Having more children.

deanna1313 · July 2014

I am constantly worrying that I am not going to want more children because of this PPD. I know I shouldn't even be thinking about this right now, but I keep worrying about it.
Did anyone have the same feelings and overcome them once they recovered from PPD?

Anyone going through the same worries right now?

LaurenS865 · July 2014

Oh I'm totally there right now, especially since baby girl was premature.

janaeeide · July 2014

I am there right now too! For a long time my husband and I have said we want tons of kids!! But since ppd I am terrified to have any more. I feel like I couldn't go through this again. And I'm afraid I would take out my ppd on the other kids. My husband seems sad whenever I mention not wanting more. It's hard

ltmacs · July 2014

I was really happy after my first baby, and depressed after my second baby. Depressed during my first pregnancy and happy during my second pregnancy.
Focus on getting yourself better and taking care of your current baby and try not to think about a second baby right now (wait 6 months or a year). You will get better, and you will be able to think more clearly about it when you feel like yourself.

totallyshocked · July 2014

4 years ago I didn't want anything to do with DD. Now I am 2 months pregnant with #2. They have me on a small amount of preventative Zoloft and I am eating certain foods that combat anxiety and depression as well as exercising and just trying to relax. If you had the desire to have more children before then once you get thru this road bump( which is all it is and you will get thru).... life will go back to what you thought it would be.

poohbear033 · July 2014

I felt that way too. I was adament that I was not having any more children, I felt that way for a few months. Now at 6m PP I just started warming up to the idea, but not right away. Maybe a year from now we might think about it.

poohbear033 · July 2014

deanna1313 said:

@poohbear033‌ how are you feeling? I'm curious to how PPD is as it runs it's course. Meds? I am had a really bad night last night and today has been bad. My anxiety is really out of control, too. I am so anxious about everything and I don't know why. It really scares me!

I am feeling much better now that I am on meds. I take wellbutrin 150mg. There are good days and bad days. I felt like I couldn't take care of myself, I wasn't eating well and had trouble breastfeeding, all I wanted to do was sleep. Formula feeding helped and as soon as DD slept longer, I did better. I had two previous losses and a traumatic delivery, so I feel that also played a part in my PPD. Feel free to PM if you want to talk more.

deanna1313 · July 2014

Thanks everyone. I feel the same way @janaeeide‌. I always wanted 4 kids(figured the number might shrink after one. Lol) and now I am a different person. It's not that I don't know how to take care of him or am shocked by the workload. It's really my fear if PPD that is doing it. It is awful!

@Itmacs thanks. It makes sense not to think about it, but I can't seem to control it. Hopefully I will seem more like myself soon because I really don't even know the person that I am right now.

deanna1313 · July 2014

Thanks @totallyshocked‌. I keep trying to tell myself I will get past this. It's so hard to convince myself.
Nice to hear that this PPD won't change me completely and my original thoughts and feelings should come back.

ltmacs · July 2014

The one year thing I did with myself because my husband did not want a second kid, because he was stressed. After a year he changed his mind. Anyway, maybe it's not healthy advice, you should talk about about what your feeling and not suppress.

deanna1313 · July 2014

@Itmacs it's good advice. I know I shouldn't be worrying about it because it isn't important right now. It is just scary at how much I have changed. My baby is 6 weeks old. There are more important thjngs to worry about.

deanna1313 · July 2014

@poohbear033‌ how are you feeling? I'm curious to how PPD is as it runs it's course. Meds?

I am had a really bad night last night and today has been bad. My anxiety is really out of control, too. I am so anxious about everything and I don't know why. It really scares me!

flcl · July 2014

MrsMuq said:

H and I always wanted 2 kids, but we are seriously rethinking it. The strain on our relationship, due in part to PPD, and the risk of going it again, I don't feel like are worth risking my relationship with MH again.

As of now, 2 years after I had DS, I can say we are not in a place where we want a second child at the moment.

This. Before DS, H and I planned on having 2 kids. Growing up as an only, I never wanted to have an only. I know DS is still really young but H and I have discussed being done. The stress of raising a child/children and dealing with depression has been a huge strain on our relationship and we're not sure if adding #2 into the mix is worth the risk.

homebird · August 2014

I mean, I was anxious about the postpartum period when I got pregnant with my 2nd child. But I made sure I had a good support time lined up. I had a psychiatrist to monitor my medications, and a counselor/therapist that I could go talk to at any time. A few days after the baby was born I observed that I was getting the same symptoms of anxiety that I had experienced with my first child, so I immediately called my psych and they adjusted my medications. I had a few days of moderate anxiety, but nothing as severe as the first time, and it was nice to know that it was going to be under control.

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