Trouble TTC

Here for a little support (Loss mentioned)

edited August 2014 in Trouble TTC
Hi all,

I've hesitated to join the conversation but have taken a lot of comfort from reading your comments and posts to one another.  I'm 29.  I've been married for four years.  We started trying to conceive two and a half years ago.  For awhile we didn't have any luck getting pregnant, I began to think we needed to see a specialist.  We saw a specialist last June and both DH and I were tested for many things.  The results for me came back normal (no foreseeable issues) and the results for him came back (below average but not out of the range of conception).  Just when we were considering our next options -- we got pregnant!  It was on a European vacation!  We were elated.  However, after 8 weeks, we miscarried.  It's been a year and I'm devastated.  No more pregnancies.  I don't know how to proceed from here -- IUI? Clomid? IVF (expensive!)?  I think the hardest thing is how discouraged I feel.  My poor DH doesn't know how to help (and I think he's just as upset as I am).  

I'm reaching out for guidance or support if you have it.  I've decided I want to be a part of this loving community.  

Re: Here for a little support (Loss mentioned)

  • Welcome! Joining this community was one of the best decisions I've made in my IF journey. My best guess is that your RE will try a couple of IUIs which are really no big deal. Do you have an appt to see your RE?
    Me: 34 | He: 40
    TTC since 08/2012
    DX: DOR




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  • I saw my RE last summer.  I've been so scared to make another appointment.  Thanks for the welcome.  I don't have many people to talk to about this stuff.
  • So sorry for your loss. I don't have much advice as I'm going back and forth with whether to do IVF or not also. All I can say is that this board is super helpful, I joined about a month ago and the ladies on here are super supportive and helpful. If you have insurance coverage it wouldn't hurt to try a few IUIs, at least it's a start, and you'll feel like your doing something to get closer to your BFP.


    TTC #1

    Me: AMA, DH: MFI

    Official DX - MFI due to Hemochromatosis

    IVF #1 Nov. 2014 - ER 11/10 (10R 6M 6F) - ET 11/13 

    3DT of 3 embies - no frosties - CP = BFFN!!!!

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  • Hey there, sorry about your loss but welcome to the board.  You should definitely make a new appointment with your RE to get you on a treatment plan.  It sounds like your diagnosis is similar t mine (unexplained) although I have never been pregnant.  My RE has me doing IUI right now which is not that expensive (compared to IVF) and pretty non-intrusive.

    GL on getting a treatment plan!

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    Me: 31| DH: 36
    TTC #1 Since 07/2010
    DX: Unexplained Infertility
    TX: 
    IUI #1 on 7/3/14 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (44 million sperm, 1 dominant follie) = BFN
    IUI #2: on 7/28/14 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (23 million sperm, 2 dominant follies) = BFN

    IUI #3 on 8/22/2014 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (53 million sperm, 2 dominant follies)= BFP MMC @ 7weeks


  • Welcome! I'd definitely recommend making another appointment with your RE. They are going to be the most likely to help you get pregnant. And they will be able to assess everything & suggest the next steps that might be right for you. Good luck!

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    Me: (30) HSG/Bloodwork/Ultrasound: All looks good

    DH: (30): MFI

     IUIs #1-4 = BFN


    IVF #1 December January


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  • Welcome, I am glad you found us. I am so sorry for your loss. It must be so frustrating not to experience another pregnancy after all this time. No wonder you are worried about what treatments the doctor will recommend! But I think your RE will have some good advice and there are steps to take before IVF. :) 
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    Me (29), DH (30) TTC actively 54 55+ cycles | All BFNs
    MFI (low everything) | Endo Stage 1 & Stenotic Cervix (treated) | PCO
    Married - July 2008 | Started TTC - Jan 2009RE Visit #1 - Mar 2014 
    IUI #1 ICI #1 - June | IUI #1.1 Laparoscopy - Aug
    IUIs #1.2, 2, 3 - Sept, Oct, Nov (Letrozole) - BFNs 
    IUI #4 - Dec (Bravelle) | IUI #5 - Dec/Jan (Bravelle) - 5 follies + TI - BFNs
    IUI #5.1 - Jan (Bravelle) Cancelled 
    Planning to start IVF in March!
    ***All Welcome***
  • Welcome to the group. I am sorry to hear about your loss. You have definitely come to the right place. I don't know how I would have gotten through what I have so far without this group. I second everyone's recommendations to go back to the RE and figure out what the next step should be. GL!

    Me: 32  DH: 33  Married: March 2004

    July 2006: started TTC
    2008: HSG (normal), couple rounds of clomid through gyno
    2008 - 2010: dragging my feet out of fear and procrastination
    October 2010: first consultation with RE, dx PCOS and fibroids (DH slightly low count/motility)
    Oct. 2010 - Dec. 2012:  In DENIAL! avoided the issue because I was scared of surgery
    January 2013: returned to RE, fibroids grew significantly
    February 2013: second HSG, fibroids pushed on tubes which blocked them somewhat
    March 2013: MRI to determine what type of surgery may be necessary

    July 29, 2013: fibroids (5) removed via robotic laparascopy
    August 2013 - Nov 2013 : benched due to recent surgery

    IUI #1, Dec. 24, 2013, BFN 
    IUI #2, Jan. 25, 2014, BFN
    IUI #3, Feb. 25, 2014  BFN
    IUI #4 canceled due to lack of response to letrozole
    IUI #4.1 April 28, 2014, BFN

    May 16, 2014: wtf consult, start prepping for IVF in June and add injects for one last IUI in the meantime
    IUI #5 started letrozole and bravelle but canceled after HSG led to new diagnosis

    May 21, 2014: third HSG, tubes blocked, one at the beginning, one hydrosalpinx??
    June 11, 2014: consult, approved to move on to IVF because the hydro is not completely blocked therefore allowing fluid to move through slowly rather than backwards
    IVF #1 August 8, 2014 - 3dt of 2 embryos, BFN
    September 17, 2014 - 4th HSG, the right tube is very patent (open!!) dye went straight through this time. Weird!
    October 2, 2014 - started metformin treatment
    November 14, 2014 - blood work, brought A1C down from 5.8 to 5.5

    November 26, 2014 - RE finally back from vaca and reviewed my chart, no more IVFs for rest of calendar year
    December 1, 2014 - Right after Thanksgiving, I called a new clinic and got in right away! Plan for IVF
    December 17, 2014 - ER! 29 retrieved (!!), 16 mature, all 16 fertilized (ICSI)

    IVF #2 December 20, 2014 - 3dt of 3 embryos, BFN

    We are done with treatment unsuccessfully. :(


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  • Welcome to 3T. Sorry that you had to join us but you have come to the right place for advice and support. I echo PPs advice to go back to the RE. It's always scary to start the process, but having a good treatment plan makes all the difference in the world. Good luck!

    Me (29) DH (37)

    Married 7/11

    Actively TTC 3/12

    DX: PCOS

    Current treatment: Break from IUIs until after the holidays

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  • I'm sorry for your loss. I also lost my baby at about 9 weeks.  It's devastating. 

    But there is light at the end of the tunnel. I will echo what everyone else has said and go to an RE. They will be in the best position to determine what's right for you. 

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    January & February: 2 IUIs, BFN
    March:  IUI, ectopic, 2 surgeries with 1 tube removed
    May - July: 3 more IUIs, all BFN, on to IVF
    August: IVF#1, BFN
    September:  FET#1, BFP!!!
    It's a girl!!!
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  • Welcome! I'm sorry for your loss. I would suggest seeing an RE to get a plan. Good luck!


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    Me: 33, DH: 35
    Married 10/13, TTC since 7/13
    Dx: MFI
    IUI #1 7/14: BFN
    IUI #2 8/14: BFN
    IVF #1 11/14: 20R17M15F
    Transferred 1 three day embryo! 7 frosties!
    BFP!  EDD 7/27/15



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  • Welcome to the board.  This is a great place for support, though I hope that your stay is short and sweet. :)

    I am so sorry for your loss.  As others have said, the best plan would be to go back to your RE to figure out your next steps.
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    ME: 34, Atypical PCOS (lean, no O without meds) + unexplained; DH: 33, mildly low motility
    09/2012: Start TTC after stopping NuvaRing.  No cycles seemed to occur.
    01/2013 - 05/2013: Tried Provera to "jumpstart" cycles. No luck.
    12/2013-
    01/2014: Clomid 50mg - no big follies, stepped to 100mg; One mature follie, Ovidrel (HCG trigger), IUI #1 completed - BFN
    02/2014: Clomid 100mg;
    One mature follie, Ovidrel trigger, IUI #2 completed, Crinone - BFN
    03/2014: Clomid 100mg -
    no big follies on 1st round, 2nd round prescribed; One mature follie, Ovidrel, IUI #3 completed, Crinone - BFN
    04/2014-05/2014: Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel HG to prep for IUI #4 switched to TI, Crinone - BFN
    05/2014-06/2014: Letrozole 5mg; one mature follie,
    Ovidrel, IUI #4.1 completed, Crinone - BFN
    07/2014-08/2014: Letrozole 5mg; one mature follie,
    Ovidrel, IUI #5 completed, Crinone - BFN
    09/2014-10/2014: IVF Prep - Insurance requires IUI #6;
    Letrozole 5mg - no big follies 1st round, 2nd round prescribed; IUI #6, Crinone - BFN
    11/2014: "Break" - Letrozole 5mg to cycle before prepping for IVF - successfully O'ed, but BFN
    12/2014: Extending 'break' one more Letrozole-only TI cycle for mental health break - BFN
    01/2015-
    02/2015: Prep for IVF - BCP then Gonal-F, Ganirelex, Novarel trigger;  ER scheduled 2/11!
    http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/4cf919
    PAIF/SAIF Welcome.
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  • Thank you all for welcoming me and for encouraging me.  

    I made an appointment with my RE this morning... something I have been avoiding for months.  I think a plan will help.


  • Welcome to 3T!  I'm so sorry about your loss.  I'm glad you made the RE appointment. I was really nervous to make my first appointment, but it was honestly a relief to have a plan in place, and the RE was very encouraging which made me feel less discouraged.  Good luck with your appointment! 

    Me (29): Hashimoto's, CD3/7DPO bloodwork & ultrasound normal, HSG & SHG(x2) all clear
    DH (29): SA Perfect
    TTC Since Jan '13, First RE Appt Jan '14
    DX: Unspecified Ovarian Dysfunction, Long Cycles
    May '13 BFP, C/P 4w3d
    Apr '14:  50mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI #1=BFP,  Natural M/C 6.5wks
    Aug '14: 50mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI #2=BFN
    Oct '14: 100mg clomid + ovidrel + IUI#3 =BFN
    Nov 14: 100mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI#4=slow response, bad lining, cancelled
    FU with RE, more bloodwork: Anticardiolipin +
    Dec 14: 5mg Letrozole+baby aspirin +ovidrel + B2B IUI#4.1=BFFN
    Jan '15: 5mg Letrozole +baby aspirin + ovidrel +B2B IUI #5= BFP!! 
    Beta #1 210  Beta #2 546


  • Welcome! I'm glad you made the RE appointment and I hope it will be useful in helping you move forward with TTC. I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how painful that is. Definitely hope you will stick around and become part of this community!
    **Formerly EastBayBride508**

    Me 34   Him 33

    Me - Left salpingo-oophorectomy at 19 due to large cyst/torsion  and 2 large uterine fibroids found at age 30
    Him - Borderline low sperm count (correcting through Fertility Blend supplement)

    Married 8/20/2011
    TTC #1 since Jan 2013
    First appointment with RE 10/2013.  
    April 2014 - Clomid 100mg CD3-7.  HCG shot CD10 IUI #1 done on 4/12/14 (CD12) ....BFN
    May 2014 - Break cycle to repeat saline sonogram and re-group.  Travel to Kauai 5/7-5/12 (Yay!!)
    June 2014 - Clomid 150mg CD4-8.  HCG shot CD14.  IUI#2 done on 6/9 and 6/10 (CD15-16) w/ Prometrium suppositories during TWW .... BFN
    July 2014 - Clomid 150mg CD3-7.  Ultrasound CD12 - 4 mature follies! HCG trigger shot CD12 AM.  IUI#3 on CD13 w/ Prometrium suppositories during TWW ....BFN
    July 2014 - Repeat ultrasound done to measure size of fibroid - 8x9cm (the size of a grapefruit!) Surgery referral made.
    August 2014 - MRI done which revealed 2 fibroids: a 13x15cm fibroid as well as an 8x7cm one.  Super freak out mode over surgery plan.  OB-GYN/surgeon said surgery would most likely have to be a laparotomy (open abdominal surgery)
    August 2014 - After a 2nd opinion, plan to take Lupron x 2 months to shrink fibroids then laparoscopic/robotic myomectomy.  Surgery date is set for Nov 21st!  
    November 2014 - Robotic myomectomy done (2 large fibroids removed, mild endo found).  Benched x 3 months

    PAIF/SAIF welcome
  • So sorry for your loss. Welcome to our awesome board!
    Love 2010 | Marriage 2011 | TTC #1 since 2012
    PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
  • Welcome to the board!

    I'm so sorry for your loss.

    I would also recommend seeing a RE again and see what they recommend. They will help to navigate options and which will work best for you. I am still early in treatment and am nervous about everything but once I started it felt like we are making steps to getting there at least! Good luck!
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    Me: 26 DH: 27
    TTC #1 Since Aug. 2013
    Cycle 1: O CD 25=bfn
    Cycle 2: O CD 48=bfn
    Cycle 3: Anovulatory/Provera =120 days!
    Cycle 4: Anovulatory/Prometrium=127 days! RE consult 6/16
    Me: Anov/poss. pcos?  HSG=normal/SA= Normal 
    July/Aug. 2014= Femara+trigger+TI=BFP!!
    Beta #1@ 16dpo=626!! Beta #2=1510
    Ultrasound @ 5w6d=heartbeat at 110!
    Ultrasound @ 6w6d =heartbeat at 131!


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  • I'm so sorry for your loss, but welcome to the board.
    Fucking bump!!!!
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