heard for the next week and a half was how she was so worried and was crying. I love her but I am almost at my breaking point with these comments! Lol
It seems like she's projecting the martyrdom of motherhood on you (maybe this was her own experience) and simply can't understand how you can be so happy w you current situ.
And completely off topic but apparently so built a surprise play house for ds1in the yard ... I can't wait to see his face lol