risky or not

cassidyjstevens · August 2014

My boyfriend goes to mexico every year with his mom usually around Christmas but she wants him to go Dec 1-7. Is that risky or not? im due dec 25

CandEChicago · August 2014

Depends...what part of Mexico? We just got back from there in March and the blood banks won't let him donate do to a recent outbreak in the cancun area at the time.

ColeyCannoli · August 2014

How far away is it from where you live? Could he make it back if you went into labor early? I don't think it's too risky for him to go for health reasons but I'm guessing you don't want him to miss the birth. I'd say ask him to skip it this year.

cassidyjstevens · August 2014

Were In north carolina

JRod13 · August 2014

I wouldn't want him to go that close to the due date

nesenotes · August 2014

It's almost a month from when you are due so I would say let him go. Unless you have BP issues or GD or something high risk the. I vote no.

CandEChicago · August 2014

Does his mom have (medical) issues with traveling alone? If so is there some one in the family that can travel with her? Do you have a support system if you go into labor early?

krystrist2014 · August 2014

I cant answer the poll because Im not sure how youre defining risky.... Or whether you already don't want him to go or think it will be okay for him to go.

I would say that if you are uncomfortable with him going, then you should talk to him about it. I personally wouldn't be a fan of my SO going anytime in the 3rd trimester... maybe cuz I am just selfish and want him around and plus I feel like when Im in my 9th month I might need him to help me with things around the house etc (honestly I am not sure because Im a FTM... but you know... just in case lol).

But if you feel okay with it and your pregnancy is going well and as planned, then I would say, sure.

leoandethansmom · August 2014

I'd say if you have a normal pregnancy it would probably be safe for him to go as far as your due date is concerned. Most FTMs go full term, I know not all do but it is common. If it's other risks your concerned about then I'm not too sure how to answer.

path75 · August 2014

Not quite sure but if he does decide to go get refundable or transferable ticket or even two one way tickets in case he has to leave early. That way if something happens between now and then he can change the date. Its a little close for me but I am a ftm and would want him closer.

CandEChicago · August 2014

path75 said:
Not quite sure but if he does decide to go get refundable or transferable ticket or even two one way tickets in case he has to leave early. That way if something happens between now and then he can change the date. Its a little close for me but I am a ftm and would want him closer.

Maybe even trip insurance?

Eora3 · August 2014

I don't know that it would be a huge risk for him missing the birth, but international travel always carries the risk of illness. Plus depending on where in Mexico he is traveling, kidnapping and gang violence can be a safety concern.

Also, that close to baby's arrival, I would think you guys would want to be spending some time preparing for the new arrival and just spending time together as a couple. Why not take a week vacation to yourselves and enjoy your child-free time?

allonsyalonso · August 2014

Well, I would be wary about my husband going on a trip that close to my due date. However, this is something he does with his mom every year and it may be important to him to spend this time with her. Is it going to be a problem next year with him going so close to the baby's birthday?

As worrisome as it may be for you, I think you should be okay with him going. It would kind of suck if you convinced him that he shouldn't go and then the baby didn't come until January. Just a thought.

Beevol · August 2014

I would skip it this year because it's for pleasure and his job is supporting you and the baby. If you ended up in labor or even just needing to go to the hospital or something (G-d forbid) you would resent him for it and if he missed the birth, you would both be upset.

If it were for work, that would be a different story, but missing one vacation isn't going to hurt anything. I'm guessing that his mom (if she lives out of town) will come in to see the baby after the birth so it's not like this is the one time in the year he'll see her.

rshamos · August 2014

I would ask him to skip it. It's close to your due date and these are the last moments that you have together before LO arrives. I would want him to be with me and enjoying our last "just us" time.

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